How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

Put the psychopaths in charge, they’re smart, logical and articulate

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In 1982, Hollywood was in production with the film War Games starring Matthew Broderick as a young man who accidentally engages a military computer to start running a thermonuclear war simulation game. He almost launches World War III. At the same time in 1982, the UK was developing a secret Home Office exercise to test how real people would survive if World War III actually happened. What if 300 megatons of nuclear bombs were detonated over Britain, flattening towns and killing many? The exercise was top secret. Some of the suggestions were “outside the box.” According to documents recently released at the National Archives, one such “outside the box” idea was to put the psychopaths …

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Sociopaths say they want love, but what they really want is supply

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Lovefraud recently received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Suzette." It's strange, my brother (who I have no doubt in my mind is a sociopath), craves being loved. He bounces from relationship to relationship, using his girlfriends. Yet when he screws up, and has his girlfriend threaten to leave him, he acts so desperate! Desperate for human connection.  He tells me that he can't live without love in his life, and that he NEEDS a girlfriend by his side. I don't understand this. He's a drug addict, and he uses his girlfriends for support - and before he had any girlfriends, he used me, and before me, he used my mother. Why does he seem to genuinely crave LOVE, if he …

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A real life ‘American Psycho:’ Banker arrested for murdering two women

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British citizen Rurik George Caton Jutting, 29, a former Bank of America Merrill Lynch banker living in Hong Kong's nightlife district, was arrested in his luxury apartment and charged with the murder of two Indonesian women, according to Hong Kong police. The usually safe city, especially in the financial district, was buzzing with the news of the arrest some comparing this true story to the 1991 book, American Psycho. Banker charged with 2 Hong Kong murders in case echoing 'American Psycho,' from FoxNews.com.     …

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Margaret Keane’s ‘big eye portrait’ art fraud story made into a biopic

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In the 1960s, a series of portraits depicting children with big eyes rocked the art world, selling prints and post cards in the millions. The artist was known to be Walter Keane. In reality, the one with the paint brush in hand was really Keane's wife — Margaret Keane.  Walter forced to live a prison-like existence, painting behind closed doors and windows for 16 hours a day, alone, with no friends, creating work he claimed to be his. Margaret went along with the fraud for a while, then confessed the truth to a reporter from the UPI in October of 1970. Lawsuits, mud-slinging and divorce followed. After publishing his memoirs — full of lies — Walter died in 2000. Margaret won her court …

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Journaling keeps you grounded so you don’t fall down the rabbit hole into Wonderland – where you are ‘wondering’ if it is real or not

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "GoldenGirl.” I remember my first red flag. We were walking to his car on a first date after about three months of telephone conversation after we first met. I was so shocked by what “I” blurted out, that I ignored my own advice. As we were close to his car, I turned to him and said, for no specific reason, “If you ever lie to me I will leave you.” I immediately apologized and said, “I don't know where that came from! I have never said anything like that to someone before in my life.” It is five years later and I dearly wish that I had followed my own advice. I was 65 at the time, had not …

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Christie Brinkley receives public apology from ex-husband’s 2nd ex-wife

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Suzanne Shaw, architect Peter Cook's second wife, realized she should have listened to Christie Brinkley. The supermodel — Cook's first wife —  tried to warn Shaw of Cook's philandering before she married him. Shaw and Cook have now split up due to Cook's “skirt chasing.” Shaw felt that a public apology to Brinkley was both 'appropriate and deserved.' Peter Cook's ex apologizes to Brinkley for ignoring warnings, from NYPOST.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader. …

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Brad Robinson: Are you being tracked while in your vehicle?

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By Brad Robinson, Private Investigator Increasingly, we are contacted by clients who are convinced that their sociopath is tracking or monitoring them even when they are alone in their vehicle. Sometimes this is merely the imagination of someone who (often with good reason) has become frightened and a bit paranoid. Often we are able to determine that their ex (or a friend or relative he has co-opted or a private investigator he has hired) is physically surveilling our client. Increasingly, however, our investigation reveals that our client has become the victim of technical surveillance, i.e., a device has been secretly installed on/in their vehicle. GPS = Global Positioning System By …

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Forgive or don’t forgive; that is the question

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Peg Streep, a New York City based writer and author or coauthor of nine books, explores the complicated concept of forgiveness Her findings come from concentrating on the psychological point of view of three questions: What is forgiveness, anyway? Is forgiveness an evolutionary step forward? Does forgiving make you a doormat? She also addresses the questions, why do humans forgive and, when they do, how do they hope to benefit? When You Should and Should Not Forgive, from Psychology Today. Link supplied by Lovefraud reader. …

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Letter to the next target

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A Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "new_day" knows the next target her sociopathic ex has lined up. New_day and the sociopath divorced when their son was one year old. He then left the next girlfriend before their baby's first birthday. He just proposed to the current girlfriend. It really bothers new_day to sit back and watch. She wants to warn the woman, but doesn't dare, because then she will be back in the drama. Here's what new_day would like to say to her ex-husband's next target: Do you catch yourself wondering why he tells those little white lies; I mean about things that aren't even worth lying about? Or why he is so secretive about things that aren't even worth lying …

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When there seems to be no escape from the sociopath …

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Yesterday Lovefraud posted the story of "Billyjean" in an article called Alone. Exhausted. Lonely. Stressed. Stuck. The headline pretty much sums up Billyjean's position. This single mom had thought she found a man who loved her. She married him, became pregnant and discovered he was cheating on her. Now Billyjean has a baby, no family support, and can't afford to leave. Plus, although her ex doesn't want to be with her, he also doesn't want to divorce her. He provides some financial support, and therefore feels entitled to show up at Billyjean's apartment whenever he wants, supposedly to see the child which prevents Billyjean from moving on in her life. This man is displaying his …

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