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17 Years of Abusive Marriage Ended with a Narcissitic and Psychopath

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  • This topic has 4 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 6 years ago by Donna Andersen.
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    • June 27, 2019 at 9:52 am #53075
      hope2019
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      I was married to a psychopath and narcissitic man for 17 years and have 2 beautiful kids. For 17 years I loved him worked hard and built an empire with him. But to my surprise he had planned my exit after taking away all of my earnings. For 17 years I thought I know him but today I can say I never knew what was in his heart. He was very abusive and me coming from a culture where we are taught to keep your family matters within four walls and try to keep the relationship I did everthing. I am very well educated women but today I feel ashamed that I let him do what he did to me. So many times he hit me brutally infront of his mother for no fault of mine. His mother and his anut were the witnesses to his abuse and ofocourse my kids. Today was are separated but he leaves no chance to hurt me. He took my savings my house all my belongings, and I couldn’t see what he was upto until it was all done.

      My kids are with me and they stand by me that’s the blessing.

      He is now dating another women and tell you the truth I feel no mercy for that women because as women sometimes we fail to see or we don’t want to see what we are getting ourselves into. He is bringing her home form 60 miles away every weekend and I can see he is trying to separate her from her family as he did to me but she cant see because she is mesmerized by the house he lives in and cars he drives.

      I truly loved him but he never did and this realization came after 17 years, long time. I live on my own now with my two beautiful kids. But I pray everyday to the higher power to see to him for what he did to me both mentally and physically. My soul is still bleeding, may be it will always.

      I am at peace now but thoughts run in my mind everyday what happened and why it all happened.

    • June 27, 2019 at 11:52 pm #53093
      Sunnygal
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      hope209 It is good you are away from him. It will get better with time.

      SG

    • June 28, 2019 at 1:02 pm #53099
      hope2019
      Participant

      Hello SG: Thanks for the support. Wish you well too. Sometimes I feel only if my memory can be erased related to him and I just want to remember all about my children and nothing about him. My kids are so wonderful not even close to what he is. He has no empathy sympathy compassion. He still is not done with me. He is surprised that I am able to sustain without his assistance and truth is that all these 17 years he was dependant on my I ran our real estate business from start to end, I was in the field working hard. I always tell my kids that one can snatch and steal everything from you but the only thing one cannot take away is your education. He took every material thing from me, every luxury that I earned but only thing he couldn’t take away was my education my degree. Best life partner we can give our kids is the gift of education.

    • June 28, 2019 at 1:31 pm #53100
      Sunnygal
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      hope I agree education is a great gift to kids.

    • July 1, 2019 at 5:59 pm #53139
      Donna Andersen
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      hope2019 – I am so sorry for your experience, but glad that you are away from him, and that your children are with you. Everything else can be rebuilt.

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