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    • June 3, 2024 at 5:40 pm #72146
      sept4
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      Has anyone done this or have experience with putting a sociopath in jail?

      When I checked my ex husband”s electronics and discovered his double life of drugs and cheating with hookers, I also found a LOT of evidence of criminal activities.

      At the time I did nothing because I was trauma bonded so I wanted to protect him. But now a decade later I wonder what would have happened if I had reported him to police. With all the evidence on his phone and considering his prior felony record he likely would go to prison for many years or even decades.

      I feel like money or jail is the only way to get Justice against a sociopath because they simply do not care about anything else you might do or say. I know everyone says to just walk away from a sociopath and focus on yourself but I actually disagree with that advice. I think there should be Justice and victims should stand up for themselves and demand actual consequences instead of just walking away.

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    • June 3, 2024 at 6:46 pm #72149
      truthmatters
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      Hi there. I’ve noticed you’ve done a few posts in the past few months that are along this vein and I definitely sense your frustration. If you kept copies, have tangible evidence, you can turn it over to the authorities. Once you do so, it truly is “in their court” on how to proceed. In the past, when people have replied, I believe that many of the replies are based on experience people have had in similar situations. A lot of us are well versed in those who hurt us having also engaged n criminal conduct. The only part you can do, if you chose to, is to turn over tangible evidence law enforcement. What becomes of it after that is what law enforcement chooses (or is legally capable to do). If you choose this route, many jurisdictions have victims advocate offices that may assist you in a manner that may help keep your information sharing confidential. Even if the information provided is not acted upon, perhaps it may be of use someday. More importantly, I hope it will give you some peace that you tried to let it be known. Good luck with it.

    • June 4, 2024 at 4:48 am #72150
      sept4
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      Thank you Truth yes I am really struggling with it. I regret not holding him accountable when I found out a decade ago.

      I did not keep any evidence because at the time I did not want to create and keep a criminal record against him. So if I reported him now it would just be based on what I say and not any physical evidence. However I’m certain that if they do investigate him in any way they will quickly discover a large amount of ongoing criminal activity, possibly in organized crime.

    • June 30, 2024 at 4:25 pm #72229
      exposethem
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      OP said
      “I know everyone says to just walk away from a sociopath and focus on yourself but I actually disagree with that advice. I think there should be Justice and victims should stand up for themselves and demand actual consequences instead of just walking away.”

      I am so glad to read this. I feel the same way. Maybe it’s just another phase of my recovery. It seems that there is a lot of victim-blaming.

    • June 30, 2024 at 6:24 pm #72232
      sept4
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      Exposethem yes I’ve read so much about sociopaths and narcissists and the generally unanimous advice is to walk away and focus on your own recovery. Counseling therapists will say the same thing also.

      But if we all do this then sociopaths/narcissists will never be held accountable! I think the standard advice should be: 1) go to court and get a restraining order and pursue your financial rights to the full extent of the law, and 2) if there is anything illegal then file a police report as well.

      I wish I had gotten this advice during my separation and post separation abuse. Instead I got the standard “focus on yourself” – go to yoga class, try meditation, journaling, spirituality, traveling etc. All lovely advice in a normal breakup with a normal person but it is useless in an abuse situation with a sociopath. I needed a restraining order not a yoga class.

      And don’t even get me started on “gray rock” advice. That strategy is literally based on fear. In that situation victims should go to court and police for protection. Not cower in fear and gray rock. The only victim empowerment and Justice that are possible is through court and police.

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