How to recognize and recover from the sociopaths – narcissists in your life › Forums › Lovefraud Community Forum – General › Experiencing the impact of grief, parts 1 and 2
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August 2, 2019 at 1:43 pm #53507SunnygalParticipant
This is from blogs
Stages of grief:
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression and sadness
5. Acceptance10 tips to support yourself through grief
1. Listen to feelings
2. Validate those feelings
3. Be kind to yourself
4. No time limits
5. Know you will be O.K.
6. Get support
7. Learn about grief
8. Distance yourself from stress
9 Decrease change
10. Forgive yourselfMore on the blogs
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August 3, 2019 at 5:30 pm #53517polestarParticipant
Hi SG-
Thanks for outlining the stages of grief and the coping tips. Also for highlighting that there is a great blog about the stages of grief. I was able to find part 1 but not part 2. Also, sometimes I’ve tried to locate a blog that you have commented upon in the past, and I am having difficulty navigating the blog section. Do you have any suggestions about how to find a specific blog, or just good ideas about how to use the blogging section to the best advantage?
Thanks so much for your many responses to participants and all the care that you show.
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August 3, 2019 at 5:38 pm #53518SunnygalParticipant
polestar- I search from Google.
SG
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August 3, 2019 at 8:22 pm #53520polestarParticipant
Great – Thanks!
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August 5, 2019 at 11:45 pm #53544SunnygalParticipant
Part 2 talks about multiple losses. I at one time had 2 losses. I used these tips and got through it.
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August 7, 2019 at 1:44 am #53557polestarParticipant
SG – thanks for the direction and explanation about the parts to the blog about the stages of grief. I’m definitely going to read the second part too. The wonderful thing is that so much information is now available for our healing, more so than ever before. E K Ross did write about the grief issue quite awhile ago, but things are coming to light like wildfire more and more. I’m glad that you had the wisdom to get the help you needed and to follow through!
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August 16, 2019 at 3:31 pm #53737SunnygalParticipant
A friend whose son was killed in an auto accident is using these books to help with grief:
Meditations for working through grief by Martha Hickman
Meditations to Help heal after loss by Alan Wolfelt
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August 16, 2019 at 4:13 pm #53738polestarParticipant
Hi sunnygal,
I offer you my deepest condolences for your friend’s son. It makes it doubly difficult to deal with when a death is due to an accident. I am sure it is a heartache for you too, but I know that your friend is so lucky to have you standing by her in her time of need.
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August 16, 2019 at 4:58 pm #53740SunnygalParticipant
polestar- Thanks. It has been hard.
SG
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August 17, 2019 at 7:20 pm #53750SunnygalParticipant
These meditations could also be used for the loss of dealing with a psychopath. The one I especially like is ‘Everything changes, nothing is lost’.
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August 18, 2019 at 12:27 am #53754polestarParticipant
Oh wow – that is a great one!
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August 19, 2019 at 10:52 am #53799SunnygalParticipant
Another meditation is – Smile, breathe and go slowly.
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August 19, 2019 at 10:08 pm #53806polestarParticipant
Hi Sunnygal,
I like this one too! We can experience so much more in our lives when we take time to really look and to think, feel and even notice the precious gift of breath.
Blessings -
August 21, 2019 at 2:11 pm #53820SunnygalParticipant
Another meditation is- Trust yourself. You know more than you think- Dr. Spock. you know best about your grief and how to grieve.
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September 11, 2019 at 8:45 pm #54201SunnygalParticipant
Grief is part of recovery.
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September 19, 2019 at 4:34 pm #54321SunnygalParticipant
Anger is part of grief.
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September 22, 2019 at 10:20 pm #54437SunnygalParticipant
Still like ‘Smile, breath and go slowly.
SG
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September 23, 2019 at 3:12 pm #54442polestarParticipant
Here’s a quote from “ The Hidden Messages in Water “ by Dr. Masaru Emoto : “ Words are the vibrations of nature. Therefore, beautiful words create beautiful nature. Ugly words create ugly nature. This is the root of the universe. “
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September 23, 2019 at 5:05 pm #54443
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October 10, 2019 at 11:48 am #54699SunnygalParticipant
Good to understand the grieving process.
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October 13, 2019 at 5:33 pm #54738polestarParticipant
Hi –
Here’s a quote ( though not exactly related to grieving ), but a good one I think:
It’s from Almine’s book , “ Book of Runes – the art of self guidance “:
“ When we are with those who are energetically incompatible, we experience a shrinking feeling. The new creation brings kindred spirits in the form of family and friends. In the deep satisfaction of their company, we can feel our souls expand. “
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October 13, 2019 at 7:29 pm #54739SunnygalParticipant
yes, a good one!!
