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My son’s father is a psychopath. He is wealthy and is disabled-retired (fraudulently) so he has ample time to plan and plot all of his venomous moves to try and eliminate me from my son’s life altogether. Him and his attorney have lied and deceived the court. My psycho-ex boyfriend has now used the support court to seek further outrageous revenge on me to the tune of jailtime. I’m not a deadbeat parent. I’ve been paying this monster but it was less than ordered because I am only able to work part-time. I have my son half the time but yet I was ordered to pay a multi-millionaire child support. That was not enough for him. He wants me incarcerated so that it’s a slam dunk for him to go back to custody court and eliminate all of my access time. Needless to say, I’m devastated by all of this. I’m not a criminal! The jerk support magistrate wants to “teach me a lesson”. I’d like to know what that is – as this will destroy my life. Is there anyone out there in a similar position or walked down this road before. I’m beside myself right now!!!
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momto4kiddos – You are not alone. Unfortunately, many psychopathic parents do exactly what you are talking about. Their objective is to grind their former partner – you – into the dirt.
I know it’s difficult, but I suggest that you do anything you can to work on your emotional healing. Remember, the psychopath gets a thrill out of knowing that he is upsetting you and still controlling you. Your objective is to emotionally get to the point that when he pulls his next stunt you roll your eyes and say to yourself, “there he goes again.” When he knows that he isn’t affecting you, it’s no fun for him anymore and maybe he’ll lose interest in tormenting you.
Plus, whatever you can do for your emotional healing will help you with your children.
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In my case my ex has ramped up his attack on me. Like you I have young adult children involved. My daughter and I are very close but I can sense when she has spent time with her father. She becomes confused because of the lies. She has told me that she knows that I do not lie and it breaks my heart that this lovely young woman has to go through this. My son who is 20 is living with his father because I asked him to leave. He wouldn’t listen to the house rules and was behaving very much like his father. I believe that he has a drug problem, much like his father and even found my ex sending my son pictures of women on the street asking my son which one he preferred and whether he liked them front or back. It is all so very heart breaking. I too will be more than likely going to court because I was able to prove his embezzlement of my inheritance. My problem is that my ex is from a big law family and the family is involved in the court where my case is to be heard. It is all such a tangled web, especially when you have children. The advice here is good but I do think that as these sociopaths get older they have fewer options and try hard to get off on destroying their old sources. I have learned to turn things over to my higher power, especially regarding my son. I may actually be in danger when my ex finds out that I discovered the paper trail of his deceptions. His whole family are wealthy sociopaths who pretend to be Quakers. I don’t think that he or his family would directly try to kill me but they would perhaps hire someone to do it for them. It is so frustrating that there is a pattern but law enforcement doesn’t recognize this until it is too late. I hope that you have a very good lawyer and that you are somehow able to remove yourself from his manipulations.
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momto4kiddos – you are right – sometimes they just do not give up. If he is (fake) disabled, I suppose he has nothing better to do than plot against you. Have any domestic violence agencies been of help?
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