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ASK DR. LEEDOM: Is there a gender bias against men in the diagnosis of sociopathy?

There is gender bias in our current mental health diagnostic system. This bias occurs for three reasons.

  1. There are genuine gender differences in the manifestation of behavioral disorders.
  2. Those creating the diagnostic categories are biased.
  3. Those making the diagnoses are biased.

Each of these reasons for gender bias is operative with regard to sociopathy. We would hope though that gender differences found in behavioral disorders reflect true physiologic differences between men and women. This week I will attempt to convince you that physiologic differences between men and women account for the higher prevalence of sociopathy in men.

That men and women are different physiologically is apparent from our appearance. Other than the obvious difference in external genitalia, men are on average taller, stronger, have facial hair, deeper voices and smaller breasts. But take each of these secondary sex characteristics individually and you will see where the problem lies. There are some women who are taller than many men. There are other women who are physically very strong and others who have deep voices. Much money is spent on fixing the “problem” of facial hair and small breast size in some women. The point is that gender differences represent group differences in aggregate qualities.

The real question is, “is there some physical difference between men and women that causes more men to develop into sociopaths?” Alternatively, maybe we just label men with aggressive behavior sociopaths and we fail to label women, or we call them something else.

Hormones and sociopathy

There are two fairly consistent hormonal findings in sociopaths as a group. Sociopaths tend to have higher levels of masculine hormones like testosterone (androgens). They also have lower stress hormone (cortisol) output in response to stress. Higher androgen levels have been found in both male and female sociopaths. However, the abnormal stress hormone response to stress has only been documented for male sociopaths. There is one study that shows this characteristic is not present in female sociopaths. Hold this thought in mind because I am going to come back to it.

Borderline personality disorder is more common in women

Although more men than women are diagnosed with sociopathy, there is a sister condition to sociopathy that overwhelmingly more women get diagnosed with. That condition is borderline personality disorder (BPD). There is even more gender bias in the diagnosis of BPD than there is in the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder (ASPD/sociopathy). It is relatively unusual for men to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

The DSM-IV defines BPD as: “a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts.” If you have been involved with a sociopath, you may be saying, “Wow that sounds like my ex!” In fact many with ASPD could also be diagnosed with BPD and vise versa. Nearly 40% of a clinical population met criteria for BOTH disorders in one study.

Many psychoanalysts consider those with ASPD to have an “underlying borderline personality organization.” I can’t really comment on that because it all sounds like psychobabble to me. But I can comment on why there is so much over lap between borderline and antisocial personality disorders, and why one is more common in men and the other in women.

Over the course of human evolution, there has been substantial selection pressure for women to have empathy and self control. Simply speaking, a woman without these had much less chance to survive and reproduce. Empathy is important, but differentially important for males. Therefore, when our nervous systems develop under the influence of our sex steroids, it is relatively more unusual for a woman to develop completely devoid of empathy. Lack of empathy is a central characteristic of ASPD but is not as pronounced in BPD.

The development of ASPD and BPD

Mother Nature also selected for women who are more cautious, less risk taking and more fearful. This is why anxiety disorders are much more common in women. Fearlessness and risk taking are part of the ASPD diagnosis. Anxiety is a central feature of BPD.

On this blog, I have written a great deal about the human social dominance drive. This drive is also called the power motive or need for power. I have explained that this need for power motivates much of the sociopath’s behavior. The power motive is also largely under the influence of testosterone in both men and women. The power motive causes women with BPD to be “manipulative.” But they do not show the proactive aggression that characterizes ASPD. If they did, they would be called ASPD rather than BPD.

So why is there a gender difference in the manifestation of the power motive? The reason is stress hormones. There is an interesting overlap between sex hormones and stress hormones. The interplay between sex hormones and stress hormones is partly responsible for the development of ASPD, and an excessive focus on power in relationships. I believe this is the major reason why we more commonly see BPD in women and ASPD in men.

The hormonal stress response is different in males and females. In boys and men, stress activates the sympathetic nervous system and also releases cortisol from the adrenal gland. The sympathetic nervous system stimulates the testis to release more testosterone. This is likely why childhood stress is related to the development of ASPD in boys and is also why harsh punishment increases, not decreases aggressive behavior in problem boys. Stress substantially increases testosterone in many boys and testosterone increases power motivated behavior.

In social interactions, children learn submissive behavior due partly to cortisol released in response to encounters with adults who are dominant or more powerful. When the average at-risk boy has these power encounters with adults, his body releases more testosterone than cortisol. Thus, power struggles increase dominance/aggressive behavior in at risk boys because these boy’s adrenal glands do not release enough cortisol in response to stress.

Since women do not have testis, they do not have this androgen boost in response to stress. The adrenal glands of some women do release more androgens in response to stress, this is why stress is associated with the development of ASPD in some girls. Remember also, nearly all cultures pressure girls from an early age to suppress their dominance drives, whereas boys are encouraged to be competitive and aggressive.

Most women with BPD were sexually molested as young girls. A history of sexual molestation is also common in incarcerated women and in women diagnosed with ASPD. It is very likely that the body’s response to childhood stress dictates whether a woman develops ASPD as opposed to BPD.

There are many adults with ASPD and BPD who did not experience excessive childhood stress. Many of these adults had ADD/ADHD as children. Impulsivity is a primary symptom of ADHD, BPD and ASPD. In antisocial individuals this impulsivity is associated with the enjoyment of aggression and power over others. In BPD others are manipulated but the aggression is primarily directed at the self.

To sum it all up then, an out of control drive for social dominance is required for the full manifestation of ASPD. Sociopaths thrive on power. Physiologically, boys and men are predisposed to develop an excessive dominance drive. This difference in the power motive is responsible for part of the gender differences found in ASPD and BPD. The other part of the gender gap is explained by increased levels of anxiety in women.


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I found this to be a very interesting article in that I have been a victim of 2 men with ASPD and 1 woman friend of 11 yrs with BPD. My experiences with these types have left me with the feeling that if someone were to be involved with them and this person (with ASPD or BPD) abandons you and leaves you alone, count yourself as lucky!! I feel like I’m never going to rid myself of mine. I share my children with my 2 ex’s and the friend has managed to manipulate my other friends into her little web of deception. Although I no longer have anything to do with any of them, they have found ways to get to me through their modes of operation which is extreme manipulation. I even moved a few miles from town to get away from them but they are quite persistent at defaming my character to others. With them it was all about power and control and what they could take from me….I felt very used! My only defense mechanism is to not let it bother me and to keep raising my children with the good morals I learned from my family and to work hard at my job earning a living the good old-fashioned way!!

While I must agree with the author that there is gender bias in diagnosis, I must disagree with key points in this article. I recognize it as a valiant attempt in analysis to blend behavior with medical aspects. While many physicians, in fact most, believe that “chemistry causes behavior” few have ever considered that “behavior causes chemistry.”

