- This topic has 4 replies, 5 voices, and was last updated 4 years, 2 months ago by .
-
Posts
-
-
He is repeatedly threatening to have me put on an involuntary psch hold in an institution since I called the cops when he got violent. He insists all the acts of violence he committed against me were done by me instead of him!! Even when I have videos of his abuse, he still denies it and says I’m the violent one.
I have recordings of his threats to have me institutionalized, but in my state it’s not legal to record without consent, so I don’t think I can use them. He’s been working on a smear campaign for years and has isolated me from almost all friends and family. I’m trying to leave but I have a disability and can’t work and don’t have any income so it’s difficult making a plan.
He destroyed my credit and our home is in foreclosure and hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. I KNOW I have to get away and I absolutely will asap but for now, is there any way to protect myself from him using a psych hold as a weapon?
He seems to have friends in a men’s group that he’s a part of that are backing him up (in law enforcement and psychiatry) and I’m scared. This happened to a family member and back in the lovebombing stage I told him it was my greatest fear, so now he’s using it against me. I have confirmed that an anonymous tip is enough for cops to come and take you on a hold, it seems to be an insurance scam but it DOES happen, even when you are totally calm and rational and obviously not a threat. But I wonder if his record of domestic violence is enough to prevent him from making that call?
If anyone else has dealt with this or has more info or resources I’d really appreciate it. Psychiatry CAN be used as a weapon and these low-lives will stoop that low-but Im thinking there HAS to be some way to protect. If I can figure this out I’d love to create a template for others to help with this nightmare in the future. Thanks for reading this.
-
Oh no I’m sorry this is happening to you. I don’t know how that works so I can’t give any advice about that.
But general advice to you and to everyone is that you have to get away from an abusive person (whether physical abuse or emotional abuse). The only real solution is to get away and stay away from people like that.
-
I think your best defense is to hire an attorney and let him/her listen to your recordings. Even though your state does not allow non-consensual recording, your attorney can hear them as privileged information. They just can’t be used in court. If your ex tries to have you committed at least you will have someone fighting for you. You can also get legal advice on your rights and hopefully together can formulate a plan of escape. You say he has been smearing you for a while now – but is there anyone in your friends or family circle that might listen to your side and help you out? You need to leave now even if it means going into debt – getting away from his control and toxicity is paramount to your well-being. Good luck.
-
It sounds like you know that he just may do this. What a scary man. You know that he has the power and the motivation to do this horrible thing to you. I don’t know that my advice is the best, but it’s what I would think to do first. In order to keep yourself safe, you could just “disappear”. Leave when he is not there and only let the people whom you are sure you can 100% trust know where you are. After you are gone, he will probably freely tell lots of people his lies about you because you are not there to defend yourself or tell the real truth. But at least you will be safe from him. Your relationship with him is not worth saving at all – just be gone from his life – as far away and as safe as you can be – and as fast as you can do it. He sounds bent on ruining you. And you know he has the bad character to do so. Get out now – save yourself from this monster.
-
Woundedwarrior – what a nightmare. Unfortunately, you are right to be concerned. I have heard of psychopaths pulling that stunt – accusing their partners of being emotionally unstable.
Have you spoken to a Domestic Violence agency in your area? They may have resources for you. In fact, they may be able to help you get out of the house.
-
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.