How to recognize and recover from the sociopaths in your life › Forums › Lovefraud Community Forum – General › Healthy love v. disordered love This topic contains 1 reply, has 1 voice, and was last updated by Sunnygal 1 year, 3 months ago. Author Posts February 8, 2018 at 5:59 pm #44026 SunnygalParticipant Sandra Brown says psychos want to rush the relationship whereas a healthy relationship is gradual and takes time. February 8, 2018 at 6:01 pm #44027 SunnygalParticipant If you tell a normal guy you want to slow down the relationship, it is o.k. if you tell a spath, they rage or threaten to end the relationship. Author Posts You must be logged in to reply to this topic.