It is from that assumption that I operate. Having provided services as a psychologist in maximum security prisons (Level 5 Security complete with Condemned Row aka Death Row) for 5 years, I can assure the reader that equating ASPD with sociopathy is completely off the mark. Indeed, this is a debate for professionals. It is complex and multi-faceted, and in my opinion, it may represent the last great undiscovered & uncharted territory in psychology.

BUT REMEMBER: The Map is Not the Territory.

While this article conveys the horrible state our diagnostic science is in, it is not accurate. For one, we do not have the data on hormone levels in female sociopaths. For another, female sociopaths are underdiagnosed. Finally, the categories of Borderline Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder and Sociopaths [Note: There is no parallel construction in this list because there is no equivalency between the two formally recognized diagnostic categories and sociopathy!] are not discrete–even in conceptualization!

Moreover, the true sociopath is so apposite the typical ASPD that the two should not be included in the same categories, but they are. This shows the paucity of our current diagnostic nosology to describe must less address the differences AND treat them!

The female psychologists with whom I worked in the penitentiaries hated working with female inmates. My colleagues said that this was because female felons were so much more manipulative and, in their opinions, FAR MORE DANGEROUS.

While we have just started diagnosing BPD in male inmates with ASPD, females are hardly even diagnosed with ASPD! Furthermore, female sociopaths are so much better equipped than male sociopaths in my opinion that we almost never detect them! We are blind and the female sociopath is far more vicious and is far more talented than most of the many male felons I have treated. It is indeed humbling to realize that the female in our species, as in the wild animal kingdom, is far more deadly than the male!

Do not call a Sociopath, do not diagnose a sociopath with Anti-Social Personality Disorder. While I realize that ASPD is the only recognized disorder by which to label sociopaths in our current diagnostic system, it paints a completely different picture than the vast bulk of those with functional Anti-Social Personality Styles, traits, features as well as the disorders.

My suspicion is that sociopaths do not develop as a result of some great drive for power but rather that they are some how traumatized to such a horrible degree that they learn early to dissociate and they overcompensate in areas to make them immune from hurt/harm. And thereafter they learn the advantages their new “talents” give them over the average person. BUT, it comes at a price–the inability to attach and to ever feel love, to feel close and enjoy the full riches of being fully human!

Finally, we must recognize that these are not discrete categories and there are wide degrees of sociopathy. Some may even be amenable to treatment, but, that said, the sociopath challenges the strictly behavioral models and assumptions from which I operate. It will be a rich discussion indeed as we unravel what makes a sociopath and try to rescue a few of them from themselves.

I would agree that there isn’t much out there on female psychopaths, and this chemical explaination leave me a little short too. It doesn’t really help me to understand for my ex wife, who turned out to be the most domineering, deceptive, abusive and manipulative person I ever met. Let me provide examples to illustrate, in case you’re doing what even I would do if I read a man writing something like that (doubting him). It might help some other poor sap out there trying to wrap his mind around the living hell a she devil has placed him in.

I really don’t know what she was in terms of lables, and don’t know if it matters. She constantly lied, manipulated, mislead, withheld information, got drunk to “decompress”, acted absurdly jealous, and talked down to me every day in a way that reminded me of one of my frat brothers joking around and trying to “punk me”. At first, I laughed it all off.

Nevertheless, I was the greatest fool. The first red flag I chose to ignore came when she spit on the guy parking the cars on our first date when we first me. It was so far out, I thought it was amusing. Looking back, I see how stupid this is. Next, she told me in seriousness that she would shoot her step father dead if she saw him again. I laughed and jokingly offered to help, thinking she had to be joking about some really powerful feelings she was trying to get over. So I can’t say she didn’t come with a warning lable. Nevertheless, I married her, because I though she was unique, funny, smart, beautiful and basically a good person (yes, I can be very stupid sometimes).

Soon after we married, the hell began. She accused me of working her like a slave, and called the police on me as a reflex at least 10 times over 2 years, lying right to their faces in order to punish me. I stood by the truth, and was never really hurt too badly, but it was always gut wrenching when police took my liar’s word a face value time and again, in spite of her pattern of deception. However, let me say that I was once nearly killed, was falsely arrested and jailed, was professionally investigated the entire time, was robbed of thousands by check fraud and credit card fraud, was falsely detained based on her report that I was carrying drugs interstate, and was humiliated in front of friends and family, and was many more things that would have made the TV news if it were the other way around. It seems the system counts on that (men not making too much of the harm they suffer vs. protecting woman from the well known and broadly publicised danger of wife beating, which was made so in wake of OJ. They call it the “OJ effect” as one policeman put it). I like to call it “superbowl sunday syndrome”, because of the national PR about all the wife beating that takes place when losing team fans take out frustrations on their wives.

On the other hand, there is my reality. My wife once ran me over with her car. After getting out of the ER, where the doctor told me I was nearly killed (the massive trauma was close to the liver), I reported it, and the police did nothing, telling me it was a “he said, she said” situation, even though I had emergency room documentation. Police just told me over and over to leave, stay away and get a lawyer. When wifezilla was questioned, she just walked out of the police state “to feed the meter”, and bragged to me about never going back. She is a licensed private detective, and the most unethical professional person I’ve ever seen in action.

When we went for therapy the first time and the therapist was no good because she read the definition of love from the bible to us. At that point, I didn’t know she needed thousand of dollars in fertility treatments for us to have a chance at having a baby, time was running out, and it was all my fault from her point of view.

The second therapy we went for was worse, as I found out she could not have children, was blaming me for it, and was demanding we adopt ASAP, even though we were broke. With the second psychologist, I found that she was calling him each week privately to voice her problems with me, trying to get me to go for private sessions. I found out later she was lying to him about me when the truth about us came out in due course. Soon thereafter, this second therapist’s work came to an end when she got the answer to the question she ask him: “is a person who has had several love relationships harder to treat, or is a person who has never been in love, or had few (by the age of 40)?” He told her a person who has lived without loving anyone was harder to treat, and she quit because that was her. She thought she had proof that our problems where really just mine because I had several relationships in 20 years, where feelings of love existed. She thought she would establish that I was at fault in some way more than she. But she was shocked when the psychologist told her it was harder to treat someone who did not really feel love toward anyone for 20 years (since childhood). On the ride home, she just smoked hard, pulling all the smoke she could, and saying “huh” (as in suprise) all the way home for 20 minutes.

When the next therapist asked her if she was molested, she said she was (which she never admitted to me until then), until a week later when she told me she was just lying to the doctor about being molested. She’d done that before, when she told me that she tried to commit suicide when she was 15, then told me months later that this was a lie. She never could answer why she’d lie when asked. She did it again when she told me her best friend proposed to her after we were engadged, but with a special plan. He said he would marry her “when our marrage did not work out”. There again, months later, she said it was a lie too. So it was month after she told me all her male friends ask her to have sex when she told them she was getting married.

