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Fog is starting to lift

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How to recognize and recover from the sociopaths – narcissists in your life › Forums › Sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths as partners › Fog is starting to lift

  • This topic has 8 replies, 6 voices, and was last updated 6 years, 1 month ago by Sunnygal.
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    • May 25, 2019 at 3:59 am #52571
      julez74
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      It has been 3 months since i broke up with my narc boyfriend and i can say that the fog is finally starting to lift. after spending many hours researching their behaviours i can say now that i am finally starting to see his treatment of me for what it was…am attempt to control and change me into who he wanted me to be!! Im starting to realise that all the ups and downs were his way of wearing me down so i would just do what he wanted, and he did for a while until i realised i wasnt myself anymore and decided to start standing up to him. He doesnt like me much anymore because i told him i can see what he is trying to do to me and its not going to work. he got worse after i said that and thats when i decided to leave him. I foolishly thought that maybe we could end it on good terms but he as shown me that he is not interested in being respectful or on good terms. It doesnt matter now but because ive realised he is not friend material and now i see why he doesnt have friends in general. Now that im feeling alot stronger and clearer in my mind i can see that i deserve more than he can ever give me!!

    • May 25, 2019 at 8:29 am #52572
      Donna Andersen
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      Juliez74 -Good for you! I am so glad that you got away from him, and you are seeing the truth of his disorder. All antisocials and psychopaths want is power and control. They may proclaim love, they may even appear to be loving, but it is all an act. And as you say, once the fog lifts, you can see it.

      Stay strong! A wonderful new life awaits you!

    • May 25, 2019 at 5:14 pm #52577
      harry1997
      Participant

      I can relate so much to this,I’m proud of you and as I’m only just starting to get over a sociopathic ex, I genuinely feel that gathering as much information and research on these behaviours and disorders,help us to be stronger and enable us to keep our heads held high. I hope your future is so much brighter now and you get yourself back to being you💕

    • May 25, 2019 at 6:28 pm #52580
      Sunnygal
      Participant

      Good news!! Good to get educated about the disorder.

    • May 26, 2019 at 12:03 am #52581
      julez74
      Participant

      Thank you all for the encouragement and support. Its still hard to accept that this man who made himself out to be mr wonderful is not who he said he was at all. I still miss the man i fell in love with and long for that love and connection i thought we had. I thought i had found my soulmate but now im having to grieve the loss of him. Its like he died and some evil entity has taken him over!! I feel really sad for him in a way because he is missing out on so much happiness because of his disorder and he cant understand that

    • May 28, 2019 at 11:22 am #52642
      slimone
      Participant

      julez74,

      I am so happy to hear that you feel clear about what he is, and what he was trying to do. This is the tipping point of healing, and you have so much more to look forward to! The feelings of missing the (albeit false) connection will lessen over time. You will pass through your grief.

    • May 29, 2019 at 4:45 pm #52662
      Sunnygal
      Participant

      Again, glad you are healing and as slimone says, you will pass through your grief.

    • May 31, 2019 at 2:47 am #52719
      lindanorwood
      Participant

      Great

    • June 2, 2019 at 6:02 pm #52760
      Sunnygal
      Participant

      lindanorwood- Good to hear from you.

      SG

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