Emotional detachment

[Sunnygal]

Sandra Brown talks about emotional detachment in her article ‘hate and your potential for relapse- part 2’. All religions have detachment- holy indifference, non-attachment, asceticism. It gives you back the power over your emotions. Step outside of the situation as if you were the third person.

[Sunnygal]

For your sanity and peace you can choose holy indifference or in the 12 step tradition ‘turning him and the situation over to God’.

[Sunnygal]

I find this helpful.

[Sunnygal]

This is still helpful.

[Sunnygal]

Can give sanity and peace of mind.

[Sunnygal]

The opposite of love is indifference, not hate.

[Sunnygal]

This is always helpful.

[Sunnygal]

I found this an interesting article.

[viva]

I found detachment helped while I was in the early stages of rebuilding my self but, after a while, that detachment began to feel like it got in between me and feeling alive. It feels like I need to feel where I’ve been so as to register that those feelings were a warning that I ignored. I won’t ignore them again.

I agree that indifference is the opposite of love but it seems to me that someone else’s unloving heart shouldn’t be the one that causes you to change your loving one.

Just a thought…

[Sunnygal]

I think Sandra means indifference to the psychopath but loving toward your healthy relatives and friends.

[viva]

Hi Sunnygal and apologies if I came across as criticising – I didn’t intend that. I meant only that, for me, detachment from how I feel about him brought about a detachment from that kind of connection. That kind of connection being different from family and friend connections.

[Sunnygal]

viva- no problem. I need this at all times.

[Stargazer]

I find that indifference and detachment come as a natural result from working through the painful feelings. I think you can distance yourself from someone emotionally but you won’t truly be able to detach until you’ve processed the feelings. If you do, you will attract someone similar to the former person so you can once again have the opportunity to clear the repressed feelings.

[Sunnygal]

Stargazer- it’s hard to explain. you might look at sandra brown’s article. you can goggle it.

[Sunnygal]

A good article by Sandra.

[Sunnygal]

Need this again.

[Sunnygal]

I like holy indifference.

[Sunnygal]

Using this.

[Sunnygal]

Sandra Brown says psychopaths love drama, he has your complete attention and it increases his contact with you. Showing no emotion keeps you detached.

[Sunnygal]

Sandra says to just think ‘he’s acting like a psychopath’ when he tries to upset you.

[Sunnygal]

This really helps.

[Sunnygal]

No drama.

[Sunnygal]

Need this in a situation.

[Sunnygal]

this article was very helpful to me.

[Sunnygal]

this is always extremely beneficial to me.

[Sunnygal]

show no emotion.

[Sunnygal]

great article by sandra.

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