When I left, she trumped up an affair to push her agenda, which is still ongoing. While she admits to “never trusting” me, she calls herself “a pioneer” for marrying me (whatever that means). Every time she got angry with me, she’d post a personal ad online, with a false age and marital status. She told me it was a way of “releasing”. She has trouble with booze too. There are just too many instances of fraud and lying to recount. Whether it’s to “protect herself”, or some chemical thing does not make a bit if difference to anyone who’se living the nightmare.

So is there a bias? It does not matter brother, if you are dealing with a she devil like mine. You just better listen to people around you and run like hell, no matter what you heart or chemicals, or a therapist are telling you because you can bet the only thing her heart is telling her a sounds of silence and to pick your bones Jim. It’s reptile or insect politics, and you are just dead meat; your fear, obligation or guilt can just be wasted energy when you are outrunning that crocodile.

gr8ful70x7 is very insightful to conclude: “My suspicion is that sociopaths do not develop as a result of some great drive for power but rather that they are somehow traumatized to such a horrible degree that they learn early to dissociate and they overcompensate in areas to make them immune from hurt/harm. And thereafter they learn the advantages their new “talents” give them over the average person. But, it comes at a price”“-the inability to attach and to ever feel love, to feel close and enjoy the full riches of being fully human!”

I am aware of studies which show that men who go on to become violent criminals have experienced harsh corporal punishment in childhood. Read Philip Greven’s book, “Spare the Child.” He asserts that during the corporal punishment act, the child, to survive, leaves his body and dissociates from his painful disempowerment. He leaves his body and identifies with the powerful adult. That is the formative experience for the sociopath’s drive to dominate others. But the experience has different repercussions for the two sexes. Dr. Leedom skillfully presents information regarding the differences in biological reactions to stress.

The biology clearly has implications because females are far less likely to commit violent crime than males. Simply look around you. Read the newspaper. Men are more violent. Dr. Leedom presents evidence as to why this is. I am not saying that there are not cruel and manipulative women. There are. But the reality is that men are more prolifically violent.

perniciousfamilycourts

Female Sociopaths are prevalent in our society. We have created this problem by not addressing it. Male Sociopaths are prevalent as well. Our current Legal system, Family Law in particular is creating the ideal environment for the creation of Sociopathic personalities by the hundreds of thousands every year. The system enables and supports Sociopaths because lying in court almost never matters in Family Court, if they are smart about it. They don’t have time to allow for the truth to be exposed, and there is NO CONSEQUENCE for FALSE ALLEGATIONS or PERJURY! I agree, the PSychological profession is way behind the times. Sociopathy in my layman’s opinion as a victim is a combination of several disorders. As my Ex’s PSyche Evaluation stated, she exhibits behaviors associated with Narcissistic, Histrionic, Paranoid, and Borderline personality disorders! But no definitive diagnosis, so she gets the kids???????? It is absilutely destroying our society and our children. The Psychologists gave in to the LAwyers abusive power long ago. Scratch my back, I scratch yours………we don’t want anything definitive because that stops the money making! We won’t consider your field as relevant if you don’t do what we want.If you do what benefits us, we will let you benefit from other people’s misery too! First and foremost, NO ONE should be able to call themselves either a PSychologist or a Social Worker if they have not undergone a full Psychological Evaluation themselves!!!!!! That must be the LAW! Also, PErjury and False Accusations must have definitive consequences under the law including jail time for repeated offenses! Sociopaths have no reason to change or even try to change because there are no laws to protect us from their BULLYING! We can create laws that protect us, we have laws that should protect us, but they are not enforced because it does not benefit the Lawyers pocketbook to do so! Sociopathic women are just as prevalent as men, we just don’t properly identify it and diagnose it and it is going to destroy our society. There are Many Sociopaths in high Corporate positions, PSychologists, Social Workers, Politicians, Lawyers! We need to change the laws and we need to impose definitive consequences! We need to Enforce existing laws! Perjury is a felony, but it is almost never prosecuted! False Accusations proven to be false must be prosecuted! That might create some incentive for the SPaths to change! Just like a druggie, if you don’t confront them, or impose consequences on them, they won’t give up the drugs!

Dear Perniciousfamilycourts,

Thanks for bringing this older thread up, and it DOES APPLY!

I agree with you about the family courts. I am assuming from your posting that you are male and that you ended up losing custody of your kids to a female with X-personality disorder (fill in the blank which one) and the problem is that ALL the PDs “overlap” in symptoms too…so the bottom line as far as I am concerned is “Personality disorder=personality disorder” and it doesn’t matter WHICH one! ALL ARE TOXIC!

The courts DON’T generally get it and everyone gets $$$$ for trying to sort this carp out, and everyone is presumed to be “telling the truth” and “having the best interests of the kids at heart” and more CARP! NOT every parent has the best interests of the kids at heart, and some parents DO use the kids as weapons to bash at the other parent for sport, damn what it does to the kids!

Glad you are here! Thanks for your post, and for bringing up this great older thread out of the archives.

I think there is a hell of a lot more to psychopathy than just hormone levels . From my own experience with a female psychopath , thats my diagnosis , and me being a male , I am convinced that there are certainly as many if not more female psychopaths than male ones . The male ones may tend more towards more violent acts of aggression than the female ones, however the female ones I am sure are more covert and sneaky and perhaps more dangerous . I think the female ones being generally weaker and smaller than their potential male victims realise that for the most part that out right violence will not get them anywhere so they cunningly attack from a different direction , namely the psychological . From my own first hand experience I would say my X had more psychological tricks and head games up her sleave than what most trained psychologists would ever be able to keep track of . I often asked myself , where on earth did she learn all this crap , why would she bother to learn it and what was the purpose . It would appear that more male ones end up in jail because of the violence , the female ones being less outwardly violent are less likely to end up in jail . That does not mean they are less likely to kill , in fact I would be more tempted to think that the way female psychopaths operate is more covert . Perhaps poisoning their victims slowly over time .

quest,
mine poisoned me with different things for 25 years. I was sick, couldn’t work, constant pain. it was supposed to make me commit suicide.

gr8ful70x7 claims to be (and indeed, may well be) “a psychologist in maximum security prisons”.

That is all well and good, but those of us who come here have lived lives and survived experiences that most medical professionals – psychologists included – will never in their wildest dreams encounter or properly understand.

Also, intending no disrespect to gr8ful70x7 or any other psychologist out there, it is the field of psychiatry which researches, treats and deals with mental disorders, personality disorders and anomalies of the psyche – not the field of psychology (which, in my country at least, does not even require a medical degree in order to be practiced, as does psychiatry).

