Ex boyfriend makes her life a living hell

[emilie18]

Vindictive ex’s are one thing, but those with a personality disorder can take things to a whole new level. I recently read about a case that gave me chills:

In 2015 a woman started dating a coworker but broke it off 11 months later after she discovered his infidelity. She kicked him out of their apartment but unfortunately still had to work with him. Within 2 months her life was turned upside down. Her online accounts passwords suddenly stopped working, her sign in name was changed on multiple accounts, her Facebook profile changed, and her health insurance information was altered which made her ineligible for coverage. Her clients received letters saying their accounts had been cancelled, and she received texts from an unknown number threatening her that this was just the beginning and taunting her for her vulnerability. She quickly figured out it had to be her ex boyfriend, and reported this to police. His response was to file false protective orders against her and have her arrested on false charges six times by showing police spoofed email threats he said were from her. She went to jail twice over these false claims. Finally, in 2017 a prosecutor listened to her and started an investigation. The ex refused to comply with court orders to turn over phone records and escalated his false reports against her. After an intensive investigation, the FBI finally arrested him in 2019. In 2020 he was sentenced to 4 years in jail.

Although the story does not detail how she managed to recover from this, I can only imagine she may never be the same – even though all the charges and arrests were ultimately proved to be false, getting them expunged from her records will take years. She lost her reputation, her insurance, her livelihood, and her peace of mind. For five years she suffered. Why? Because she caught her boyfriend cheating and told him to leave. Her ex’s response AFTER he was caught and prosecuted was a lame apology that he wouldn’t bother her anymore.

Read the whole story here: https://www.justice.gov/usao-md/pr/pasadena-man-pleads-guilty-federal-charges-cyberstalking-and-causing-intentional-damage

If you ever suspect someone is messing with your online accounts, immediately cancel them. Call the company to report the breach. Call the FBI and report cyberstalking. To prevent this, make sure you have very strong passwords that are unique to each company or service and change them often. Set up two factor authorizations. If possible set up alerts to notify you if someone tries to use or access your accounts. Lock your computer screens so no one can access them if you aren’t there. If you are in a problematic relationship and DO end it, be aware of potential fraudulent activity. Immediately change ALL passwords. Keep records of all correspondence, emails, texts, IM’s, etc from him/her. Most people just move on. Sociopaths move in.

[Donna Andersen]

Emilie18 – what a nightmare! I was particularly struck by this quote in the report:

On September 30, 2016, Kazzelbach sent a text message to the victim in which he disguised his real identity by using a “spoofing” program, which used computer software to make it appear as though the message originated from a Florida-based cell phone number that did not belong to Kazzelbach. In the message, Kazzelbach wrote, “Prepare yourself for what’s coming…the last 3 months were just the beginning. I have bigger plans for you…I love how easily manipulated you can be.”

Thanks for sharing.

[polestar]

Hi emilie –
Thanks for your post – it is important because we often focus on the psychological aspect of psychopathy – because the relationships leave us so confused by all of their manipulative game playing, so that it becomes difficult to even think rationally and to then really see what is going on, And it is so often that during the emotional abuse, that they are doing so many abuses on the physical plane of existence. The actual physical abuses along with domestic violence needs our astute recognition as well. I am beginning to think that both types of abuse will manifest together when any of these situations are really examined in depth. So thank you for actually showing the revenge these psychopaths can and do exact.

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