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Battling Psychopath at Court

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  • #42877

    momto4kiddos
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    My son’s father is a psychopath. He is wealthy and is disabled-retired (fraudulently) so he has ample time to plan and plot all of his venomous moves to try and eliminate me from my son’s life altogether. Him and his attorney have lied and deceived the court. My psycho-ex boyfriend has now used the support court to seek further outrageous revenge on me to the tune of jailtime. I’m not a deadbeat parent. I’ve been paying this monster but it was less than ordered because I am only able to work part-time. I have my son half the time but yet I was ordered to pay a multi-millionaire child support. That was not enough for him. He wants me incarcerated so that it’s a slam dunk for him to go back to custody court and eliminate all of my access time. Needless to say, I’m devastated by all of this. I’m not a criminal! The jerk support magistrate wants to “teach me a lesson”. I’d like to know what that is – as this will destroy my life. Is there anyone out there in a similar position or walked down this road before. I’m beside myself right now!!!

  • #42880

    Donna Andersen
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    momto4kiddos – You are not alone. Unfortunately, many psychopathic parents do exactly what you are talking about. Their objective is to grind their former partner – you – into the dirt.

    I know it’s difficult, but I suggest that you do anything you can to work on your emotional healing. Remember, the psychopath gets a thrill out of knowing that he is upsetting you and still controlling you. Your objective is to emotionally get to the point that when he pulls his next stunt you roll your eyes and say to yourself, “there he goes again.” When he knows that he isn’t affecting you, it’s no fun for him anymore and maybe he’ll lose interest in tormenting you.

    Plus, whatever you can do for your emotional healing will help you with your children.

  • #42901

    momto4kiddos
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    I have been working on my emotional state. Been doing it almost 4 years now. It’s why I am where I am. I do not believe this “thing” will ever tire of trying to destroy me. It’s been over 4 years now! Now he’s affecting my child too. I don’t see where there is much help out there for people like me. We have a crooked court system that doesn’t recognize this type of person exists. I had people telling me – “ah, he’s just picking on you. He will stop when he gets bored.” I don’t believe that one bit because he hasn’t let up. Instead, he’s doing worse things. I believe if I don’t find a way to shut him down completely, he will kill me or hire someone to do it for him. I was already told by someone who is extremely familiar with this type of personality disorder that my ex-boyfriend is very dangerous and that I need to be very careful. What organizations could I go to in NY for help? I’m trying desperately to survive and I’m afraid if I try to go public with this – people are going to think I’m the one crazy. I have my circle of friends and some family and some attorneys that know first hand what I’m going through and how bad this really is. I’m scheduled to go back to court on Dec 6th for a Judge to decide whether I do a 45-day jail term or not. I can’t believe I’m going through this!

  • #42902

    Donna Andersen
    Keymaster

    momto4kiddos – you are right – sometimes they just do not give up. If he is (fake) disabled, I suppose he has nothing better to do than plot against you. Have any domestic violence agencies been of help?

  • #42904

    momto4kiddos
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    You know what the domestic violence agencies told me? They gave me a list of books to read!!! I’ve read several books already. What I need is for the court to recognize this is not a well man. I’m sending formal complaints to the proper agencies as a start concerning improper professional behavior of my ex’s attorney and then the support magistrate that wants to put me in jail to teach me a lesson. It’s mind-boggling. I’m a very strong-minded person and I’m fighting for my kids and for my life. I, eventually, want to become an activist to change the laws here so that other people who face these monsters are treated fairly in the court system. I also want to ensure there is help for people after they leave these abusers. There is no help whatsoever right now. I feel so alone. I’m so passionate about fairness and justice. My life has been ripped apart and I’m trying to keep what little of it I have left together while keeping a level head on my shoulders. I really appreciate you communicating with me about this. I just read an article from the Naked Narcissist on how Judges need to be more educated in the courtroom on how to identify when a parent has a personality disorder – that is so true because I know our Judge was already zooped by my ex. And you know that a male Judge – by virtue of his ego – is not going to readily admit he made a mistake. So, I know it may take some time – but there is a chance he may reverse his custody decision or may give my ex chances to redeem himself. I don’t know. All I can do is hope for the best and do everything I can to protect myself. There is a group that I know of through my DV support group and I may contact them to see what can be done. My story is so long and ridiculous but I feel the need to make people aware of this and its devastating effects on families.

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