I also note that these comments are from over 3 1/2 years back – and that considerably more research has since been made available on this topic.

That being the case, I would prefer the available evidence of psychiatric research and treatment, which overwhelmingly suggests an overlap between “sociopathy”, BPD and ASPD, and which generally interchanges the terms ASPD and sociopathy. My own personal experience confirms that my ex-husband meets every current available criteria in the both the American DSM and the aligned European version, of ASPD and/or sociopathy/psychopathy. It is also true that his doctors, when trying to pin a diagnosis on him back in 2006/2007, wavered around ASPD and BPD, having earlier dismissed their thoughts of Bi-Polar and/or schizoprenia (which often co-occur and both of which have some similar traits to the Personality Disorders).

My spath stopped attending appointments and refused to undergo further testing, stating that there was “nothing wrong with him” – and to my knowledge, never went back and is still out there, walking around pretending that he is a normal person. To me, this in itself is a clear marker of ASPD and/or sociopathy. I don’t need a psychologist to tell me the spath is not those things.

I lived it and I continue to live with the aftermath.

This was not my first failed relationship – but it is the ONLY one to have unfolded in this particular, disturbing way and to have dragged on and on the way that it is still doing.

It is NOT like anything else I have ever known.

WE know who we are; and WE know WHAT THEY ARE.

Aussie,
You go girl!!!!! You are so correct… we know whow they are!!! Peeling off the mask just kills them!!!

Just to through a wild one out there . Is it possible that some alien genetic material got thrown into the mix and psychopaths just happen to have more of that alien DNA in them than the rest of us . These people are basically predators on the human species . The fact that they have different hormone levels than the average human would seem to be beside the point . If anything it would indicate , perhaps a different species . I’ll bet that pigs and cows have different levels of certain hormones than what humans have . In my mind trying to understand psychopaths in terms of hormone levels is rediculous . The reason these people cannot feel empathy and love for another human is because they are not human . Their nature would appear to be more similar to that of the black widow spider who eats her mate after mating . What I also find bizarre is the similarities between psychopaths . Its as if they have a universal consciousness . They all do the same stuff . I have read many books on psychopathy and thought to myself ,jokingly , the author must have met my X and wrote a book about her . The similarites go so far as playing the same head games , how is this possible when considering subjects from different countries that have never met . I suppose whats really scary is that the internet may be enpowering them . Even this website could be helping them develope new skills that they perhaps would not have picked up on . I read in one book that psychopaths , after therapy actually get worse as all the therapy tends to do is enlighten them to weaknesses in the human psyche . To me this all indicates a lack of humanity not just a variation .

Dear Quest,

It is very normal for groups of people (starting at the tribal level) to look at other tribes or groups as “bad” and having something about their make up that makes them “less than human” or “bad humans” (look at the German people’s views of the Jews, gypsies etc. during and before WWII) The de-humanization of the “other” makes it OK for us to hurt them or treat them poorly, or single them out for abuse.

Actually, the psychopaths de-humanize everyone else except themselves. They don’t have a functioning conscience or empathy so that makes them more easily able to do so.

I can step on a bug or kill a poison snake and not feel guilty about it at all–but my son D gets all over me for killing a poison snake because he says they are beneficial to the environment by eating rodents and other things that carry disease.

I tell him “I DO NOT CARE IF THEY EAT GODZILLA I have seen a poison snake bite and I do NOT WANT ONE and If they come into MY TERRITORY I will kill them.” PERIOD. So I have DE-VALUED poison snakes so that I have NO guilt about killing them. If I were to accidently kill a non-poison king snake though, I would be upset with myself because I VALUE them as rodent control and encourage them to live around here. They also eat poison snakes! If I come on one (a king snake) unexpectedly it may STARTLE me, but I won’t hurt it.

The radical Muslims have de-humanized non-Muslims and so to them it is okay, or even admirable to kill them. They were willing to kill themselves as they plunged planes into the Twin Towers on 9/11, but if we then turn around and DE-humanize ALL Muslims we are doing the same thing that they are doing, we are forming a “them” vs “Us” situation where WE are All OK and THEY are ALL NOT OK.

If a person had no arms and no legs it would not make them less than human, or if they are blind and had no arms and no legs, or were mute and had no arms and no legs and blind as well as deaf…where does “humanity” stop being human as you take away things that are “human attributes?”

How about the children born literally with empty skulls, they have no brain (just a brain stem like a snake that makes them breathe and be aware maybe of pain) are THEY human? Would it be okay to smother them? Put them out of their misery.

I think we have to be careful, and I just had this argument with a friend of mine a week or so ago about our tendency to de-humanize psychopaths because of their violence, their lack of bonding, their manipulation of others.

I used to fully believe in the death penalty, and I actually still do believe that there are some crimes for which someone who is guilty of them should be put to death—BUT at the same time I am not very trusting of our “justice’ system to do the right thing so I am actually against the death penalty now because after examining the number of INNOCENT PEOPLE that DNA evidence has shown were Convicted and sentenced to death or life without parole etc. that have been RELEASED from prison, I figure if they get life at least there might be a chance if they are innocent they might be released and have some portion of their life back, but if we execute them, there’s no home.

I think there is one innocent man on death row here in Arkansas now, bot 17-18 years and the two others he was convicted with that have had life sentences, are up for a review of the DNA evidence that looks like it will free them because they HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE MURDERS they were railroaded for.

Recently a young man convicted of murder but given life was pardoned because DNA evidence showed he was INNOCENT and the cop that FRAMED HIM is on trial now. If he had been put to death, what could have been done for him?

I AM for harsher sentences and I think the fact that the VIOLENCE and other crime rates are LOWER THAN IN YEARS now is BECAUSE more of the psychopaths that are REPEAT offenders are locked up. (we have more people locked up now as a percentage of population than just about any country in the world) Put violent offenders in super max prison and throw away the key.

As much as I hate to admit that psychopaths are people/human, I think they are, and deserve a certain amount of “humane” treatment, but at the same time, I DO think that they must be controlled. If I had a dog that was violent and dangerous I would have NO problem putting it down, but I wouldn’t even put it down in an INHUMANE WAY. If a person is violent and I have to protect myself I will do it; and it is called “self defense,” and I won’t lose any sleep over doing what I have to do to protect myself. I won’t go out and seek revenge on someone though if they will leave me alone in safety in my own territory. Just like I won’t go out into the woods and hunt poison snakes, but if they come into my territory and I find them, I’ll defend my territory.

