Help – How do I get away from him ?

[lost]

I’m not sure if my ex is a narcissist, a psychopath or a sociopath but he’s somewhere in that list. I can’t get away from him, no matter what I do. He knows exactly what websites I go on, what pages I follow etc etc. It’s like he’s isolating me from having any contact with anyone. He does it so I know he’s doing it but under phoney profiles or different names. I’m honestly starting to be afraid of him and I feel like I’m being stalked. He’s using things from my past to hurt and humiliate me. He even quotes conversations ( Old text msgs) I’ve had with people. At first I thought I was going insane, so I would test things by going on a certain site or saying certain things to see if he’d eventually bring it back up to me. When I trusted my gut and knew for sure he had been abusing me this whole time, I left him. Now that I’ve left him, he has made it clearly obvious to ensure I know it’s him. I don’t know how to deal with this or how far he’s going to take it. I have isolated from all activity that I think he will try to keep abusing me but I’m still worried and anxious all the time. 🙁 I don’t know what to do, feeling lost and anxious.

[emilie18]

Sounds like he might have a tracker installed on your devices. Do you know a good IT person who can wipe your phone, computer, ipad or any other device you use and install some good preventative software? You may have to reset your privacy and security settings, too. Best thing is to turn off everything and not use social media or websites for a while. Unfortunately, if your friends security settings are not set right, he can find you through them – so you need to tell them NOT to mention or contact you on public sites. You may even have to get a new phone number (tell the provider you are being stalked – sometimes they will switch it for free.) Going “dark” may be your best bet until he gets bored of his game…depends on how invested he is in revenge and power, though – that might take a while. Keep good records in case this gets to the point of a harassment charge. Good luck!

[Donna Andersen]

Lost – I absolutely agree with emilie18. It sounds like he has infiltrated your electronics. Emilie has offered great advice. You might want to go to a friend’s house and research how to combat electronic surveillance. If you do it from your computer or phone he will probably know you are doing it. Normally I would say go to a library, but they may be closed due to the coronavirus. Also, he may be able to infiltrate via your wifi. It’s fairly complicated stuff – definitely seek assistance.

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