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Donna Andersen is the author of Lovefraud.com.

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He lied up until the last minute of our relationship

He lied up until the last minute of our relationship

 

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Claudette.”

Met online. He was a perfect gentleman. We had several dates until he started talking about mind, body and spirit (which meant sex to him) and I mentioned I do not have sex just to be having sex. That night he says let’s be boyfriend and girlfriend. So we did become BF and GF.

I assumed (stupid me) that he would take his dating profile down since now in a committed relationship. I took mine down and never looked again, until one day my GF called me and told me that she was just matched (online dating site) with him. AND that he was currently online searching.

Senior Sociopath survey closing soon

Senior Sociopath survey closing soon

There’s a rumor floating around in mental health circles that sociopaths “burn out” with age, that they engage in less antisocial behavior as they get older.

Is this true?

Lovefraud wants to find out. So we’ve developed a survey to gather data from you.

Were you involved with a sociopath while he or she was over age 50? The individual could have been any of the following:

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse
  • Your romantic partner
  • Your parent
  • Angry Frowning Man with Arms FoldedYour stepparent
  • Your child
  • Your stepchild
  • Your sibling
  • Another family member
  • A work colleague
  • A business associate
 
The realization that someone you thought you knew and loved is a sociopath is brutal

The realization that someone you thought you knew and loved is a sociopath is brutal

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 45C: Whack-A-Mole Returns

Ken Boyer, 60, cheats with multiple women while claiming to have cancer

Ken Boyer, 60, cheats with multiple women while claiming to have cancer

Ken Boyer, who claimed to have cancer. (Facebook)

You need a score card to keep track of all the women Ken Boyer, 60, has targeted, seduced and defrauded — all while claiming to be dying of cancer.

Boyer recently reconnected with his “long lost love,” Michelle Kimbrell, and married her — despite the fact that he had also proposed to Karen Hagerty, Cheryl Alvarez and Barbara Jones.

Barbara Jones is suing him to get back the $22,000 of her money that he allegedly blew on dental work, a customized Harley Davidson and shady investments.

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Life is rough for ‘Long Island Lolita,’ who shot Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the face

Life is rough for ‘Long Island Lolita,’ who shot Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the face

Amy Fisher

Amy Fisher

In 1992, Mary Jo Buttafuoco, of Long Island, New York, opened her front door — and life as she knew it changed forever.

Amy Fisher, then 16 years old and having an affair with Joey Buttafuoco, Mary Jo’s husband, shot her in the face.

Mary Jo survived and identified her assailant. Amy Fisher, dubbed the “Long Island Lolita,” served seven years in prison. She showed no remorse. Now, she can’t get a date and her kids have no friends.

‘Long Island Lolita’ Amy Fisher, who shot the wife of her 35-year-old lover when she was 16, returns to New York after her kids were ruthlessly tormented in Florida, on DailyMail.co.uk.

Can therapy help a psychopath? 3 key factors

Can therapy help a psychopath? 3 key factors

Socipathic eyesThe behavior of some people in your life leaves you shocked and mystified. They tell stories that don’t add up, in fact, they flat out lie. They are charming one minute and hateful the next. They hurt you, seemingly on purpose, and then act like nothing happened.

You come to the conclusion that something is wrong with them. They need help. They should go to therapy.

The behavior I described above is typical of psychopathy and other personality disorders. So can therapy help a psychopath?

The Atlantic publishes: ‘When Your Child Is a Psychopath’

The Atlantic publishes: ‘When Your Child Is a Psychopath’

When Samantha was six years old, she tried to choke her two-year-old sister as they sat in the back seat of their mother’s car. After mom separated them, Samantha said she wanted to kill everyone in the family.

The anecdote starts an article in the June issue of The Atlantic, When Your Child Is a Psychopath. The author, Barbara Bradley Hagerty, writes that Samantha was diagnosed with conduct disorder with callous and unemotional traits. She has the traits of a budding psychopath.

Hagerty spoke to many of the leading experts on psychopathy and how it develops for this article. It’s a good explanation of the state of the science.

Therapists: How to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship

Therapists: How to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar

Presented by Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHt

Love and Exploitation
Part 1 – June 5 • 12-2 PM ET
Part 2 – June 12 • 12-2 PM ET
4 credits available for psychologists and social workers

Therapists – When you were in training, did you learn about how people with personality disorders affect their partners? Probably not.

That’s why this Lovefraud CE course is so important. Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHt, will fill in a big gap in your professional training. In this webinar, she’ll teach you how to recognize when a client’s distress is not his or her own anxiety or depression, but a normal reaction to a manipulative relationship.

With a sociopath, when “no contact” isn’t possible, try the “grey rock method”

With a sociopath, when “no contact” isn’t possible, try the “grey rock method”

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 45B: Whack-A-Mole Returns

In retrospect, I wish I had had the energy and foresight to move back East immediately, but I was too tired and too ashamed that I had made such a disruptive change in my life, maybe for nothing. Also, both kids seemed to be enjoying life in the mountains, and I did not want to uproot them again in such a short time span. That would hardly be fair to them. There would be time to move back East, just not now.

Australians lose $300 million to scams

Australians lose $300 million to scams

con manAustralians lost $300 million to scams in 2016, up 47% from the previous year, according to the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission and the Australian Cybercrime Online Reporting Network.

More than 200,000 complaints were filed. The greatest losses, $59 million, came from investment scams, followed by $42 million in losses from romance scams.

One third of romance scams victims met the con artist through a social media platform.

Australians report losses of $300 million to scams in 2016, on SMH.com.au.

$300 million lost in online scams as they reach record levels in Australia, on AdelaideNow.com.au.

 

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