How to recognize and recover from the sociopaths – narcissists in your life › Forums › Lovefraud Community Forum – General › Working with a Narcissist
- This topic has 1 reply, 2 voices, and was last updated 1 year, 1 month ago by emilie18.
-
AuthorPosts
-
-
November 14, 2023 at 3:19 pm #71141victoria123Participant
Hi all,
I was romantically involved with a narcissist for a few years. While we were together, we would collaborate from time to time. I’m a graphic designer and he is a musician, so he put me in charge of branding and promoting his band. I made 7 different designs that he used for t-shirts, stickers, flyers etc. He promised me he would compensate me at some point, but he recently blocked me on all platforms. I now realize he was taking advantage of me.
He owed me over $2000, so I decided to draft a cease and desist ordering him to either 1. pay me to keep the content, or 2. remove my work from his online platform. The last day for him to respond to the C&D is coming up, and so far, he has not responded but he unblocked me (seemingly so I could see if my work is still displayed) and he removed 10 of the 12 posts I ordered him to.
Do you think the 2 posts he kept were an accident? I have a gut feeling there is a motive behind his half-compliance. I am wondering if I should just cut my losses at this point or if I should order him to remove the 2 remaining posts. I don’t know what to expect from him moving forward.
It was never about the money for me, but each post represents hours of work I was never compensated for. I didn’t like that he was profiting from selling merchandise with my designs on a platform which I was blocked from accessing.
-
November 16, 2023 at 3:00 pm #71145emilie18Participant
victoria123 – sounds like you took all the right steps. I am surprised he unblocked you. If he has not removed the entirety of your work you can always sue him – or threaten to. But – what’s to stop him from using your work privately? I think I would demand he remove it all and destroy the files or send you the $2000 and see what happens. You can also threaten to go public with what he has done — artists live by their following and negative publicity hurts. However, no matter what you decide, stay safe and protect yourself. Congratulations on ridding yourself of this user.
-
-
AuthorPosts
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.