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September 12, 2020 at 5:30 pm #63878sept4Participant
I first met my ex when we were introduced by a mutual acquaintance. He was sitting at the bar with his back turned toward me.
In the split second that he turned around upon the introduction, my immediate flash thought was “WHAT AN AS**OLE.” For really no rational reason at all as we just met that very second without even speaking or any interaction yet. He simply turned around. And my instinct flashed.
Unfortunately this happened so quickly and so irrationally (before even interacting at all) that I immediately either forgot it or pushed it down.
And within a few seconds later I was thinking wow he is so handsome, so charming, and within a few minutes he had already reeled me in with his good looks and charm and attention.
I didn’t remember that split second initial instinctive reaction until many years later during the divorce. I then remembered how it happened in a flash the very first moment I laid eyes on him. And how it was forgotten or suppressed within a moment as we started interacting.
But the warning flash was there. For a brief moment, like lighting. Before I was taken over by his looks and charm a mere moment later.
September 14, 2020 at 7:13 pm #63888Donna AndersenKeymaster
I’ve heard stories like that before. Our intuition knows. But we don’t know how to listen to our intuition.
September 15, 2020 at 10:16 pm #63896thesmithsParticipant
I was married to my late ex-husband for 15 years. When he started talking to me, my first thought was what does this gay guy want with me? I brushed it off because he seemed very interested in me & very kind. I thought I had misread him.
Well, no, I hadn’t. I discovered 13 years into our marriage that he had been cheating on me with a string of men.
That’s not counting the sociopathic behavior which surfaced a year after our marriage.
I take my intuition very seriously now.
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