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Have any of you thought about restoring men’s health after a relationship with a toxic partner? Are there any modern medical approaches that really help?
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Not a medical professional, but speaking from experience – the best way to heal from any toxic relationship is time and self care. First, make sure you are 100% No Contact. Not even the slightest. Toxic woman have a way of drawing vulnerable men back into their webs. The allure, the sexiness, the charm – it can be irresistible. Resist it. Then take some time to really feel the hurt and betrayal — don’t bury it as so many men do. Let the emotions flow. Take up boxing, running, martial arts; scream at the trees; beat up a pillow – whatever it takes to let those raw feelings out. Just don’t take it out on friends and family – you are going to need them eventually. Learn as much as you can about disordered women (this site is a great place for that), and start to really believe that this was NEVER your fault. Give yourself time to process all this – then reach out to friends and family for moral support and human companionship. Don’t get back into dating too soon – you need to go through this process multiple times before you will be trusting enough for that. Give yourself the time. Be kind to yourself. Eat healthier, exercise more, give up bad habits, embrace a hobby – whatever it takes. All this is going to take some effort and time. Time is the key. And not beating yourself up.
Medically – if you are still feeling depression, anxiety, or have disordered eating, low self-esteem or negative thoughts, definitely talk to a doctor. A good therapist can prescribe anti anxiety meds or SSRI’s. Upping your Vitamin B12 and B6 and D3 help with energy. Epson salt baths help relive depression and anxiety. But mostly – time. There are good, kind, compassionate women out there just waiting for you. Believe it.
Wishing you all the best. You deserve it.
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Tifan28628 – I’ve spoken to plenty of men, and I believe they suffer from encounters with sociopaths just as badly as women do. So any of the suggestions we make here on Lovefraud apply to men as well.
Check out the Lovefraud articles and Youtube videos. You may also find helpful webinars. Dr. Liane Leedom’s series on “Skills Training for Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting and Toxic Stress” is the only protocol created specifically for survivors of narcissistic abuse. It’s very comprehensive.
So any suggestions that resonate for you are worth pursuing.
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I think there is a real difference between the sexes here. Generally women are drawn into toxic relationships by the (fake) promise of love whereas men are drawn into toxic relationships by the (real) amazing sex.
So generally for women recovery is based on realizing that the promise of love was never real. Whereas for men recovery is based on realizing the amazing sex is not worth the emotional abuse.
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