Help with trauma healing ❤️‍🩹

Yes I think it’s lingering PTSD and it’s common with abuse and trauma victims.

I have it too still years after my divorce but it’s intermittent. Just kind of trailing where I still do experience it sometimes but gradually less over time.

It sure sounds like seeing your ex triggered some deeply buried emotions — a common symptom of PTSD. Now that these emotions are out in the open, you need to deal with them before they overwhelm you. You may need professional help. There are all sorts of therapies that are very effective dealing with these “flight, fight, freeze” feelings. Cognitive Behavior Therapy has been around a while and is proven to show results in just a few weeks. There are also newer, more controversial procedures like Stellate Ganglion Block, which surgically blocks the area of your brain responsible for this stress, and low-dose, controlled-setting ingestion of MDMA (Ecstasy) to help bring blocked memories and emotions to the fore where a therapist can guide the patient through them. I have known a few PTSD sufferers and know the pain they go through if untreated — dealing with this on your own is probably not going to work. You need to stop the cycle of disturbing thoughts and feelings, reliving the events (flashbacks or nightmares); and the emotional reaction of anger, depression or anxiety. You are very brave for reaching out to this forum. That is a critical first step – acknowledging the problem. I hope you can now find a way to treat it so you can get on with your new, amazing and well-deserved life with a good partner. Blessings.

Hi Harry 1997 –
Yes, what you are experiencing ( from my own experience and learning ) is definitely Trauma that was not completely resolved in the first place. You got into a really good relationship and in a good mental and emotional space, and the trauma was submerged. Your own true self does this unbidden when it knows that something would be too overwhelming for you to handle. So now it has come up and that means that you are ready to deal with it, heal from it and move on from it which you can definitely do. I have had a similar experience, and the trauma appeared in my consciousness years later because it had been submerged. Try to explain this to your current partner so they know what you are going through and can support you through it. It is definitely healable. I recommend the book called “ Cheating in a nutshell “ because they deal with the issue of trauma and the emotions ( even if cheating was not the problem in your previous abusive relationship – though it so often is ! ). This book is so great because it has questions from people who you can identify with and then answers that are so helpful and explain so much of what you are going through. You can get it on ebook. Another helpful book is called “ PTSD – Time to Heal “ by Cathy O’Brian. She went through traumatic mind control and Mark Phillips rescued her and taught her the method in the book. You can also research about her story from her other books on Amazon. I agree with Emilie, that it would be good if you can to get some therapy to help you get through this. Be sure it is from someone who specializes in Trauma.
Blessings

Harry1997 – I know it may not seem like it, but the fact that these emotions are coming up now is a sign of your healing. You have finally reached to point where you are strong enough to begin processing them.

That’s how you overcome this – by processing the emotions. What does that mean? It means you allow yourself to feel them. Previously you couldn’t do it. Now you can.

You could work with a therapist, but you can also do this on your own. Sit privately, think of something that happened with your ex, and let the emotions come up. Let them out however they want to come out – crying, yelling, stomping your feet – whatever, as long as it doesn’t hurt you, someone else, your pets or property that you care about.

This is the way to healing. It will take time. But if you can ride the wave, eventually you’ll get the feelings out of your system, and that’s the objective.