Daddy to my two daughters is psychopath!

Hi I am new to the forum and am reading the book by HealingJourney right now called The Survivor’s Quest. I have 2 daughters who are 9 years old and 12 years old by someone whom I feel is a psychopath or as my therapist said tonight has a major personality disorder.

Yesterday he immaturely posted the middle finger (flipping the bird) on his Facebook profile. I was offended so I blocked him. I should have done that a long time ago!

Anyway, moving on he only cares about himself and when I was married to him I had to do ALL the cleaning; he cooked and did some outside work so I am grateful for that. He seemed to change as soon as we had children. When he discarded me, I felt like I had failed a job and a relationship but more like I failed a job as a stay-at-home mom that he had put me in the position of being.

Sadly, my 12 year old needs braces and has for a long time but he only takes them to the dental van at school once a year and is waiting for all her baby teeth to fall out before getting her braces. Not realizing that the dentist (a real dentist) could do so much nowadays! I only hope he does get her braces one day and it costs him a pretty penny. I have complained about this to him with no result. He ignores me. He’s really good at that!!!!!

My 9 year old still wets the bed every night. He refuses to get her looked at properly by the pediatrician and/or take her to a urologist. Again he ignores me.

I try to do no contact except when it is to do visitation dates and schedule. Like today I asked if I could have the children this Thursday night and he said yes as only response.

My oldest daughter gets treatment for a mental health condition that they have diagnosed only as “mood swings” where she gets risperidol twice daily. I have fought this with no luck because I am the non-custodial parent and he is the one with all the control and custody. Anyway whenever I suggest therapy or a session that my psychiatrist mentioned where it would only be $10 a session he says no for family therapy. He says if I want to be involved in any therapy I have to go to the center that treats my 12 year old and pay for it with my insurance. I have said NO WAY and I have stuck to my guns.

This is a very difficult and frustrating situation. Hope I didn’t get others too frustrating hearing about it. Take care.

Sarah