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Saw this analogy on another forum and I think it’s a good way to look at sociopaths.
Sociopaths are basically evil hackers looking for vulnerabilities in the software and hardware of normal people. They take advantage of these vulnerabilities by hacking into your software and exploiting it as a program extension of their own evil program.
Until you fix these vulnerabilities in your software, you will keep getting hacked and exploited and used as a program extension. Either by the same hacker over and over or by new hackers after you get away from the old hacker. You have to install “patches” in your software to deter and prevent these hackers.
Sadly these vulnerabilities can be normal healthy human features like love, trust and empathy. The evil hackers see these as vulnerabilities by which they can hack into your mind and program it for their own use. So you have to put up safeguards (like education and awareness of evil hackers and a strong sense of self) to defend yourself against targeted attacks by these hackers.
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Hi sept4 –
So true, so true. I had the weirdest experience just the other day that exemplifies this to a certain extent. This guy who was an acquaintance because he was a professional who helped me with my computer ( so it goes with your analogy too ! ), wanted my help with some healing which I have some knowledge about. I, being a total empath and trying to do better with boundaries was all ready to be the helper. But my original reaction was to say “ no “ which I did say, but he wouldn’t take no for an answer, and kept trying to persuade me etc etc. Finally, He did convince me. But the thing is that I really do not have the time or energy to do this, and there were other considerations that did not feel right to me. It was as though my computer was hacked ! But then I was thinking about everybody here at Love Fraud, and my own study and progress, and it was like I suddenly woke up. It came to me about the many power imbalances that were rife in this situation and I was able to email him and to say, “ No”. I feel so much better now. So it is really true how our vulnerabilities can make us susceptible. I sorted out the ones that I have that were triggered, and did learn from this experience. Thanks for your post.
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I just wanted to add that I didn’t just email the guy and say “ no “ in a blunt way. I gave him many ideas for alternate therapies and ideas to assist him and told him that I had information that I could mail him and that I was open to answer questions etc via email. And I got no response. It just shows that if he was actually a gracious person, he would have responded and not just given the silent treatment. So My gut feeling was correct about dealing with him on a more personal level – which was that I knew it would have been a negative situation. I have gone through so much already and have done so much to heal that I really can no longer risk having any involvement with someone that could be detrimental to me. But alas ! He really was an expert with the computer and now I will need to find someone who can help with my computer on the rare occasion that it needs some working on. And all I did was bring in my computer and he created a problem which really had nothing to do with me. But that is how these people are. Thanks for reading my post.
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polestar. Good you went with your guy feeling!!
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Polestar I used to post here Have been away for awhile but am back. Good to see you.
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