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If court-appointed professionals in your custody case are biased, learn what to do in Lovefraud’s upcoming webinar

Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding best interest attorneys, custody evaluators and parenting coordinators
Presented by Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant
Wed., Sept. 5, 8-9 pm ET • $25

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In this video, Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant, gives a preview of her upcoming webinar. If you’re in a custody battle with a sociopath, and the judge is thinking about appointing a best interest attorney (guardian ad litem), custody evaluator or parenting coordinator, you need this information.

Upcoming webinar: Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding court-appointed professionals

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Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding best interest attorneys, custody evaluators and parenting coordinators
Presented by Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant
Wed., Sept. 5, 8-9 pm ET • $25

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If you’re divorcing a sociopath, and you have children with this person, the chances are good that you’ll end up in a custody battle.

It’s not that your soon-to-be-ex really cares about the children and wants to be in their lives. In reality, the sociopath wants to punish you, and the most painful way to do that is through the children.

Tuesday Aug. 14: Forgiving yourself for falling for the sociopath

Lovefraud is proud and honored to be hosting a webinar with Travis Vining next week:

Self-Forgiveness: Understanding and letting go of guilt
Tuesday, August 14, 2018 • 8-9 pm ET • $25
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Travis will be addressing an important issue that I know many of us struggle with — overcoming our anger at ourselves for our involvement with the sociopath.

I know that when I finally realized that everything I believed about my disordered ex-husband was a lie, and that my entire marriage had been nothing but a financial scam, the person I was most angry with was myself.

Video: Why we mistakenly feel guilty when we’re abused by a sociopath

When Travis Vining was a young man, his sociopathic father murdered a man — one of four people he killed — and then manipulated Travis into helping him destroy evidence. For years after that, Travis experienced guilt and emotional pain that manifested as physical illnesses.

But that is in the past. Travis has overcome the experience and now helps others recover from their entanglements with sociopaths. In his upcoming webinar he’ll explain how to do it:

Lovefraud Webinar — Self-forgiveness: Understanding and letting go of guilt

Upcoming Lovefraud CE Webinar:

Self-forgiveness: Understanding and letting go of guilt
Presented by Travis Vining
Tuesday, August 14 • 8-9 pm ET • $25
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Isn’t it strange? Sociopaths lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, deceive and exploit, all without a shred of remorse. And we, the targets of the abuse, are overwhelmed with guilt.

We feel guilty because we fell for their charm. We feel guilty that we didn’t escape soon enough. And when we do escape, we feel guilty about hurting the sociopaths’ feelings — even though they don’t have any.

Mary Ann Glynn on why a support group helps recovery from a sociopath

Upcoming Lovefraud CE Webinar:

Facilitating Professionally Run Support Groups for Partners in Exploitative Relationships
Friday, June 22, 2018 • 12 noon – 2 pm ET
2 CE credits available for therapists • $49

Confusion — everyone who is romantically involved with a sociopath experiences massive amount of confusion. Support groups offer clarity and validation — that’s why they’re so helpful for recovery.

Strategies to help recover from a break-up — at least in normal relationships

In a recent scientific paper, researchers tested three cognitive strategies to help people get over a breakup with a romantic partner. They studied 24 heartbroken people, who had been in the relationship an average of 2.5 years. All were upset, and most still loved their exes.

The recovery strategies:

  1. Negatively reappraise their ex — highlighting the ex’s negative traits.
  2. Love reappraisal — accepting feelings of love without judgment.
  3. Distraction — think about positive things unrelated to the ex.

Here were the results, according to the study authors:

  1. Negative reappraisal decreased love feelings but made participants feel unpleasant.

After dating a sociopath, the advice you need for your recovery

The most telling sign that you’ve been dating a sociopath is confusion. This person claimed to love you, but after the initial whirlwind romance, treated you like dirt. Your partner would be absolutely brutal to you, and the next day, maybe even the next hour, act like nothing ever happened. He or she seemed to be proud of you, and then did nothing but criticize you.

You finally figured out that something was wrong — he or she was disordered — and you ended the involvement. And then you started to second-guess yourself — what if you made a mistake?

Parental Alienation: What you need to know and how to fight back

Battling Parental Alienation: What to do when your ex convinces your children to hate you
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
8-9 pm ET • $25

Susan Shofer always had a great relationship with her two children. But as she was going through her divorce, one of her children started to hate her — for no reason at all.

At first, Susan was totally confused. “My child didn’t want to be with me,” she says. “And the reasons were miniscule.” But after doing research, she realized that her kids were being subjected to parental alienation.

Battling Parental Alienation – a new Lovefraud CE webinar, coming May 30

  • “Your daddy (or mommy) doesn’t love you.”
  • “I don’t have any money because your mother (or father) took it all.”
  • “If you want to go see your mother (or father), you must not love me.”

I can’t tell you how many times heartbroken mothers and fathers have called me, distressed about the lies that their former partners were telling the children they shared.

Some disordered parents are so vindictive that they want to do the most hurtful thing they can to their former partners — so they actively try to turn the children they share against the ex.

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