Dear Ox Drover,
I am not sure what your conclusion was . However consider this . I live in Grizzily bear country . If I go into the woods I always carry a 12 guage shot gun and about 3 cans of bear mace in case I should run into one by accident . I do not hunt any animal whether it be for trophy or food as I am for the most part vegetarian . In the last 20 years since I have been living here I have never had to kill any animal in self defence . I have had a few close calls when I have run into mother black bears with cubs . I have never run into a grizzily while walking as yet and I hope I never do . I know people who have been attacked by grizzily bears . They did not fair to well although they did survive to tell the story . Psychopaths have been a problem for humanity since the beginning of time it would seem . If you consider the more famous ones like Hitler , Caligular etc and perhaps some of our modern day leaders I think it is certainly time that humanity opened its eyes to the potential threat of these beings whether they are considered alien or non human or whatever . You can hardly class them as human any more than you would class a grizzily bear as human . Yogi bear may seem cute and funny and many unsuspecting american tourists come up here with that in mind it would seem . Occasionally some of them get to learn a lesson that they probably did not wish to learn . Yogi bites hard . The same is true of psychopaths . It is inperative that humanity realise the difference between a human and a psychopath . If you look at history it is hard to imagine that most of the wars that have occured did not have something to do with psychopathic involvement at the top . During the first world war there were so many incidences of almost total annialation because troops were sent to invade beaches where they were under fire from the cliffs above . The guy who ordered these invasions should have been put before a firing squad . Stupidity is one thing premeditated stupidity is unforgivable . Psychopaths hide in plain view and sometimes are declared hero’s because the public never gets to hear the whole story . There are enough unresolved questions about 911 to wonder, who were the true culprits . Defend yourself accordingly is my only advice as I can asure that a psychopath knows no mercy .

Quest,
it’s true, that’s how you know a psychopath: they know no mercy.
Kathy Krajco wrote that you could tell one because if you ask a person to please, have a heart, they will. But the psychopath just ramps it up. They have no heart.
But they are not aliens. They are monsters. if you look up monster, it is defined as something that deviates from it’s kind. So they ARE our kind. just grotesquely deviant.
a : an animal or plant of abnormal form or structure
b : one who deviates from normal or acceptable behavior or character
2: a threatening force
3a : an animal of strange or terrifying shape
b : one unusually large for its kind
4: something monstrous; especially : a person of unnatural or extreme ugliness, deformity, wickedness, or cruelty
5: one that is highly successful

Definition #5 is probably a new definition that applies because our society has become so narcissistic that monster is becoming the new normal. BLAH!

Dear Skylar, I agree with you 100%, I think they are deviant humans, but humans none the less. They have “missing parts” like a conscience and empathy.

Quest, You are right too that they show no mercy!

Back when I was a teenager and “knew everything” I thought wars were fought for “truth, justice, the American way and mom and apple pie”—but since then I have come to realize that wars are fought for GREED almost 100% and power is a form of greed.

Some people (psychopaths), and even others to some extent, will do whatever they want to regardless of the consequences to others. Hitler, Mao, Fidel, kings and dictators of all descriptions and all times. Whole societies and cultures believe that some group of humans are “less than we are” and so it is okay to enslave and use them. Women were “second class” for a long time even in western culture and in some cultures today are STILL objects to be owned by men.

That little girl from Iraq whose husband cut off her nose and ears is a perfect example. His is a cultural psychopathy I think, but he also may be a genetic psychopath, at this distance and just reading about it there’s no way to tell but what he did was EVIL in my mind, and his father showing off her nose like a trophy was pure EVIL, but what can you expect too…they were raised that women are not valuable humans, just like cattle.

From the standpoint of my cattle (which I butcher for beef) they view me as a psychopath because I eat them without guilt. I was raised that way, it is my culture—but at the same time, I don’t torture them because I do know they are living creatures and don’t deserve to suffer.

I hope you never meet a grizzly either, I’ve seen some awful photos of the injuries of the people who did survive. I’m glad you do protect yourself though!

Ox Drover,

I think conscience and empathy are what make humans human.

Missing those, then they may have humanoid bodies, but they are animals and not truly human.

My vote is with Skylar. They’re monsters.

Hmmm, G1S I refer to another thread which stated that even animals care for and bond with their young. Monsters do not

G1S,

What about UNconscious people, they have no empathy or conscience, are they human? What about children born ancephalic (without a brain) are they “human?” should they be smothered at birth? They can’t develop empathy or care for anyone or know the difference between right and wrong? How about children with autism, they have no consciences or empathy, are they ‘human?”

Empathy and a conscience (an ability to feel remorse for “wrong” acts) are only two of the qualities that most people have in SOME degree. Dr. Baren-Cohen who researches autism (which children/adults have little or no empathy) shows that empathy is possessed by most of humanity on the “bell curve” of from very little to none (a few) up to the middle in which most people fall, or up to a few on the opposite end of having an over abundance of empathy, just like the “bell shaped curve” of IQ or height or weight, or just about any other characteristic in humans that can be measured.

He sums up the lack of empathy in an autistic person as “Zero+” and the lack of empathy in a psychopath as “zero negative” because the autistic person though they have no empathy, do not enjoy hurting others, whereas the psychopath, having no empathy has “a glee” in hurting others.

Many animals, especially primates, do show empathy and shame, so not being human, they still may bond with their mates and/or their young, and their herd, pack or group.

But even acknowledging that psychopaths are “humans” doesn’t mean that they should not bear the consequences of their behavior.

the definition of monster is that it is truly the same species, only deformed beyond recognition.

The spath, when unmasked, fits that description. It is a mirror image of a human being. it is 180 degrees the opposite, yet resembles us in many ways, superficially, but with no depth.

It is because they are human that they must bear the consequences of their choices. Luckily, there is an omniscient being who can judge better than us, what kind of karma the spaths have reaped.

I’d like to address the question of power, which must have by default aggression factored in as well.

When my son was little and going through all the sports activities kids his age do, he clearly lacked the aggression that was evident in his better-playing teammates. In fact, since he is so tall (currently 6’5″,) he was often called a “gentle giant.” Based on what Dr. Leedom said here, it seemed that athletes would be more prone to sociopathy/psychopathy than others. I haven’t picked up on that in my readings, although you have to wonder about the prevalence of pedeophile coaches.

In contrast, my P sister has a masculine edge to her appearance. She has an “edge/hardness” to her and cannot tolerate “not doing anything.” She needs to be doing something all the time. She and my S mother both claim that they need to use up the energy that pulses through them. I’ve watched them appear agitated for no obvious reason. They may pace a bit, looking for something to do. They exhaust me sometimes because they will not sit down and take a break.

There is no question that I am far more feminine/pretty than my sister. She might be classified (a term I saw used for some women in the early 20th century) a “handsome” woman. I assume this is hormone related. That being said, I know lesbian women who are very masculine in appearance, but are also very kind, empathetic, and loving. So, just because somebody may appear more masculine, I’m not buying that they would be more prone to psychopathy. Maybe hormones are part of the equation, but I don’t think they are a defining factor.

