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July 30, 2020 at 10:51 pm #63508cnaforevernalways2005Participant
If you were to conversate with someone who is trully narracistic and tell them you thought they were would they be calm?
Many people state they think my ex is a narc even her on lovefraud 🙁 I dont know 100% sure he is but I told him I thought he might b and told him what I learned about how they cant really love anyone. I made the comment so if it’s TRUE he never loved me for the 16 years we were together. He responded calmly “I think I am capable of loving some people; especially my kids.”
Do you think this is true?
He has said he lacks empathy. Does that automatically make him a narc?
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July 31, 2020 at 10:24 am #63511Donna AndersenKeymaster
cnaforevernalways – I can’t help but notice that he didn’t say that he loved you.
Some narcissists/sociopaths have been diagnosed and know their diagnosis. Many narcissists/sociopaths are aware that they are different from other people, even if they do not know that they have a personality disorder.
Here’s the key – if they are, in fact, disordered, then they are not capable of love. Plus, since they have always been disordered, they have never truly experienced love, and therefore do not know what it is. Some equate love with sex, so if they say they love you, they mean they want to have sex with you. When it comes to kids, some narcissists/sociopaths are willing to take care of them in the same way they will take care of a car — make sure it has gas, runs well, and put it through the car wash from time to time. They may consider providing maintenance as love.
Here’s another issue – even when narcissists/sociopaths know they are disordered, they still don’t feel like anything is wrong with them. In fact, they often feel superior to the rest of us. They do not experience distress, so they have no motivation to change.
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August 3, 2020 at 10:06 pm #63530SunnygalParticipant
Good to remember.
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