The Disney Fantasy

sept4; Both the Al Capone and the Disney theories are interesting perspectives. So true in both scenarios. I’m very thankful I don’t have money or property to recover from my ex-N although the damage to one’s heart and emotional state can be harder to recover from. At this stage of my life I’m not looking for my Prince Charming, yet I have to wonder why it’s so hard to find an honest man with a good heart?!

I so agree – Disney’s fantasy is SO bad for us. As a wildlife rehabilitator I quickly discovered that deer are not Bambi-sweet and gentle – they have horns and sharp hoofs and use them, that owls are not wise – they will rip you to shreds with talon and beak even as you try to mend their hurts, that opossums don’t hang from their tails nor do mice talk, nor elephants fly! Read up on “Disney Fallacies” – an interesting logical interpretation of how “Disney Truths” are used against us. My Mom read me the sanitized version of Grimm Fairy Tales when I was young, then got me the original books when I was 10 – what an eye opener! They are very, very different from the more popular version. She also took me to the movies to watch the Disney classics, but then talked to me about real vs fantasy. But even with her teachings and logic and warnings, I fell for a narc. I SO wanted that little-girl fantasy, I wanted to be Belle of Beauty and the Beast, to lose a shoe and find a prince like Cinderella and be woken with a kiss like Snow White – even when logically I knew those lives did not and never would exist. I wanted to be swept off my feet by a knight in shining armor, not realizing that armor rusts and corrodes. I wanted a tall, dark and handsome charmer, not knowing that charm often hides a reptilian heart. Yes, Disney sets us up for disillusion. I love the show “Into the Woods” – it shows the harshness of some of these tales we have been told. It teaches us to be careful of believing the fairy tale. Perfection has it’s price. There is going to be pain and sadness and hardship, and there are consequences for every action. Life will have its up and its downs, and you are just along for the ride — it is the ride – the living it – the learning from it – that is the most important.

• This reply was modified 9 months, 2 weeks ago by emilie18.

I think it is more how we raise our children and us as a culture. Disney writes stories based on what that culture will buy because the culture already accepts it to some degree. You can open your bible and find a ample stories indoctrinating children to narcissistic abuse.

I feel it’s better to attack this weed at it’s roots, us as a culture, rather than picking off unsightly leaves. It’s not Disney. It’s us. All of us.

• This reply was modified 9 months, 2 weeks ago by truthmatters.

emilie18………..Very well said!