If hormones factor into what makes a P a P, wouldn’t it then follow that male psychopaths etc. would be very masculine in appearance and athletic? Based on the photos that I have seen of known Ps, I don’t think this follows. And what type of masculinity exactly? Think of the big, line-backer types versus those who are very wirey. Two very different body types, but both very masculine in my mind. My P sister has a much more masculine body than I do. I’ve got all the curves (and body fat to go with it!) We used to joke that she looked like a line-backer – not big, but she lacked the curves and a more pronounced feminine appearance. I’ve got the curvy, big butt. Both my S mother and P sister are not hippy and have small butts. Sexually, my P sister likes men. She is on husband #3.

As for monsters, I think somebody who enjoys hurting others is deformed beyond recognition. I would modify what I said earlier by adding that if the person has the capability of knowing right from wrong, but still has glee over hurting or scamming somebody else, they are monsters. No, children born without brains or autistic children would not be monsters by that definition. They present no danger to their fellow human beings. Monsters are dangerous and kill for the sport of it.

Yes, I know that many animals bond and care for their young, but I also know that among certain primates that if a female loses her mate and a new male steps in, the new male may murder her off-spring by her former mate. The theory behind that is to give his off-spring by this female a better chance of survival, possibly even paving the way to eventually becoming the alpha male of the group. Killing the other male’s off-spring reduces the female’s need to care for other off-spring and makes more food available. Having been a pet owner all my life, I know that cats and dogs are capable of empathy, guilt, remorse, and shame.

I believe that it was Dr. Hare who pointed out that one theory why some males abandon their children may be due to some species never know their off-spring, such as fish, certain birds, or turtles. They deposit their sperm and move on. They are not even aware that off-spring have been born or that the infants of their species had anything to do with them. As humans evolved over the centuries, there may have been some males to whom Mother Nature gave this trait, i.e., impregnate but don’t bond or interact with the off-spring, just move on. This is all theory.

The bottom line is that I don’t think anybody really knows and that much more research is needed. It will be probably be many decades before anyone can even begin to make an educated guess.

G1S,
lots of studies show that testosterone reduces empathy. Still, we know from experience that it isn’t the only factor. I think that there is a feedback loop involved in the making of testosterone too.
http://www.africangreys.com/articles/greys/elephants.htm

I have theorized about why spaths make so many babies. I think it’s because they don’t see the babies as responsibilities rather they see them as future ties to the mothers of the babies and later, to the adult children that they can use as supply.

As much as I agree that spaths don’t care about their children, they do see all human beings as pawns to control. So the more babies, the more chance for pawns who can be mined for resources, supply and most of all – emotions.

Sam Vaknin was asked if spaths have enemies and he said, “no, they only have supply.”

Whether you love them or hate them, you are supply because both love and hate are emotions. ANY emotions you give them makes them feel powerful because you are giving them ATTENTION. So if their kids grow up to hate and resent them for having abandoned them, that’s just more supply.

I came back to this topic today because I have “Snakes at Work” by Dr. Hare and Dr. Babiak out at the moment and found a great piece on female psychopaths on pages 101 & 102 of that book.

To quote (it sounds like Dr. Hare is speaking here – the uses of capitals in the piece are mine because I couldn’t emphasize what was being said another way, like boldfacing):

“The issue is clouded by sex-role biases in the diagnosis of the disorder. Thus, when a female and male each exhibit a psychopathic pattern of core personality traits-grandiose, egocentric, selfish, irresponsible, manipulative, deceitful, emotionally shallow, selfish, callous, and lacking in empathy, remorse, and guilt-a clinician will often diagnose the male as a psychopath (or antisocial personality disorder) and the female as something else, usually histrionic or narcissistic personality.

“” the clinician’s diagnosis is influenced by expectations of how psychopaths should behave. That is, the clinician expects psychopaths to be tough, dominant, and aggressive, and a woman who does not project these characteristics is therefore not a psychopath.

“What the clinician fails to understand is that the behaviors of male and female psychopaths, like most other people, are shaped by the sex-role stereotypes cultivated by society. The same underlying personality structure may find different behavior and social expression”

“”makes them (Ps) aware of society’s expectations about sex roles, about what is expected of them as men and women. More than most people, they (psychopaths of both sexes) effectively use these expectations as potent tools for manipulation. SO A FEMALE PSYCHOPATH MIGHT MAKE FULL USE OF THE PASSIVE, WARM, NURTURING, AND DEPENDENT SEX-ROLE STEREOTYPE IN ORDER TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS FROM OTHERS, just as a male psychopath might use a macho image, intimidation, and aggression to achieve satisfaction of his desires.

“Female psychopaths effectively use society’s expectations about female behavior to their own advantage…

“…the public is just catching up with a reality that has been long recognized by writers and those in the entertainment business. Female psychopaths are frequently well portrayed in fiction, true-crime books, television, and movies.”

There is more, but I wanted to respect their copyright and didn’t want to quote too much.

By the way, Strongawoman, not all animals care for and bond with their young. Dr. Hare talked about this.

There are some animals, such as fish or turtles, that lay their eggs, fertilize them, and move on. They never know their offspring.

Dr. Hare theorized that this is one course of development/evolution that Nature can take for the survival of a species; and that when humans were developing, Ps resulted because this course was “considered” before the final “decision” was made and emotionally-healthy humans evolved into parents who bonded with care and care for their young.

G1S, That makes perfect sense!

Femalse spaths learn to use the cultural approprioate female mask, and the clinician is culturally biased on top of it.

And it’s true that in the animal world a large group of species just produce without ever taking care of them or ever knowing them. One could argue it’s the size of their nerve centre or brain, and that the “higher” form like mammals and birds always at least bond with young for a while (except for the cuckoo). But even in the “lower” groups there are some species who take care of their young. Snakes, turtles don’t stay around. But the fiercest and most dangerous crocodile is a mother croc whose eggs are hatching. Some fish do keep their young with them… the seahorse is an example (and it’s the father who keeps and protects them). Some frogs and toads protect the tadpoles, letting them grow in their mouth or on their back. And even some insects stay with their young and take extra care for them: bees, ants, …

It’s just that certain species opt for mass production with the chance that some will survive long enough to reproduce too… Other species produce less offspring, but take care of it until it’s physically adult enough to fend for itself. Nature helps the children, the parents and the tribes/herds with bonding hormones and imprinting, that must cause some type of sensation that we call love. It also creates for species that can learn more from experience and environment, instead of relying solely on instinctive “eat, sex, hide, fight,” behaviour, which caused an evolutionary expansion of the brain.

Kind of brings them to a whole new level, doesn’t it?

I’d add to this “I’m sick” and “I’m elderly” etc. Anything to gain sympathy.