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October 16, 2019 at 1:18 am #54768SunnygalParticipant
Art can be helpful with grief.
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October 23, 2019 at 7:23 pm #54867SunnygalParticipant
Grief takes time.
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November 12, 2019 at 5:36 pm #55085SunnygalParticipant
We will move back and forth many times- back into the dark woods and forward into the light.
Josephine Humphreys
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December 18, 2019 at 4:52 pm #55470SunnygalParticipant
A dear friend was in an accident then developed a blood clot in her leg which can be dangerous. She has been on blood thinner and the clot is now gone. Hearing about the clot caused grief but is now relieved.
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December 20, 2019 at 3:00 pm #55493polestarParticipant
Hi SG – I am sorry that you went through worry and grief about your friend’s condition. Often we go through even more pain about concerns we have about those we love even than ourselves. I am glad she came through so well, and I have no doubt that much was because of the prayers of your heart that you held for her and sent to her.
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December 20, 2019 at 6:09 pm #55497SunnygalParticipant
polestar- It is true that it is difficult to see dear friends injured. I’m just glad my friend has good medical care and she and her husband work carefully with her doctors.
SG
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March 9, 2020 at 6:26 pm #56372SunnygalParticipant
There is grief in loss.
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March 21, 2020 at 2:49 pm #56500SunnygalParticipant
There is grief in our current situation.
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April 14, 2020 at 6:21 pm #56858SunnygalParticipant
I just found out a fruend had mild CV19. good it was mild but still sad.
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April 14, 2020 at 9:16 pm #56861polestarParticipant
SG – sorry to hear about your friend. Does that mean that he or she can go nowhere at all?
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April 14, 2020 at 9:36 pm #56862SunnygalParticipant
polestar- She had it in March. it was not diagnosed. she wants an antibody test to know she had it but they are not available. she is a dental hygienist and dentists are only handling emergencies now.
SG
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April 14, 2020 at 9:57 pm #56864polestarParticipant
Hi SG – what I do not understand is : how does she know it was CV19 and not another strain of the flu if she wasn’t diagnosed ?
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April 14, 2020 at 10:19 pm #56865SunnygalParticipant
She is not sure. that is why she wants the antibody test. It was not easy to be tested.
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April 16, 2020 at 8:39 pm #56885polestarParticipant
Hi SG – Oh. In any case, the worry must be upsetting for her. I do hope that it was never that CV19 in the first place. I know that you are just the one who can be a great supportive friend.
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April 16, 2020 at 8:44 pm #56886SunnygalParticipant
polestar- If it was CV19, she can’t get it again and can’t expose anyone, so that would be good.
SG
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April 16, 2020 at 9:12 pm #56888polestarParticipant
Thank you for letting me know that. It brings much hope for her and for us all.
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April 18, 2020 at 6:15 pm #56915SunnygalParticipant
I just found out a dear friend has emphesyma. This is a loss but she is taking care of herself.
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April 19, 2020 at 1:27 pm #56922polestarParticipant
Hi SG – so sorry to hear about your friend. Emphesyma is a difficult condition so it is good that she is taking good care of herself. Blessings to her and you both
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April 19, 2020 at 7:35 pm #56928SunnygalParticipant
polestar- thanks for the good wishes.
SG
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May 13, 2020 at 10:35 pm #62727SunnygalParticipant
I see my primary care doctor Friday. Because of the CV9 situation the door will be locked. I will call and the nurse will let me in. This is a loss.
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May 14, 2020 at 4:47 pm #62744polestarParticipant
Hi SG – I totally get how you feel. Things have become so abnormal and they keep creeping up on us more and more. I was watching a movie and just seeing everybody having a nice time at a restaurant gave me a jolt of awareness about the situation we are dealing with. Thanks for sharing.
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May 15, 2020 at 2:32 pm #62748SunnygalParticipant
polestar- thanks. It is a difficult time.
SG
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May 16, 2020 at 1:27 pm #62754SunnygalParticipant
polestar- The nurse took my temp before she let me in, then gave me a disposable mask and hand sanitizer. It went o.k. when I finally saw the P.A.
sg
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May 17, 2020 at 1:29 pm #62759polestarParticipant
Hi SG – Despite all the social distancing and the weirdness that we can’t even go to a bookstore these days, it does seem like your doctor’s office was doing their due diligence and that must have made you feel safe, at least, during these difficult times.
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May 17, 2020 at 1:46 pm #62762
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May 17, 2020 at 2:03 pm #62765polestarParticipant
Hi SG – definitely ! I see your point of view completely.
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June 8, 2020 at 11:49 pm #63099SunnygalParticipant
these are very good.
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