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By | February 4, 2019 0 Comments

Wednesday webinar: What do psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists want?


I’m prepping for my webinar on Wednesday — What did they want? Psychopaths, antisocial and other exploiters in romantic relationshipsand I’m very excited about the material. If you’re trying to understand why sociopaths, narcissists and the rest of these toxic manipulators do what they do, this webinar is where you can get clarity.

I explain the clunky terminology of psychology researchers and mental health professionals (and why I refer to human predators collectively as “sociopaths”). I’ll show you Lovefraud’s research on when most people see the warning signs of exploitative behavior — if it took you awhile, you’re certainly not alone. And I explain how sociopaths become disordered — it’s their basic social motivation systems gone … Read more

By | February 3, 2019 0 Comments

On TV Feb 9 : How Derek Alldred scammed dozens of women in love fraud

Last August, Derek Alldred was sentenced to 24 years in prison for scamming at least two dozen women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars in a massive love fraud. On Saturday, Feb. 9, at 8 pm ET, Oxygen Media will present a documentary of the case, with the women he deceived telling what happened to them.

Seduced by Evil delves into the world of the wickedly smart and dangerously evil Derek Alldred, a criminal mastermind who sought out relationships with unsuspecting women and entangled them in a web of lies to deplete their savings and support his fabricated life. Through the eyes of the countless women he deceived, the documentary will feature exclusive interviews with former victims … Read more

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By | February 1, 2019 0 Comments

Video: When sociopaths say, ‘I love you,’ what do they mean?

Most sociopaths in romantic relationships are quick to proclaim their love. But when sociopaths say, ‘I love you,’ what do they really mean?

In this video, I offer 10 possible explanations — none of which have anything to do with real love.

I will be addressing this topic — and much more — in my upcoming webinar:

What did they want? Psychopaths, antisocials, and other exploiters in romantic relationships
Wednesday, February 6, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of

If you want a primer on personality-disorder partners, here it is. I explain how these people behave, what they want, and why they turn so callous and cold. Their motivations are totally different from yours; … Read more

By | February 1, 2019 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free conference call support group 2/10/19 at 5pm EST

Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, February 10, 2019 at 5 pm EST. Go to and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

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By | February 1, 2019 0 Comments

Looks like Sen. Joni Ernst was married to a sociopath

Senator Joni Ernst of Iowa endured verbal, mental and at least one incident of physical abuse during her marriage, according to documents filed in her divorce from her husband of 26 years, Gail Ernst.

When they married in 1992, Gail Ernst was 39 and a career Army man. Joni Ernst was 22 and had recently graduated from college.

In her divorce documents, Joni Ernst says:

  • Her husband assaulted her after she confronted him about his “special relationship” with their daughter’s babysitter. She fled to her mother’s house with their daughter in the middle of the night.
  • After the incident, Gail Ernst agreed to counseling, but told her not to discuss the assault in the sessions. She agreed.
  • “Gail
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By | January 31, 2019 2 Comments

Love Fraud book excerpt: Was the relationship moving too fast, or was I just afraid?

Love Fraud book excerptBy Donna Andersen

Not long after we met in person, James Montgomery proposed to me — he was smitten with me, and proclaimed we’d make a great team. But it felt like he was taking over my existence. What was I getting myself into?

Life became a spinning tornado, with James at the center of it. He was working at full speed on all his projects, yet called me many times a day, keeping me apprised of his progress. He told me about his meetings, forwarding reports and faxes. He also asked for my help. James wrote newsletters for the American Legion, Vietnam Veterans Association and his new Lions Club. He wanted me to use my vendors to … Read more

By | January 29, 2019 0 Comments

Wed 1/30 – Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed

Webinar tomorrow:

Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed
Wednesday, January 30, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of

You’re smart, loving and accomplished. Take this course and learn how your exploitative partner used your good human qualities against you, by targeting your vulnerabilities and hijacking the human bonding system.

Purchase the webinar  Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed for only $25. More info.


Sign up for the Lovefraud Understanding and Recovery 5-part Masterclass, and the webinar is included. You get six webinars for $99. More info.

Highlights of this webinar:

  • Why most of us are clueless about the social predators living among us
  • The
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By | January 28, 2019 4 Comments

To survive a sociopath, we sometimes act like a sociopath

act like a sociopathI almost didn’t recognize myself. There I was, plotting with my cheating husband’s mistress to steal money from his bank account.

Before I married James Montgomery, I never would have considered such an action.  But after he convinced me to blow $227,000 on his ridiculous business schemes, and after I discovered that my entire marriage was a scam, I was angry, broke and desperate. I did what I had to do to survive a sociopath (although at the time, I didn’t know he was a sociopath).

Maybe because of your own entanglement with a sociopath, you’ve found yourself doing things that you never, ever did before. This happened to “Stevie2018,” who just posted her story in the Lovefraud Read more

By | January 27, 2019 0 Comments

Signs of a sociopath: Man sinks his boat to kill wife on their honeymoon

Sociopath Lewis Bennett

Lewis Bennett and Isabella Hellmann (Facebook)

Lewis Bennett will be sentenced this week in Miami, Florida, for the death of his wife, Isabella Hellmann, who was lost at sea during their honeymoon in November, 2017.

Bennett, an experienced British sailor, pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter. Bennett had claimed that the boat had struck an unidentified object. However, photos released by federal prosecutors show that the hull was intentionally punctured from the inside, causing it to sink.

The United States Coast Guard found Bennett floating in his lifeboat in the Atlantic Ocean. The body of his wife was never found.

Signs that Lewis Bennett is a sociopath:

  1. Murder.
  2. Bennett saved himself — and $36,000 in rare coins he had
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By | January 25, 2019 0 Comments

Research participants wanted to complete online survey about experiences in relationships with psychopaths!

Researchers at the University of Windsor are currently recruiting participants for a study investigating experiences of remembering past events in interpersonal relationships with suspected psychopaths.

We are interested in hearing about a time when a person you suspect could have psychopathic traits gave you feedback that led you to question your memory for a specific past event.

If you have had such an experience, follow the link below to complete the screening for the study.

Please follow the instructions carefully. If you meet the eligibility criteria for the study, we will send you an invitation to complete the remainder of the study within about one week. Upon successful completion of the study you will receive the full compensation … Read more

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