Sociopath making out she is the victim…..

Yes, that’s one of the many tricks sociopaths do – they accuse you of what they are.

Yep – that is what they excel at – switching responsibility to take the spotlight off them. My Mom always told me when someone accuses you of something untrue they are reflecting their own behavior. People naturally view the world through their own perspectives and belief systems — but sociopaths take it to a whole new level — in order to deflect attention, they accuse others of the things they are being blamed for. It takes a strong and determined person to stand up to that sort of character assassination.

I wonder why she is setting out on this campaign now? Did you accuse her publicly of something or cast aspersions on her? That would certainly set her off. She is lashing out at you for a reason. Or – maybe she is just casting a wide net of accusations to avoid being looked at too closely? Perhaps others are on to her and now she is in “fight back” mode? Whatever reason — don’t take it too personally. This is what these people do best — lie, lie more and lie for no reason.

I know it is hard to step back and listen to her rant and point fingers and blame — but believe me – she is only doing herself harm. Smarter people will being to wonder “Doth she protest too much?” Your NOT reacting is the best response. Be above the bad-mouthing. My Mom (or maybe Dad) also said “Never get into a mud slinging fight with a pig. You both get dirty but the pig enjoys it.”

Stay strong!

sharondawn – yep – typical sociopathic behavior. It’s called the smear campaign. Type it into the search box at the top of the page and you’ll see what Lovefraud has written about it

Hi sharondawn –
You say that she is well known in the Mind, Body, Spirit community and from the sound of it, has gained a following – and she is also a disordered person of one of the sociopathic type – so this means that she is acquiring power. To me this rings of a cult leader mentality. When someone sees through a cult or it’s leader, the cult will definitely try to destroy that person any way they can – Body, Mind and Spirit. You were smart to move away and to get therapeutic help. Use all the tools here at Love Fraud and all the books that will support you too. The biggest hurdle you need to jump is to not believe her garbage. Do not look at her sites nor read anything she writes because it is all lies. If your mind thinks about some slander she has used against you – do not entertain it. Throw it out of your mind and remind yourself that she is like a horrible cult leader who tries to capture people’s minds. If something comes up that she said, say to yourself “ that’s a lie!”. We are on your side.
Blessings

Hi sharondawn –
I just realized that you are the one who we were communicating with back in July. So glad to hear from you! I have often wondered how you were doing. I wanted to tell you how I put the idea about the cult leader in connection with the person you described. One of the participants mentioned that a book by Steven Hassan got her free from her abusive relationship. Though the book ( the one I read from her recommendation ) dealt mainly with getting out of a cult and the different issues that are involved, it is easy to see the correlation with an abusive relationship and apply the concepts. So I happened to be reading the book when you posted and I immediately saw how the woman you described definitely matched a cult leader. What I found interesting and which you had actually mentioned previously was that the “victim “ can get a different kind of alter personality ( I’m not sure what the exact term is )but it is different than what he calls “ the authentic self “. And about how to deal with that. So that is another piece of the puzzle when we are struggling to be free of an abuser and an abusive situation. You might find it helpful to check out his books.
Blessings to you

I have seen this.

SG

I finished with my N and went no contact. 6 weeks later I seen her in a bar with a friend of mine and her son. I went out side to smoke and finish my beer and go somewhere else. My friend came out with his drink and started chatting to me about work etc (I was actually relieved she was on a date as she’d leave me alone, and good luck to my so called friend). After about half an hour she came out and started shouting at my friend to go back in the bar. I asked he how could she do something so low as to date a friend she replied Fuck off and stormed off. I left the bar. a week later I was arrested and charged with domestic abuse and threatening behaviour. She has stalked me by following me to bars turning up at my apartment and trying to get me to break my bail conditions. I called the police about this and also her son attacking me, I was arrested for breaking bail and held in the cells overnight. Luckily there was no evidence so I was released. I have had to move and change my number.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 12 months ago by dmnky.

Hi dmnky – what a horrible experience for you to have had to go through. I’m glad that the police detainment did not last any longer than it did, and was over and done with. I think the moral to your story is that when a person ( like you ) has gone No Contact, even the smallest bit of contact after that can be dangerous. Remember to never talk to her again and if you should see her then absolutely leave the situation or place immediately. You are in a particularly vulnerable position due to your bail. Also be sure to block any manner or way that she could contact you. We have your back here!
Blessings