Should I tell my Narcissistic ex’s gf that he is contacting me?

[Nik.love]

Hello, I am new here.

We dated for two years. It was the typical situation you can imagine. I loved him with everything I had and he just used and abused me until there was nothing left of me. He left me for this girl. I don’t know if she knew that I was dating him but I think she did know about me. He met her and 2 weeks later he broke up with me via text. A few days after we broke up they made their relationship fb official. On new years he messaged me for the first time since we broke up in May of 2016. So that’s over half a year. Now he messaged me again early this month. He apologized to me and told me that leaving me was the biggest mistake of his life. I was under the impression that he was single again. I still had feelings for him or maybe it was just my old emotions surfacing, anyways I was prepared to give him another chance (before I knew what a narcissist was). But I asked if he was still with her and he said yes he is!!!

He changed my name in his phone to a boy’s name.

Should I tell her? They’ll be together a year this may since that is when he got together with her days after we broke up, I mean he was talking to her when he and I were still together but I guess he waited till he broke up with me to make it official lol.

Would it be wrong of me to tell her? I don’t want him anymore but can I stand by and let him treat another girl like the way he treated me?

I don’t want to get involved because I am afraid he will do something to get revenge, for example private photos I sent him when we were together, I doubt he deleted them knowing him.

What should I do? Because the conversations are not innocent. He brought up our sex life, he mentioned that he hopes we will end up together one day.

So I’m assuming he is trying to secure me so that if it goes downhill with this girl I’ll still be there for him to give him his next dose before he moves on again right?

Thanks!

[Donna Andersen]

Nik.love – Your first priority is to yourself. Here are a couple of things to consider:

1. If you warn her, it may cause him to contact you, which means you are engaged with him again, which is not good for your recovery.
2. He has probably told the woman that his ex (you) was a crazy b*tch, so she will not be inclined to believe you.
3. His statement that leaving you was a mistake is just an attempt to manipulate you again.

The issue of warning the next victim has been discussed frequently on Lovefraud. This story may help:

https://lovefraud.com/letters-to-lovefraud-should-i-warn-the-next-victim/

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