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October 2, 2021 at 6:19 pm #66549polestarParticipant
Hi – would anyone like to share movies, or videos or songs that were or are especially healing ? The ones I would like to share are :
1. French Kiss ( the movie ) with Meg Ryan and Kevin Kline. It’s a really old movie from 1995, but is timeless too. Meg Ryan gets discarded by her fiancé and goes to France to try to “ get him back “ because that was where he was when he called her with the devastating news. In her quest she regains her self worth. Kevin Kline ends up being a support for her and I found watching how she grew and how she found love again to be healing.
2. The Holiday ( the movie ) with Cameron Diaz and Jude Law was from 2006. In it we see two women in difficult relationships with emotionally unavailable/ difficult men. They were both able to get out of those relationships and their true strong selves emerge. Cameron actually was strong to begin with, but was in pain from her cheating boyfriend. Kate Winslet is one of the women and her transformation was inspiring.
3. Almost Famous ( movie ) from 2000 with Kate Hudson and Billy Crudup. Kate is a “ groopie “ for a rock band, yet has a deep love for the musician she is involved with while the group is doing their concert tour. A young reporter for a rock magazine has joined the tour. Both he and Kate are quite young and both in the same dysfunctional environment and have to cope. Kate was put through hell because of the devaluation of her and the young reporter ended up ( from the way I saw it ) to be the real man.
4. The Handmaid’s Tale TV series from 2016 I think, that you can still download. I saw the movie too but the TV series was much superior from my point of view. It showed women being put in an extremely subservient position in a society ( of the future ) where it was so oppressive that they were powerless to change it. It showed the back story when women did have an equal status so the contrast was striking. Other posters had suggested this and is why I watched it. For women in extremely abusive relationships in which they are trying to extricate themselves, it could perhaps be too triggering, while on the other hand it may give them a hard dose of reality to really get the motivation to go No Contact.
5. Lastly, a music video that a participant recommended in the past. It can be seen on You Tube and is by Frazier Ford called “ Done “. It shows her power and the kind of anger that lifts one out of a victim mentality. I love this video.
Well, that’s my list. I hope that you may want to check out or watch some and I hope that you will find them healing. Maybe some of you might like to share movies etc that have helped you too ?
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October 3, 2021 at 3:11 pm #66554Donna AndersenKeymaster
Polestar – thank you so much! Other Lovefraud readers — what has helped in your recovery?
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December 11, 2021 at 9:10 am #66907kennethParticipant
I was 15 years old, when I watched it for the first time and to be honest I didn’t quite understand what is special about this movie. Now, I have a different perspective about it. I’ve read a book as it was a part of my Literature classes and checked this source to get the true meaning
One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest Symbols
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December 11, 2021 at 6:05 pm #66908polestarParticipant
Hi Kenneth –
Thank you so much for sharing. I saw this movie many years ago, and to tell you the truth, I don’t remember it so well – this is what I do recall though. I remember it was in black and white and it seemed that this guy was in a mental hospital and he seemed to have recovered from whatever issues he had, and was ready and able to be released. But then the doctors and staff projected and thought they saw that he was psychotic and would not let him leave the hospital. But he somehow escaped. I’m not sure if they really believed that he was mentally ill still or if there was some kind of conspiracy to keep him locked up. What is poinent is that I am certain that this kind of thing actually still goes on. On many different levels from the government to government sponsored clinics where they get money for patients to even families. I once heard of a woman whose children had her committed so that they could get her money. She had been a lawyer and was in this hospital doing all this legal work to try to get herself out. Then on a personal level, ( if I am even correct about the movie scenario ) that it is a depiction of gaslighting that sociopaths use to try to convince others that they are not mentally sound. And if they succeed and get the person to loose confidence in themselves, then the person will really begin to believe that something is wrong with them. If you would like to set me straight about how the movie actually plotted out or want to share what you found significant about it, I would very much like to read anything you would want to post. Thanks again for your post.
Blessings
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