Is the sociopath more exposed in written form?

[Paradise]

Hello LF, It seems I am dealing with a sociopath who exposes himself, oddly, more in written form (texts/emails), than in person where the signs virtually disappear. Is this common? In person, the sociopath acts 98% trait-free. How is this possible? I’m finding it horribly confusing. Thank you.

[Donna Andersen]

Paradise – actually, that’s an unusual situation. Usually they are highly manipulative in their correspondence, and then you see the traits in person. Although, many sociopaths are also in full manipulation mode in person — that’s why they always want you to “tell them to their face” when you’re dumping them. So they can work their manipulation magic and reel you back in.

But whatever. If you are getting signals that he is disordered, leave. It doesn’t matter where the signals are coming from. Listen to them.

[polestar]

Hi Paradise –
I totally agree with the advise Donna gave you. To ad to that, I have some further ideas. You asked a good question, by the way. I think that all the understandings about psychological abuse that are coming to the forefront now are still growing in information, so that is why I find your question intriguing. I think that one clue to the answer can be found in the book called, “ PTSD – Time To Heal “. Cathy O’Brian explains about the different hemispheres of the brain. I’m still trying to understand this book, but I think what she is saying is that writing uses the left, logical side of the brain, and the right is the emotional side. And that the brain compartmentalizes trauma that is “ the mind’s sane defense to trauma too horrible to comprehend “. This causes “ dissociation “. So she explains that writing can open these pathways that you cannot otherwise access . So to answer your question, I’m thinking that perhaps the sociopath you are relating to has compartmentalized many aspects of themselves that are not accessible in person via conversations, but come out when writing. But as Donna said, “ But whatever. If you are getting signals that he is disordered, leave. “. Thanks again for your good question. It’s got me thinking !
Blessings.

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