Questions about protecting my son

[alimtngirl]

Hi,
I am new to this site, but not the horror of being with a narcissist. In February I finally made the huge leap to file divorce papers against my N after 14.5 years of marriage and 16.5 years with him. I have a 12 year old son. I knew long ago something was wrong, but I was more afraid of being a single mom/having him be alone with my son. Only after starting to see a therapist in feb 2016 did I come to understand who he was. The funny thing is, he actually has an actual diagnosis, received years ago during a short bout of therapy after he had a complete breakdown, aka allowed his mask to slip to the point it scared even him. But I did not understand what that meant, and willfully did not seek out more information. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with the fact I have been a victim of, and now a survivor of, abuse. He is one of the rare N’s that has an extremely high power job, earning money is the one thing he has done well, although we have nothing to show for it. Too many girlfriends I guess. In every other way he follows the script TO A T. Anyway, sorry about the length of this post, to the point, we don’t have final orders yet, what have others of you done to protect your child? My son is onto him. I am sure the N won’t put up with him setting boundaries etc. for long, and I am hoping he disappears sooner rather than later, but in the interim… My son is going to see his dad for only the 3rd time since I filed this weekend and I feel terribly yucky inside. Insights? Thanks!

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