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By | April 9, 2019

Lovefraud is being upgraded

Big changes are coming! Lovefraud is undergoing a major upgrade. While it is underway, we will not be posting new stories, to protect the integrity of the database (it’s complicated).  You may continue to read all existing Lovefraud articles, but commenting on blog posts and forum articles will also be temporarily unavailable.

In the new website, information will be much more accessible, so the change will be worth the wait! Thank you for your patience.


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Posted in: Donna Andersen
By | April 8, 2019 6 Comments

Will emotional abuse become physical abuse?

emotional abuseIf you are targeted by a sociopath, you will endure emotional abuse.

Sociopaths — meaning people with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorders — live their lives by manipulating and exploiting others. So if you have any kind of extensive or ongoing involvement with a sociopath, you will be manipulated, deceived and betrayed. It’s just a matter of how badly.

Manipulation, deceit and betrayal are all forms of emotional abuse.

Why? Because society runs on trust, and sociopaths violate trust. When the trust you place in someone is violated, you suffer an emotional wound.

But will emotional abuse become physical abuse? The answer is, maybe.

What is emotional abuse?

There is no official, concise definition of … Read more

Posted in: Donna Andersen
By | April 7, 2019 0 Comments

Signs of a sociopath: Belgian woman allegedly scams 7 men

Semia B., a Belgian woman who was not fully identified, is on trial for pretending to love seven men and scamming them. Her story includes signs of a sociopath.

Nele Poelmans, the public prosecutor, claimed Semia B took a total of 385,000 euros over three years, although one of the victims put the total at 550,000 euros.

According to a news report in The Brussels Times:

The men were questioned and all gave similar statements. The woman promised a longterm relationship, but it never came to that. According to public prosecutor Poelmans, there also weren’t any sexual relations. “The victims had to undergo an std-test first, or she would find another excuse.” According to the prosecutor’s office,

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By | April 3, 2019 4 Comments

After divorcing one diagnosed narcissist, marrying another one

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call Cathy19. Names have been changed.

To start my ex husband was clinically diagnosed as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) with sociopath tendencies and OCD (random I know but wanted to be thorough). I had five years of marriage and two kids with him. Almost ten years later I’m still dealing with him but distance between us geographically has helped.

On the downside I remarried, which is how the geographical divide came about. After six months in court being attacked from all angles by the ex in an effort to stop the move, it turns out the good guy I thought I knew and had now married…was … Read more

By | April 1, 2019 3 Comments

Signs of a female sociopath: Outrageous lies and manipulative behavior

Most people who tell their stories on Lovefraud were targeted and abused by sociopathic men. It’s important to remember that women can also be sociopaths.

The signs of a female sociopath are pretty much the same as those for men. They lie, manipulate and exploit. They are self-centered and feel entitled to anything they want. They use other people without shame or guilt.

Here are some recent examples from the media:

Anna Sorokin, fake German heiress, on trial for scamming $275,000

Anna Sorokin, now 28, called herself Anna Delvey. She infiltrated New York City’s artsy-chic-cool social scene, telling all her new friends that she was a German heiress worth about $25 million. She had big plans to open … Read more

By | March 29, 2019 1 Comments

My ex-husband is a sociopath, and this cannot be fixed

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Lisa19.”

We met at my best friend’s 5-year wedding anniversary party. He was a friend of her husband. She is a trust fund kid, and worth multi-millions. My ex had clearly come especially to that party in New York, from his home in Virginia, to find his next target, while still technically married to his 2nd wife.

I was “the best friend,” who happened to be single. He was charming in the extreme and I practically fell in love with him that night. He sunk his claws in exactly on purpose.

We had a 1 year long-distance relationship which consisted primarily of him visiting me … Read more

By | March 27, 2019 6 Comments

He was dating a female sociopath – no wonder he is confused

letter to lovefraudEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Anthony19.”

I’m very unsure still about what I experienced. Maybe it was nothing but a typical relationship. I did talk with a therapist that I believed specialized in emotional abuse, and she told me she believes I have an anxious attachment issue. I also talked with one other therapist that turned me on to gaslighting, which I had never heard of before and that is how this whole thing got started. My childhood friend is a therapist and he verified some of the things I’ve been reading about and thinking, however after the last visit to this therapist that mentioned anxious attachment issues, I’m feeling … Read more

By | March 25, 2019 2 Comments

Sociopaths can sense deep emotional wounds in the human energy field

human energy fieldA Lovefraud reader sent me the following question:

I seem to only attract what I believe are sociopaths into my life even when I am not trying to find anyone. I feel as if they find me and try to befriend me. Is there some kind of an explanation for this?

This reader posts as “Sam.” I previously published her story as a “Letter to Lovefraud.” She has deep emotional wounds, and the explanation for her current experience is in her story. Please read it:

I have no further use to him and I am being disposed of

Sam’s story is absolutely tragic. Here is what happened to her:

  • She witnessed domestic violence from a very young age.
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Posted in: Donna Andersen
By | March 23, 2019 0 Comments

Did a suspected psychopath make you question your memory of a past event?

University of WindsorUniversity of Windsor researchers still in need of participants to complete online survey about experiences in relationships with psychopaths

Researchers are interested in hearing about your experiences with suspected psychopaths. Use the link below to complete a screening questionnaire to determine if you are eligible to participate in the study:

Screening questionnaire

For this screening questionnaire, you will be asked about a specific time when someone you suspect is a psychopath made you question your memory for a past event. This may have been because they told you that your memory was incorrect, that the events did not happen, or that other people have doubts about your experiences. The researchers are hoping to learn more about your experiences … Read more

By | March 21, 2019 0 Comments

California hairstylist loses $273,000 in online romance scam

Romance scam

A con artist used this soldier’s photos to scam a woman out of $273,000.

“Yin,” a hairstylist from California, went looking for love on, the online dating site. She thought she found it when she met “David Perez,” a divorced major in the Marines with a 10-year-old daughter.

Major Perez told Yin he was deployed to Afghanistan. Then he told her that he needed money. Yin sent him $273,000 — her entire life savings.

Needless to say, the money is gone.

Unfortunately, Yin is not alone. According to the Federal Trade Commission, 21,000 people reported losing money in online dating romance scams last year. How much did they lose? More than $143 million. It’s the single largest … Read more

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