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Article about a sociopath gynacologist abusing his patients. This abuse is not in a relationship/love context but I’m posting it as an example of how successful educated well regarded men can be sociopathic too.
Sociopaths/narcissists/abusers are NOT limited to low income people or uneducated people! There are lots of educated successful white collar professionals with this same abusive personality type. In fact some white collar professions even have a higher incidence of sociopathy because the more sociopathic you are, the more successful you will be! For example in business and politics.
So in dating, just because you are dating a successful educated man does not mean he cannot be sociopathic and abusive. These abusers use their success and social status as a FRONT to seem legitimate and trustworthy. Imagine being a clueless woman going on a first date with a sociopath doctor or businessman. Your first impression would be wow he is successful, well spoken, educated, an upstanding person in the community, very well regarded by his peers. Such a person cannot possibly be a liar or abuser right? Wrong unfortunately.
And the abuse pattern is the same: preying on vulnerable people. From the article:
“For many victims, Hadden was their first gynecologist,” she added. “Many of Hadden’s victims did not know what to expect during an OB/GYN examination and were less likely to challenge Hadden when he engaged in sexually abusive behavior. Many didn’t know that his examinations were inappropriate and so returned to see him for years.”
The former doctor allegedly “sought out and abused” one girl who he himself delivered as a baby and “inflicted her with the same abuse he inflicted upon adults,” Strauss said.
Hadden allegedly “used his position as a medical doctor at a prominent university … to make or to attempt to make his victims believe that the sexual abuse he inflicted on them was appropriate and medically necessary,” according to the unsealed indictment.https://www.cnn.com/2020/09/09/us/columbia-university-ob-gyn-robert-hadden/index.html
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I can verify that plenty of white collar type people are psychopaths. Like my ex husband.
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I have no doubt that exploitative personality disorders are just as prevalent among the rich and successful as among people at large–and probably more so, since their manipulative tactics can unfortunately gain them a success they don’t deserve.
I’m pleased to see the term “corporate psychopath” has caught on in recent years. It helps to inform the public about the nature of psychopathy, and to remind them that a “psychopath” does not have to be a serial killer to do enormous harm. This article from the FBI summarizes the problem of the “corporate psychopath.” My only criticism of it is that it doesn’t lay enough emphasis on the devastating economic damage these predators can do to the public at large, for instance in the infamous Enron scandal that destroyed so many people’s rights to the comfortable retirement for which they had been saving all their working lives.
But don’t forget, these offenders are not just “men”! They are women as well! Especially when it comes to the crimes that “corporate psychopaths” are particularly guilty of: fraud, forgery, and embezzlement.
Women by and large do not perpetrate anywhere near as many violent crimes as men do; not in the world at large–though they’re guilty of domestic violence as often as men are: a fact covered up by lying feminist propaganda. And when it comes to sexual abuse, like that of the gynecologist Robert Hadden, some naive people seem to imagine females can never be guilty of it, which is far from the truth. That’s a “whole ’nother story.” Even in my own experience, while abused men don’t want to talk about such things, a neighbor’s wife told me her husband at the age of five had been molested by two teenage girls–and in a church, no less! Females get away with too much due to the absurd myth of supposed “female innocence.”
But when it comes to “non-violent” “white collar crime,” that opens up a whole field for malevolent females to exploit, just as much as malevolent males do. A simple Google immediately brought up this paper from the U.S. Department of Justice on “women offenders,” which mentioned among other things that “Women defendants accounted for 41% of all felons convicted of forgery, fraud, and embezzlement.” The paper may be two decades old, but there’s no reason to suppose anything has changed since then.
It’s a colossal proportion, particularly when we consider that women are less likely than men to have the business opportunity to commit these crimes in the first place. Of course, I’m not saying all these offenders were psychopaths, but whether they were or not, it does show that women are no more to be trusted than men are.
And while psychopaths are by no means all serial killers, some of them are. In the medical profession, the crimes of Lucy Letby have just popped up again in the news. She’s another “killer nurse” like Beverley Allitt, Genene Jones and others. No doubt she’s a case of Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy, like other child murderers who were not nurses like Waneta Hoyt, Marybeth Tinning and others. At least the latter only killed their own children and not those of others, as Lucy Letby did. Cases of “Munchausen’s by proxy”–almost invariably women–may be classed as a separate diagnosis in the DSM, but to my mind it’s merely a specialized subcategory of psychopathy, considering its nature: the murder of a human being without conscience for the pettiest and most trivial of motives.
You’d never think for one moment that a woman with a face like this could murder little babies. She’s not only beautiful, but she looks kind, happy and caring, someone you could always trust to look after a child.
Just watch out for those “charming” people, whatever their sex.
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I am currently divorcing a counselor with a Master’s degree who was abusive and unfaithful and ADMITTED in texts to me that he is a predator who looked for a vulnerable person (me) to groom and abuse. Thought I would keep that to myself because he was my 3rd abusive man and my tendency is to give them what they want and run and hide. His colleagues adore him and he gets stellar reviews at work. He was on to his next victim within months and I am losing my mind. They can be anybody.
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My late ex-h had a master’s degree from UC Berkeley & a great job for a long time. He was a professional musician (played three instruments) & singer before he applied for grad school. Really talented but played dives mostly. I don’t mean to show off about the school, but wanted to show sociopaths are represented in all walks of life.
I overlooked those small red flags before we got married because of his “successes.” What a mistake! BTW, he lost the great job undoubtedly due to his difficult personality.
One thing I found odd about him ,and should be added to the red flag list, is he never had stage fright. Singing or making extemporaneous speeches at large gatherings didn’t faze him one bit. He loved the attention. He didn’t care what people thought about his performance, I believe. It’s probably the only upside of being a sociopath.
Roosky, I have a sibling who has a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. He’s quite passive aggressive & a manipulator. Am sure he’s kissed up to the right people at work to get ahead.
Sorry this happened to you. Admitting disordered behavior is very bold and entitled. He will treat the next woman (women?) the same as you. My late ex-h had another woman a few weeks after our breakup.
It hurts, I know. Take time to heal. It does get better!
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I just read that, Bob Montgomery, James Montgomery’s brother who was a prominent psychologist in Australia, has been found guilty and imprisoned for sexually assaulting boys in the 1960’s when he was a scout leader or something. Donna often says that sociopathy is highly genetic and I guess this is an example of that. I looked him up while listening to Lovefraud audiobook (it’s really good) and was curious because he had written self help books. It just goes to show that even prominent white collar people can be predators.
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Claire,
That was a great find! I googled & found a number of news stories about Bob Montgomery’s case.
Here is one from December 2020:
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I guess the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree!
This Bob Montgomery has such a friendly, open face too. A very goodlooking fellow, a face people would trust. Just like the loving, happy face of Lucy Letby I posted earlier.
I can’t pretend to know what women like, but I wouldn’t blame a woman for falling in love with him, just as any man might fall in love with Lucy.
Oddly enough, this Montgomery fellow reminded me a little of my own face, when I was wearing a beard–which I’ve done on and off at various times in my life. Or maybe I’m flattering myself! Still, it just goes to show that you can’t trust a face, no matter how genial. As the saying goes, “Handsome is as handsome does!”
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