Emotional detachment

I found detachment helped while I was in the early stages of rebuilding my self but, after a while, that detachment began to feel like it got in between me and feeling alive. It feels like I need to feel where I’ve been so as to register that those feelings were a warning that I ignored. I won’t ignore them again.

I agree that indifference is the opposite of love but it seems to me that someone else’s unloving heart shouldn’t be the one that causes you to change your loving one.

Just a thought…

Hi Sunnygal and apologies if I came across as criticising – I didn’t intend that. I meant only that, for me, detachment from how I feel about him brought about a detachment from that kind of connection. That kind of connection being different from family and friend connections.

I find that indifference and detachment come as a natural result from working through the painful feelings. I think you can distance yourself from someone emotionally but you won’t truly be able to detach until you’ve processed the feelings. If you do, you will attract someone similar to the former person so you can once again have the opportunity to clear the repressed feelings.