Why do I miss my narcissistic ex so much?

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    I was with her for 2.5 years, on and off. Tried to break it off several times, and it finally happened at the end of June. She discarded me in a painful way, ignoring all my texts and phone calls (even when I told her I was depressed and confused and just needed an explanation). No response. Nothing. The day this all happened, I tried to go talk to her in person, and when she opened the door she told me to get out and was very cruel. She then turned back to go inside, and when closing the door i heard her laugh and apologize to the person who was inside.

    At the time of the Discard, I didn’t even realize she was a narcissist. This is something I recently discovered, maybe a couple of weeks ago. My question is – why do I still miss her, even after knowing everything I know about her true identity? How long will this feeling last?

    • This topic was modified 5 months, 4 weeks ago by  allison123.
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    Donna Andersen

    allison123 – your ex’s behavior — a sudden discard, closing the door in your face, and laughing at you — is typical sociopathic behavior. So yes, she sounds disordered.

    Relationships with sociopaths are highly addictive, so probably what you are feeling now is the addiction. We’ve written about this a lot on Lovefraud. Go to the Google search box at the top of this column and type in “addicted to a sociopath.” You’ll see lots of info. You may also want to try my webinar, “Why is’t so hard to get over loving a sociopath and you you can recover.” I talk about the addiction, obsession, and how to overcome them.

    If your relationship ended at the end of June, it is still very recent. You will need time to recover. Please make sure to have No Contact with her. No Contact is the path to healing. If you do have contact with her, you will have to start all over again.

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