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After 2 years I have no doubt my daughters live in bf is a sociopath. He has physically abused her (strangled her unconscious among other thing) mentally and emotionally broken her down and now she is pregnant. When she was a month pregnant she discovered he has a two year old child from a previous relationship he never told her about…. one who he does contribute to support. That same week she discovered he was involved with at least 4 other women. He has also threatened her life ; and described where and how he would dispose of her body. The pregnancy was not unintentional; she’s now over 5 months. I saw letters/texts from him and heard with my own ears him talking about marriage with her etc., now he is saying he doesn’t want to marry her. He is telling everyone she is volatile and unstable ….including his family and the mother of his first child. I have confronted him in the past and I end up losing my temper and looking like a lunatic. He has goaded my daughter the same way and taped her with his phone to look like the crazy one. I am scared to death 1) that he will kill her and make it look like an accident (his words) 2) she will suffer from post Partum depression and kill herself 3) he will try to steal the baby saying she’s too crazy to care for him.
Most of all…..my daughter, who used to be strong….sees all of this, knows he’s crazy, but cannot seem to leave him.
Also, He’s an alcoholic
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worriedmom – I am so sorry for your situation. It is heartbreaking. We have written in the past about helping someone who is involved with a sociopath to leave – essentially it needs to be the target’s decision to get out.
I imagine that your daughter is hoping that having the baby will make all the difference, and the guy will come around and be the father that he should be. Unfortunately, it is not going to happen.
The most important thing for you to do is maintain communication with your daughter. If you try to convince her of how terrible the boyfriend is, it has the psychological effect of making her defend her decision to remain with him. So it’s best not to say anything about him until your daughter indicates that she is ready to make a change. In the meantime, you want to keep reassuring your daughter that she is strong and she can make independent decisions.
Here’s an article that may help. Be sure to read the links and comments.
Does anything work in getting a victim away from a sociopath?
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