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Do children with a sociopath make everything better?
I never had children with my sociopath ex husband and I regret it. I think children would let you keep the good sides of the sociopath live on in your children. So you can divorce the sociopath and get rid of the bad but keep the good in the form of your children.
Children are a benefit from the marriage that you can keep and love and be happy with no matter what the sociopath did to you. So when he leaves you are not left only with pain but with the happiness from your children.
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sept4; I was not married to my ex nor did we have any children together- we were long past any plan to have children. However, what I can share from my ex’s past marriages and children is it was and is not anything ideal, especially for the children involved.
Because these disordered personalities are not capable of any emotions they can abandon their children without any guilt or remorse. My ex left his children to move back to his home state and has never looked back. He made it sound very noble that he left to care for his aging mother, however he totally removed himself from his children’s lives. His oldest son from his first wife was born and still lives in my ex’s home state. Ironic how my ex reconnected with this son, yet while he was living out of state he had no relationship with him. Why the reconnection? Of course, to serve my ex’s needs and so he has someone to care for him in his old age! Obviously, his son is a much better man than my ex having the ability to forgive his dad. I imagine he is vulnerable and always craved having a relationship with his dad so he is right there to serve his dad’s every need.
So you wonder if the children would have the “best” of your ex and be there for you and bring happiness no matter what your ex did to you? I would imagine it would be very messy at best and the children may suffer just as much as you. Sociopaths do not change just because their circumstances change. It’s like some couples that have a baby or buy a house thinking this would keep things together. Not a great idea, especially when you could potentially risk the well being and happiness of the children. I imagine the children my ex left behind have suffered emotionally and will bring all of that into any future relationships they might have.
It’s too much to ask of children to fill a void or a hole in our heart. Be thankful you and your ex didn’t have children and use your good qualities and your energy towards others who can benefit from it.
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Sept 4 – Unfortunately, having children with a sociopath is usually a nightmare. here’s shy:
1. The sociopathic disorders – psychopathy, antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder – are highly genetic. So there is a good chance that not only will your partner be a sociopath, your kids may be as well.
2. A child keeps you attached to the sociopath forever. In fact, plenty of sociopaths intentionally have children with you specifically to control you for the rest of your life.
3. Sociopaths are not capable of loving anyone, including the children. They are often abusive – if not physically, then certainly emotionally or psychologically. Kids end up with depression, anxiety, and in the worst cases, personality disorders.
When I was married to the sociopath, I was hoping that I would get pregnant. It never happened, and I now realize that God was watching over me. Count your blessings that you never had a child with him.
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well , i was “dating” a sociopath for a few months and i realized he was playing games i just didn’t see the full extent until recently. i left him and he went to social media claiming i abused him. (no shock there). 2 months later i found out i was pregnant. he had gotten me pregnant the very last time i saw him. so still not knowing of his true nature, i told him and he manipulated me back into a “relationship” just to dump me a month later saying he didn’t love me or want me and i was unattractive. so as a result, i went through the entire pregnancy by myself and at 20 i am now raising our baby on my own. he has not done anything for us at all. he has threatened once to take me to court and again alleged abuse to which i laughed at him and blocked him again. he claimed he wasn’t gone for good he planned on coming back eventually. i decided myself he was gone for good because he abandoned my child once and i was not going to give him another chance to do it again. i may be naive but i’m not stupid. so no. they don’t care if you have children or are pregnant. they plan on abandoning you regardless they do not care.
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