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A sociopath’s capacity for deception and betrayal is almost unfathomable
By July 27, 2017 1 Comments Read More →

A sociopath’s capacity for deception and betrayal is almost unfathomable

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 50A: Oh My GOD! 

On my lawyer’s advice, I called all the locksmiths in the area, and they agreed to refuse Paul entry to the house without my consent. Fortunately, the threat of me moving out with the kids and incurring the rent of an additional apartment big enough for two kids, two dogs, and me had worked. Paul never moved back into the house.

Never Good Enough (My childhood adaptation to abuse)

Never Good Enough (My childhood adaptation to abuse)

By Eleanor Cowan

I was eleven years old.  “Do you know what you are? asked Mother, thrusting open my bedroom door to find me, as she knew she would, in a predictable spot reading a predictable book. “I’ll tell you who. You’re a big, fat, lazy nothing.” Waving her souvenir from Mexico, a horsewhip, she flicked my hair up at the back as I hit the stairs to begin new tasks.

Even though I weighed less than a hundred pounds, even though my chores were done and I’d earned the right to read for awhile, I did not defend myself.  There was no talking back, no disrespect, no arguing. Only one rehearsed sentence was permitted. I said it: “Yes, mother? What can I do to help?”

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What you need to know to get a restraining order against a sociopath

What you need to know to get a restraining order against a sociopath

Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar
Obtaining Injunctions Against a Sociopath
Presented by Megan Lyons, Esq.
Tuesday, Aug. 1, 8-9 p.m. ET • $25
More info

Sometimes sociopaths will not leave you alone. The involvement is over and you want to move on, but the sociopath is stalking you. Or, you can’t totally escape the person — perhaps you have children together — and the sociopath uses every communication and exchange as an opportunity to harass you.


What sociopaths want from sex

What sociopaths want from sex

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Many, many people who were romantically involved with sociopaths have told me that the sex was amazing. Earth-moving. The best they ever had. At least, that’s how it was in the beginning, while the sociopath was still reeling them in.

The targets thought this amazing sex was proof of the real connection between themselves and the sociopath, proof that the two of them were wildly, deeply in love.

The truth is that sociopaths are incapable of love. Oh, they’re capable of feeling attraction. And they’re capable of proclaiming love, very convincingly (especially when they’re looking for sex). But they are not capable of genuine concern for another person’s welfare, which is a key component of real love.

 
New Zealand woman steals $170,000 from her mother — and loses half to love fraud

New Zealand woman steals $170,000 from her mother — and loses half to love fraud

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Irakau Ada Pehi, 60, who lives in Taranaki, New Zealand, was supposed to manage her 86-year-old mother’s finances. Instead of paying expenses according to her mother’s wishes, the woman stole $170,000.

Of that money, Pehi made for bank transfers, totaling $81,000, to an overseas bank. It turned out to be a Nigerian love scam.

Pehi pleaded guilty and was sentenced to a year of home detention and 200 hours of community service.

Fraudster loses half of $170k she stole in Nigerian love scam, on stuff.co.nz.

 

 

One trait or behavior does not make a sociopath – look for a pattern of traits and behaviors

One trait or behavior does not make a sociopath – look for a pattern of traits and behaviors

sexy man and womanI once heard from a man, whom we’ll call “Jeff,” who wanted to know if the woman he was involved with, “Amanda,” was a sociopath.

It started as a friendly involvement, with Jeff trying to help Amanda out. Amanda, who was from a foreign country, called Jeff her “best friend.” Jeff eventually started to have feelings for her. But then came a series of unsettling experiences:

  • Amanda made pornographic videos, which were posted on the Internet.
  • Amanda worked as an escort. Jeff offered to pay her rent, so she wouldn’t have to be an escort, and Amanda agreed—and continued being an escort anyway.
The sociopath’s “discard” is soul destroying — you learn your “soul mate” is pure fabrication designed to con, exploit, and hurt
By July 20, 2017 7 Comments Read More →

The sociopath’s “discard” is soul destroying — you learn your “soul mate” is pure fabrication designed to con, exploit, and hurt

Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 49B:  Clarity And Its Consequences

Now, your Personal Recovery Package with Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com

Now, your Personal Recovery Package with Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com

Everything you need to comprehend sociopaths in general, and your situation in particular

Your head is spinning. You suspect, or perhaps even know, that your partner has a serious personality disorder. What do you do?

First, you need to understand what you’re dealing with. This collection of books and on-demand webinars by Donna Andersen thoroughly explains how people with antisocial, narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, or psychopathy, behave in romantic relationships.

Then, you want to talk to someone who truly “gets it.” Donna Andersen knows the games sociopaths play. She can help you sort through the confusion and offer offer practical suggestions on how to move forward.

Buzzfeed reports R&B star R. Kelly keeps a “cult” of women

Buzzfeed reports R&B star R. Kelly keeps a “cult” of women

R. Kelly in a photo posted on his website, r-kelly.com

R. Kelly, a music superstar who has won multiple Grammy awards and sold more than 40 million records, allegedly keeps six women living in his properties in Chicago and the Atlanta suburbs, according to a report on Buzzfeed.

The mother of one of the women, a 21-year-old aspiring singer, says her daughter is “being held against her will” in a “cult.” The daughter says she’s doing fine.

Buzzfeed writes:

Is a tumultuous relationship love or exploitation?

Is a tumultuous relationship love or exploitation?

Lovefraud Continuing Education Webinars:

Love and Exploitation:

Part 1: Recognizing the exploitative relationship and its impact on the intimate partner — available on demand at Lovefraud CE.

Part 2: Overview of therapeutic strategies for partners in relationships with exploiters — Live online webinar on Monday, July 24, 12-2 ET.

When someone is involved in an abusive relationship, the most prominent warning sign is likely to be confusion, explains Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT. People who are involved with abusers can’t figure out what is going on — and sometimes counselors misinterpret their clients’ confusion.


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