Editor’s note: The Lovefraud author Eleanor Cowan wants to educate survivors of narcissistic abuse into recognizing how their own actions may contribute to their misery. She is writing a collection of true stories called, “Impactful Stories for Stubborn Codependents.” Eleanor’s biographical book is called, “A History of a Pedophile’s Wife.” Who’s Responsible for This? By Eleanor Cowan “You’ve never snapped at me before, Mia,” said her post-surgery patient, a long-distance trucker anxious to be back on the road. “My team’s heading to my dreamed-of Alaska next week. I so want to be with them,” he pleaded, frustrated that Nurse Mia declined to sign his discharge papers. “Let’s not …
Why psychopaths can’t love
The fundamental problem with psychopaths is that they do not have the ability to authentically love. I say this all the time in my articles and videos. A reasonable question to ask is why? Why can’t psychopaths love? For the answer, we need to look deep into human biology, psychology and even evolution. Luckily, the Lovefraud author Dr. Liane Leedom has done this. She is a psychiatrist and professor of psychology and counseling at the University of Bridgeport. I am interviewing her on Lovefraud Live on Jan. 7, 2026, at 8 pm ET, when she will explain in detail why psychopaths can’t love. Here are the basics, based on one of Dr. Leedom’s published works called, Psychopathy: A Behavioral …
8 attempts to control a sociopath: They all fail
You’ve probably been shocked, even blindsided, by the behavior of the sociopath. Why? Because his or her behavior violates your longstanding, lifelong models of what it means to be human and how people should act. Following are eight ways people often attempt to control a sociopath. They all fail. Remember, a sociopath, according to the Lovefraud author Dr. Liane Leedom, is someone who preys on and/or damages nearly everyone they spend time with. Clinically, they could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder. You may look up the definitions of these disorders and decide that they seem to fit the person who is …
Why everything falls apart after the sociopath
I’ve noticed a pattern among people who have left, or are leaving, sociopaths. Here it is: As they are escaping, multiple aspects of their lives become a mess. Today I’ll explain why everything falls apart after the sociopath. This happened to me. I left my sociopathic husband when I discovered that not only was he spending all my money, but he was also cheating on me and had a child with another woman during our marriage. We had moved to Florida for one of his business schemes. Because we were married, I felt obligated to support my husband’s goals — until I was broke. That obligation ended when I discovered his infidelity. I abandoned him and drove back to New …