How to recognize and recover from the sociopaths – narcissists in your life › Forums › Lovefraud Community Forum – General › Charming sociopath lovers in pop culture
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September 8, 2020 at 3:53 pm #63847sept4Participant
Thought it would be fun to have a lighter thread discussing handsome charming sociopath lovers from pop culture!
First example: Prince Hans in Frozen!
From Wikipedia:
According to Hyrum Osmond, one of the supervising animators for Hans, Hans initially appears as a handsome, dashing character. The crew wanted the audience to fall in love with him and the relationship he could have with Anna. Then they’d got to turn him around towards the climax and make it a big shock.
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Using grace and charm, Hans immediately woos the lovesick princess, with Anna almost immediately falling for him due to his wondrous looks and undeniable charisma.
Criticism from the Atlantic:
However, there is something uniquely horrifying about finding out that a person—even a fictional person—who’s won you over is, in fact, rotten to the core. And it’s that much more traumatizing when you’re six or seven years old. Children will, in their lifetimes, necessarily learn that not everyone who looks or seems trustworthy is trustworthy—but Frozen’s big twist is a needlessly upsetting way to teach that lesson.
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Not sure about the criticism there. I think it’s actually good to teach kids that you can’t just blindly trust goodlooking charming people but that you have to study someone’s character before giving them your trust or money. And teach them that sometimes bad people pretend to be good.
The Disney Prince Charming fantasy is pretty damaging for little girls in general. Because it creates an ideal in their mind that makes them easy to manipulate and exploit by bad guys pretending to be that prince.
So I don’t think it’s bad at all if Disney teaches little girls that sometimes Prince Charming is actually a Disney villain in disguise.
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September 8, 2020 at 6:37 pm #63848traumatized41Participant
I think that when we watch things now that we are more aware it is different. We never noticed too much in the past the evilness that is present in the world around us. It can be disturbing when we recognize it now. I think it is part of our journey. Part of our recognition and then subsequent healing.
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September 8, 2020 at 7:20 pm #63850sept4Participant
Yes! Once you study sociopathy/narcissism/bad character etc you see it all around in the world.
Looking back I think it’s actually more surprising that I did NOT get love conned previously! Because these bad apples are all around us unfortunately.
Lesson learned you have to just be really careful about who you trust and who you love. You can’t just blindly trust some handsome charming stranger wooing you. That is a recipe for disaster. Learned the hard way.
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