My son’s P father did this during the initial child support hearing. Begged for the court’s understanding because he was an alcoholic. SURE! He had been in AA for 13 years and had been sober 11 of them. He didn’t mention that. And you know what the judge did? Cut him slack.

By the way, Oxy, IMHO, I think there are less crimes happening these days because of all the forensic science being shown on TV and in the movies. Criminals who once thought they could get away with so much are learning about the available science and even with the tiniest of clues, crimes can be solved and criminals identified.

Darwin,

Is it the cookoo that lays its eggs in another bird’s nest and expects that species to care for its young?

Maybe we’ve found the “official” bird for the State of Psychopathy? LOL

Yup, I misspelled it. The cookoo is THE spath bird! And then there are of course the cuckholding species… where some males take care of the family eggs and young along with mom, but mom actually got preggers by a spath version within the species.

G1S,
I think that Diane Downs is the perfect example of a female P. The woman who attempted to kill her 3 children.

If you don’t quite know how a woman can use her “female-ness” to be evil…You will know without any doubt after you see some of the old press interviews with her.

She LOVED the attention the press gave her but actually this worked against her in the end. Because she just never shut up. And she was her own worst enemy when she continued to open her mouth.

Her disconnect with her children was so obvious not only by what she said to incriminate herself but by her actions.
As her 2 children lay in the hospital in very serious condition she was out giving coy, flirty, interviews?

They showed some of these old interviews with the press & Diane Downs on 20/20 several months ago. Just SEEING them makes you sick in your gut.

What about this woman who was claiming to be a 9/11 victim and then turned out she was in Spain or some place like that when the planes hit? It was just on the news this week.

I saw a few clips of her. Quite feminine and “sweet.” They wrote a book about her, The Woman Who Wasn’t There.

Wikipedia has a page on her.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tania_Head

She rose to head the survivors’ network.

Witsend, Diane Downs is ringing a bell with me, but I can’t remember the details.

G1S:

You thought she was feminine and sweet???? Huh??? There is going to be a show on ID about Tania Head this weekend.

G1S,
She (Diane Downs) shot her 3 young children in the early 1980’s.

She also gave herself a superficial gunshot wound in the arm and made up an elaborate story about some shaggy haired stranger that flagged her down on a country road in the night.

She claimed that this stranger shot her and her children.

However she didn’t count on two of her children surviving. And although both were in critical condition 2 of her kids did survive. Her little girl actually had a stroke couple days later in the hospital. Her little boy never walked again.

It wasn’t until the little girl recovered (she couldn’t speak because of stroke) that the authorities questioned her. BUT they had already noticed that when little girl finally was concious the FEAR in her eyes every time her mother came into the hospital room. Also something either her heart rate or blood pressure or something else rose (can’t remember) when her “mommy” was present in the room.

Horrific story.

In the end the little girl was the prosecuters star witness. She had to go in the courtroom with her mother sitting THERE watching her and tell what had happened.
I wondered why thay didn’t do this privately in judges chambers?
Diane Downs also planned to be several months pregnant for the trial. Unbelievable!

The cow bird also throws the eggs of the other bird out of the nest….and some snakes do actually incubate their eggs. Pythons can raise their body temp a degree or two and stay coiled around the eggs to keep the eggs a bit warmer than the underground temp where they burrow up.

Reproduction in species varies a great deal…my son caught a wolf spider in our house the other night that had a 1,000 or more baby spidies on her back…if he had slapped at her with a shoe, the babies would have scattered, but he caught her carefully and put her and her zillion babies outside. Bees and ants work together to reproduce and care for the eggs and babies….

Normal humans have a gooy sense of “ain’t it cute” with any baby critter just about—the big eyes (relative to the face) of any little mammalian creature including human babies makes us want to cuddle them and coo and feel all gushy…and the baby smiling back at us makes us want to interact with it in a positive way, if it is ours or someone else’s…but psychopaths don’t respond to the oxytocin the way normal folks do, so their bonding mechanism is not properly turned on.

I’ve read that they have the normal amount of oxytocin but the number of their RECEPTORS are decreased. Dr. Leedom did an article here on sheep bonding (can’t remember the name of it) which may have more detail about the oxytocin bonding.

Louise,

I only saw very short clips of her.

What I saw came across as feminine and sweet as opposed to someone who was aggressive, sinister, or evil. I didn’t say that I bought it, although undoubtedly that persona fooled a lot of people. That’s why she got away with as much as she did.

This goes to my quote above, that female psychopaths use expectations of feminine behavior to their advantage.

Thanks for the heads up about the ID program this coming weekend. I’ll try to catch it.

G1S:

You are welcome. I am going to try to catch the program also…I think it comes on Saturday night.

“I have theorized about why spaths make so many babies. I think it’s because they don’t see the babies as responsibilities rather they see them as future ties to the mothers of the babies and later, to the adult children that they can use as supply.”

Skylar;

I don’t go that far. Men are genetically programmed to father children, which is the basis of their sex drive. Not necessarily for themselves (future “victims”) but for the continuation of the species. Sociopaths simply want the sex without any responsibility.

However, one could make a strong argument that the virulent anti-abortion stance taken by some men indicates sociopathic thinking. They want the children to exist, but they don’t want to be burdened with the cost of care, either via child support or indirectly via taxes.

When I lived in Norway, they told me about a Norwegian law that a man could stop paying child support once he had fathered 25 children because then, the argument was, he would have too many children to financially support.

The supposition was NOBODY would ever reach 25 children. The number was picked because who would ever deliberately have that many children to avoid paying child support?

My brother-in-law ended up marrying one of the woman that a guy was using to reach that 25 children mark.

The father went around talking about that this was his goal. He let people know.

I believe my brother-in-law’s stepdaughter (her daughter) was child #8 on the guy’s quest to father 25 childen.

Blue, I would add that these men so opposed to abortion are unwilling to go after fathers to enforce their obligations for providing support to their children.

I’ve always wondered about that.

If you are so opposed to abortion, then be equally forceful about providing for the welfare of the children who result, such as ensuring that fathers are paying the child support that they own and there are resources for the abandoned women and children that makes up for the lack of support coming from the fathers.

You don’t hear about that, though, do you?

BBE,
you are talking about people and I’m talking about spaths, whom, as you know, do everything 180 degrees backwards from humanity.

In Eric Fromm’s, The Heart of Man he calls them “the quintessence of evil” and he speaks about these creatures and their backwards ways. They are necrophiliacs in more senses of the word than just dead bodies. They love the inanimate. They are obsessed with the past. They don’t do things for the future of mankind or the species, because they are in a state of regression and they want the rest of the world to join them in it.

