I'm sick of people telling me I should have moved on by now

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    I can’t talk to anyone about what had happened to me as no one understands what I am going through. It has been only 3 months since I discovered all the horrible things he did to me . Everyone I talk to tells me ‘oh stop thinking about it , move on , he is not worth it, I want you to find a normal guy, etc’. How am I meant to forget a year of outrageous lies, cheating, manipulation, the fact that he forged his divorce, wanted to commit bigamy, got his wife pregnant while being with me and pretending to be divorced, deliberately tried to infect me with an sti, run with a loaded gun in the middle of the night, all the arguments and threats, all the sleepless nights when I was worried about his health , all the made up medical contitions to make me feel sorry for him?’ Why are people so insensitive, why don’t the get that it’s not just a break up and it wasn’t a relationship that simply did not work out?

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    You don’t have to forget it. Allow yourself the time to heal. But focus on healing. You can’t change anything he did.

    People who have not been through this type of relationship will not understand it. It is NOT a normal breakup. Know that, be aware of that and work on healing yourself. That does not mean they do not care, it’s just too surreal sometimes to be able for others to empathize I think.

    I was fortunate enough to have amazingly supportive reactions from friends and family. That support was so essential to helping me through. If you’re not getting the support you need from your friends and family, try a support group, therapist or reach out on here.

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