6 steps to recovery from the sociopath (They’re not fast or easy, but the reali

My sister has some characteristics of a narcissistic personality disorder, but not all of these characteristics apply to her. But we have had a strained relationship for years and years, and I finally totally broke off all contact with her. One of the worst things she does is seduce men and then find fault with the guy, and dump him. But then she wants to stay “friends” and so leads him on. She has terrible judgment when it comes to men. For example fairly recently she went on a week long vacation with a new man she met online. She thought he was FINALLY the ONE person she needed. This is old — she finds the ONE a lot. Worse, she accompanied him and several of his closest couple friends, and she and he had not even fad sex yet, but they did, shortly before they left for the vacation. She sent me the sweetest photo of the two of them, and they looked so happy! I felt really good about this, UNTIL when she got home, we were talking on the phone and she said she was starting to feel like taking time out from the relationship. She said, “I know how I get.” I said, “Yes. I know how you get! You are a female Don Juan. You are dangerous to men, and should have nothing to do with men, ever!” I shouted this at her on the phone, and later confirmed via email that I did not withdraw my opinion and that I wanted no more contact with her. That was several months ago, and I feel a lot of relief that we have no more contact. As for her relatioship with me, her only sister: I’m last on her list of people to contact. We had been planning on seeing a video together at her home, which is about 15 minute drive from where I live. (We seldom get together anyway.) We finally set a date and time to see the video, and I went to her home and we were watching it and her phone rang. She answered the phone, and I figured out it was her son. She took the phone into the other room — nothing said to me about, “Sorry I really need to take this call” or anything decent or polite — and stayed on the phone for 15-20 minutes while I put the video on Pause. I was furious. I recognize that her sons treat her the same way she treats me — they almost never call her, or return her calls. They don’t call me or return my calls, either. I honestly don’t love my sister, and I don’t even like her.

Hi Sunnygal, thanks for your note. Of course, I know that. I have instructed my sister never to contact me for any reason whatsoever. I have taken her off my emergency contact lists, and if her name is still on any such lists, I sent her an email if someone should call her about an emergency for me, to simply tell them she is NOT my emergency contact anymore. But I still think about her now and then, like I did when I wrote my post at this thread, and it upsets me somewhat to think about her. So I generally don’t think about her at all.