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A lifetime’s worth of drama in a two-month relationship

A lifetime’s worth of drama in a two-month relationship

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Trevor18.”

I came across your work after I spent about two months in the craziest relationship I’ve ever experienced. The relationship and how it abruptly ended left me feeling confused and then I was compelled to seek answers. I just didn’t know what to do. Then I stumbled upon Cluster B personality disorders and eventually I found your list of 10 signs of dating a sociopath.

1: Charisma/Charm

Lovefraud Readers in Australia: Do you want to tell your story on TV?
By February 19, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Lovefraud Readers in Australia: Do you want to tell your story on TV?

Lovefraud has been contacted by a producer for the Australian broadcaster SBS. She works for the show called Insight. They are planning a segment called, “Partners & Lies: What happens when you find out your partner isn’t who you thought they were?” They are specifically looking for people who were married or in a relationship for a long time with someone who turned out to have a secret life.

The show will tape next week in the Sydney area.


 
Florida shooter Nikolas Cruz — psychopath, psychotic or traumatized?
By February 19, 2018 1 Comments Read More →

Florida shooter Nikolas Cruz — psychopath, psychotic or traumatized?

Nikolas Cruz was charged with 17 counts of premeditated murder in the Parkland, Florida school shooting.

Another school shooting. Last week, Nikolas Cruz, 19, shot up his former school, Marjory Stoneman Douglas High in Parkland, Florida. He killed 17 people and wounded 14 more.

In the initial reporting about the incident, none of the students who knew Cruz were surprised. They feared him and mostly stayed away from him. The New York Times reported:

“A lot of people were saying that it would be him,” the student told WFOR-TV. “They would say he would be the one to shoot up the school. Everyone predicted it.”

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 30: Celebrate
By February 16, 2018 1 Comments Read More →

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 30: Celebrate

Let’s go party on days that end in Y, drink Russian, drive German, wear Italian and kiss French! Friends, if you are expecting some guidance on this subject, I might not be the right person.

The final practice of our 30-Day self-love and healing journey is about rewarding yourself. It’s about rewarding the process, and not the outcome. Following up from the previous session on failing, this brief visualization exercise once again redefines failure, an act that is not about falling, but about getting up. Rewarding yourself is something you can do consistently to help yourself get up and rise up.


 
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 29: FAIL
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Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 29: FAIL

Another four letter F word you might think and you are quite right. We learned about FINE and it’s quite fine to fail, since failure is the First Attempt In Learning. If you define it as anything else, it may be a misconception.

We have been programmed to perceive failure as a negative experience, however, this practice redefines this word, encouraging us to fail, fail today, fail tomorrow and fail over and over, because every time you will get one step closer to your dream.


My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 4

My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 4

Editor’s note: Following is a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we’ll call “Grace18.” Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4.

As a woman, having been involved on the sidelines with women of many age groups for decades, who were victims of abuse, I found that the one group, constantly being forgotten was the “older” generation. So many of these women, were the mothers….the grandmothers….the aunts, who carried the work load and the child-rearing in dignity, while holding onto their secrets.

Because I had such a variety of friends covering ages above me and coming up behind me, the stories existed with that silence.

Are highly empathetic people particularly attracted to the calm, confidence exhibited by sociopaths?
By February 15, 2018 3 Comments Read More →

Are highly empathetic people particularly attracted to the calm, confidence exhibited by sociopaths?

Husband Liar Sociopath

The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between: Part B

As I mentioned last week, I recently read the book The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between by Dr. Abigail Marsh, Associate Professor of Psychology and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience at Georgetown University. Her book sparked some “light-bulb moments.” I shared the first two last week, and I am sharing the third and fourth light-bulb moments this week. For those who read last week’s post, you might want to skip directly to light-bulb moment number three, below.

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 28: VAKS
By February 15, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 28: VAKS

Did you VAKS this morning? If not, you have probably missed an opportunity to get one step closer to your goal or dream. Many successful people use similar exercises to achieve great results as part of their mental conditioning.

Watch the brief session to learn about VAKS and how you can integrate it into each and every day to see changes in your life. Exercises like this would probably take only 5 minutes, but it is so important to make them as part of your daily routine.


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 27: TIME
By February 14, 2018 2 Comments Read More →

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 27: TIME

For some TIME stands for Tears In My Eyes, and for some others it’s a Triumphant, Innovative Meaningful Experience. Time may be a noun for you and a verb for me. It depends who is using it and how, but one thing we all know for sure is that time is FREE for all of us, and it is the most priceless thing.


Our cultural conspiracy of silence about predators and pain finally begins to crack
By February 14, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Our cultural conspiracy of silence about predators and pain finally begins to crack

By Eleanor Cowan

“She broke her neck on her way down,” said a police officer at the scene. Thick yellow spray paint outlined an ovary-shaped form on the grass from which my mother’s body had been removed, wrapped in a zippered tarpaulin. Two screaming witnesses, bathers who’d been enjoying a pleasant afternoon by the building’s outdoor pool on that sunny August day, had happened to glance up to witness my mother’s horrid plummet from her seventh-floor balcony.

“She didn’t feel the final impact,” the investigator added. I noticed a tinged bloodstain on the grass.

“The skull sustained a crack,” said the kindly officer, following my gaze.

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