I shouldn’t have said “future ties to the mothers of the babies”, because the female spaths will do it for future ties to the fathers of the babies. There is potential supply there no matter what gender they are. Spaths prey on their friends and families. They use love bonds to do their dirty work. The more bonds they have, the more dirty work they can do.

I agree that they want the children to exist without the burden on themselves to support them. This is typical abuser thinking: Oppress others and then blame them for being oppressed because they deserved it, which is obvious because if they didn’t deserve it they wouldn’t be oppressed right?

The single mother is shamed for her position. She is shamed for having a child and if she has an abortion she is shamed for that – it’s the famous double bind.

What is most heartening is that women are the ones who broke that taboo and they did it out of love for their unborn children, not because they have to follow a law.

Skylar, I want to disagree with your statement that “They (psychopaths) are obsessed with the past”. Perhaps I’m misunderstanding you but in my 40+ years experience with psychopaths (1 husband, later 5 children), I would say one of their primary traits is an aversion to the past. It’s almost as though the past never existed, in fact they have stated that it’s a waste of time to consider the past…only the present and future are worthy of any thought. Thus, they never will look at old photo albums, never reconnect with H.S. friends in a meaningful manner and if it happens to be brought up, they readily accuse one of exaggeration or making up “stories”. This may be their attempt at denying provable facts, I do not know.

I agree with you M.L. They are NOT obsessed with the past, rather they are obsessed with whatever is their focus. But it seems to me they are so full of deceit that they HAVE to erase their past. They can’t remember what they said!

I was a witness to a young woman talking to her mom saying “You’re not as perfect a mom as you think you are.” The mom was obviously gobsmacked and said back to her,very quietly and about in tears, “I know I’m not perfect, but it’s what I strive for because that’s what I want for you.” (paraphrasing, not exact quotes).

This same daughter has a rule (she calls it her boundry) that her past was so bad that it’s off limits for discussion. As a family insider, I watched her mom cater to this spoiled twit and nothing was ever good enough, she received a car for her 16th birthday and refused to take it in for maintenance and then complained it was a piece of junk. She did not get beaten or forced to work for food as she tells people. It’s actually hard to witness her burn life’s opportunities and talk to people with that tone of contempt; she was the most darling of my nieces.

My exhusband? Definitely a sociopath who says he can’t remember much of his childhood, has blocked it out. He’d get angry with me when I would try to resolve an issue, accusing me of living in the past and being unable to let go and move on.

Know what my son’s P father told my attorney at the time of my son’s child support order?

I had forgotten about this, because it was very minor compared with everything else we were about to go through.

I found it written on a document that I had filled out for the state’s child support enforcement agency when going through my files recently.

They asked if the alleged father had said anything in reference to the child in question before it was born.

I had written, “He told my lawyer that it was her legal duty to advise me to have an abortion.”

Didn’t know about Ps back then, but we were astonished and found it preposterous that he would even consider making such a statement.

BBE,

I think that spaths see pregnancy as kicker control: a woman has a life growing in them, that they helped put in there… it’s like ultimate physical control over the woman, an extension of theirs that eats and lives directly off the mother, controls her food cravings, her body shape, her moods, etc…

darwinsmom:

I totally agree; it’s a power trip for them to spread their seed. The ultimate power trip.

I had the misfortune of coming across a female recently who exhibited what seemed to me, a diabolical form of Narcissism. She had brought an entire garden club under her spell, and it wasn’t until she threatened and brought arrest charges against some of them, that anyone caught on.

When a member failed to call her “Madame President” out at the garden, she brought an accusation of assault against her. Although she didn’t show a single sign of having been assaulted, she charmed the police into pressing the arrest. Fortunately, there was an eye-witness to the entire interaction between the two women and although the case has not been tried yet, it seems to be clear that it will be dismissed.

In several meetings, she ordered people out of the room who disagreed with her and threatened them with arrest for “disrupting” her meeting. She also tried to block someone she didn’t like from entering the meeting by closing the door on her.

When asked to step aside as President she fought back by exaggerating and maliciously fabricating wrong doing by club members.

We became aware that she had recently lost custody of her children and that she had cyber-stalked her husband so badly that he had to hire an internet “sweeper” to protect his reputation.

Although many people clearly saw her antics, they were unable to grasp the disturbed nature of her behavior. And it gave me pause to ponder the difference between how a male with Anti-Social tendencies behaves, opposed to how a woman behaves.

It occurred to me that a man may have been physically violent or verbally abusive when his power was undermined, whereas, because of her slighter stature, she chose to employ the police to do her bidding- a far more devious way of causing harm.

It seemed to support that testosterone plays a part in how anti-socials behave, and underscore why there may be less females than males who have these tendencies.

Joyce

In response to the hypothesis that there is “gender bias” against men when it comes to diagnosing Sociopaths (and we all know most of them are never diagnosed), I would like to ask and answer the following question:

Is there gender bias in how much money women make? Yes, there is. If all women made the same salaries as most men, we would leave, kick them out, get better attorneys, and escape them. THAT is a gender bias that causes much more pain than an abusive man being ‘misdiagnosed’ with Sociopathic tendencies. If women were in charge of making the most money, the count for male Sociopaths would go down and the count for homeless men would go up.

Alright for fks sake isn’t it time we put this gender bullsht to rest? The whole gender thing is just based on stupid stereotypes and here’s the best way to pop the bubble- by stopping the bullsht about “women being such big manipulators”- for one thing It’s MEN who manipulate WOMEN on a regular basis, show of hands how many men have MANIPULATED a woman into sleeping with them? Guys with your eye’s on the floor stop bullshtting and get those hands up! So if anything MEN would be the manipulative fragile unstable one’s and women the strong one’s.- Childbirth- yeh you think men are more likely to be aspd cos you think having a useless bit of skin they barely know what to do with hanging from between thier legs makes them some how stronger than women? Pfffffff the fact that men have been going on about how strong they are like little boys showing mummy how “growed up” they are just shows how weak they are. (Sorry decent men but I’m sure that for everytime you have read what I am saying now about men, about women you can just sit quietly and let me have this one right?)Point being if any gender bs was true (which it isn’t) it would be the other way round with men being dx with bpd more and women with aspd- It makes a whole lot more sense if you have ever given birth/seen it or seen a mother defend her kids. (Shush now decent dads we know you exsist but this isn’t about you and hey men say this kind of unflattering, insulting bullsht that makes women look weak and pathetic about women everyday- just take it ~LIKE A MAN~ 🙂

Just to clarify I actually think it’s weird that there is any gender difference either way, makes it seem weird to me. We are different physically not mentally except for the fact that every INDIVIDUAL is different mentally. It has nothing to do with gender unless you are a “sheep” or gender stereotype conformer which let’s face it, most people just aren’t- underneath the front they put on in social gatherings to fit in. (Some of us don’t even do that.)

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