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Love Fraud book excerpt: Discovering the truth of my sociopathic husband’s lies

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Between now and the end of the year, I will publish excerpts from my first book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. I posted some excerpts earlier in the year. To start the series from the beginning, read: Meeting my future husband (the sociopath) By Donna Andersen I'd discovered the shocking truth — my husband, James Montgomery, not only cheated on me. He had a child with another woman during our marriage. And that was just the one of his betrayals … What else did James do? How many women were there? The questions in my mind multiplied exponentially. Maybe my husband’s office—his audacious lair right in my home—held answers. For more than …

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Love Fraud book excerpt: My marriage to the sociopath was over

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Earlier this year, I published excerpts from my first book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. Between now and the end of the year, I'll publish some more. To start the series from the beginning, read: Meeting my future husband (the sociopath) By Donna Andersen I discovered proof that my husband, James Montgomery, was cheating on me. In fact, he'd had a child with another woman. Finally, I could leave. The marriage was over. But at that moment, my soon-to-be ex-husband was on his way to my home, the home that I paid for, in Atlantic City, New Jersey. I couldn’t let him know what I had discovered. I didn’t know what he would do, and I didn’t want …

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On Thanksgiving 2019, the energy of gratitude

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  One of the most healing energies of the universe is gratitude. No matter what your situation, finding something to be grateful for can help you move forward. This may seem difficult, especially if you've recently discovered that you've been betrayed by a sociopath. But even under these circumstances, you can be grateful that you have finally learned the truth. My own experience with a sociopath was shattering. But one thing that was demolished was the wall I had built around myself. With that gone, I was able to move forward and find true love and companionship, and for that I am grateful. To all Lovefraud readers, thank you for your contributions to our collective …

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Video: To parents who must send their kids to spend time with a disordered ex

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  You left your partner because he or she is disordered. Unfortunately, you have kids together. So now, you must co-parent and send the kids to spend time with your ex — alone. Knowing the sociopath's abusive personality, you worry. And you wonder — what can you do to help them? Claudia Paradise, LCSW-R, a psychotherapist in New York City, helps parents like you all the time. So now, she is sharing her knowledge and experience with all Lovefraud parents who are in this situation in her upcoming webinar: Empowering the child who must spend time alone with a disordered parent Wednesday, November 20, 2019 • 7 to 9 pm ET • $50 Instructor: Claudia Paradise, LCSW-R This course …

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Wife dead, kids dead, suicide — listen to the story of a true sociopath

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It was a shocking story about a sociopath, even for Lovefraud readers, most of whom have lived their own shocking stories about sociopaths. On Feb. 5, 2012, Josh Powell, grabbed his two young sons from a social worker who was supposed to monitor his visit with them, hacked them with a hatchet, and then blew up his house, killing the two boys and himself. The boys' mother, Susan Cox Powell, had disappeared more than two years earlier, on Dec. 6, 2009. Josh Powell was the prime suspect, but he had never been arrested. This year, a podcast about the case, called Cold, was released by KSL NewsRadio, of Salt Lake City, Utah. It includes never-heard-before audio tapes recorded by Josh …

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How did your family member become mind controlled by a sociopath?

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Perhaps you're a heartbroken mother or father, worried sick about your adult child, who is entangled with a sociopath and becoming more and more distant. Or perhaps you're an adult child, afraid that the new person in the life of your mother or father is an exploiter, angling for your parent's assets. Whether it's a family member or friend, it's painful to see someone you care about being mind controlled by a human predator. And you wonder, how did this happen? Here are some points to help you understand the process. Essentially, sociopaths —people with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder — take advantage of the characteristics that …

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Why you can become addicted to a sociopath

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Updated for 2019 Lovefraud received the following email from a reader: Why can't I get past this jerk? Why do I feel like there is something wrong with me? You see he dumped me for a female version of himself, i.e., drug dealer, liar, manipulator, violent — and he is stringing me along bad mouthing her to me and vice versa. Never in a million years would I think I would even associate myself with someone like that! Yet I'm beating myself up - why not me?? I should be grateful!! Why am I still pining for this creep? Many, many Lovefraud readers have described the same confusion: I realize now that the person is a sociopath. I know he betrayed me. I know he is bad for me. But I still love …

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Is he a sociopath or am I the toxic person?

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Carolina." I am completely confused about what actually happened and what is going on. I recently broke up with my boyfriend — we have been on and off for the past 18 years — I met him when I was 10 years old. He made me think he was the perfect man. And that he was loyal honest trustworthy sincere caring my soul mate. I'm not a perfect person — I have made mistakes — but he always made me feel secure. I was really dependent on him — he was my whole world. I've always tried to self-evaluate and fix my behavior and I've always been open about talking to him about everything and anything and I thought he …

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Book Review: The psychopaths of the Holocaust

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Holocaust Memories: A survey of Holocaust memoirs, histories, novels, and films, by Claudia Moscovici Review by Donna Andersen Most of us have some knowledge of the Holocaust. We've heard about the concentration camps and gas chambers. We know one of Adolf Hitler's objectives during World War II was the "Final Solution" — an attempt to wipe out the Jewish population of Europe. We know that six million Jews were murdered, plus millions more Communists, prisoners of war, gypsies, intellectuals, handicapped people and others. We may have seen movies like Schindler's List and Sophie's Choice. Maybe we read The Diary of Anne Frank. But it's doubtful that we understand the true brutality …

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Video: Finally, how to break your addiction to the sociopath

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For all of you who know intellectually that the sociopath is deceitful, abusive, dangerous and unhealthy — yet you struggle to put the person out of your life — this webinar is for you. EFT Tapping to Break Your Addiction to a Sociopath Wednesday, Sept. 25 • 8 - 9 pm ET Instructor: Stacey Vornbrock, MS, LPC You are not imagining your addiction. Stacey Vornbrock, a licensed professional counselor and expert on EFT tapping, explains how your cells really are addicted to certain emotions — emotions that the sociopath is an expert at triggering. This is amazing stuff. These techniques will enable you to finally get the sociopath out of your head and out of your heart, so you can move …

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