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By Donna Andersen January 22, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Interview: Donna Andersen on spotting and recovering from sociopaths

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What are the warning signs that partner bay be a sociopath? If you realize that you’re already involved with a sociopath, how do you escape and recover?

Donna Andersen answers these questions about spotting and recovering from sociopaths — and more — in the IndoctriNation podcast, hosted by Rachel Bernstein. Rachel is a therapist in Los Angeles who specializes in helping people trapped in cults, and a relationship with a sociopath is just like being in a cult.

In the beginning of the interview, Donna describes the upcoming Lovefraud Understanding and Recovery 5-part Masterclass, a series of webinars that begins on January 30. Then she talks about typical control tactics sociopaths employ, parental alienation, and more.

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By Donna Andersen January 21, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Legal Abuse Syndrome: the result of facing sociopaths in court

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**Book review — Legal Abuse Syndrome: A Preventable Public Health Problem, by Dr. Karin Huffer**

Review by Donna Andersen

You’re traumatized by your experience with a sociopath. Then you face a divorce, child custody or some other court battle against the sociopath — and you’re traumatized all over again.

The sociopath lies about you, smears your reputation and makes false accusations against you. So do his or her attorneys. And the clueless judge allows all of it.

Thirty years ago, Dr. Karin Huffer, a marriage and family therapist, witnessed this phenomenon among her clients. No matter what she did to help them, they kept getting worse. Then she realized that everything she did for them was being undone when they went to court.

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By Donna Andersen January 21, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Tribute to Karin Huffer, author of Legal Abuse Syndrome

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The survivor community lost a shining star recently with the passing of Karin Huffer, who wrote Legal Abuse Syndrome: A preventable public health problem. She also pioneered the use of the Americans with Disabilities Act to help people dealing with sociopaths, narcissists and psychopaths get a fair hearing in court.

Through her consulting practice, Karin personally accompanied her clients to court to help them stand up against manipulative sociopaths, whom she called “power centered individuals.” Despite the fact that she was a very senior citizen and needed a walker to get around, she was absolutely indomitable in court, protecting her clients against lies, smear campaigns, and power plays from the opposing parties.

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By Donna Andersen January 20, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

“I encountered a serial killer and escaped”

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In response to a question on Quora, a writer called “Frances Red” said yes, she had escaped a serial killer, and told the story about her ex-boyfriend, Kylr Yust:

Out of nowhere he bashed my head into the dashboard, zip tied my throat to the back of his seat, and forced himself upon me. I was traumatized, all these years we had been friends and he has never even so much as raise his voice at me now all the sudden he is beating the living crap out of me and stealing a big part of my innocence and Trust. After he was finished he Release Me From the zip tie that was around my throat. He kissed me and told me he had to do that to make sure he could trust me. That was then he told me that he had a girl and the trunk and she was dead.

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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Laws and courts, Sociopaths as predators, Uncategorized

By Donna Andersen January 18, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

About Lovefraud.com — new index of features and resources

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Lovefraud offers you a multitude of features and resources, and now you can find an index of them on our new About Lovefraud.com page.

The page includes links to:

Lovefraud’s FREE checklist — is your partner a sociopath, narcissist or psychopath?
What’s a sociopath? — the information you really need to know.
Webinars for survivors and mental health professionals
And much more!

Please visit the new About Lovefraud.com page. It’s located in the red navigation bar on a laptop, and the black navigation bar on a phone. Maybe there are features and resources you haven’t discovered.

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By Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT January 18, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW to host free conference call support group 1/28/19 at 5pm EST

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Experience the support of people who know! Join our free support group Sunday, January 28, 2019 at 5 pm EST. Go to destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining. Do this every time even if you have joined us before! We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call. It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

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By Donna Andersen January 17, 2019 3 Comments Read More →

Why sociopaths can’t love

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One winter, my husband, Terry Kelly, and I traded colds. I got sick first, and Terry made chicken soup and did what he could to make me feel comfortable.

Then, despite my best efforts to keep my germs to myself, Terry got sick.

By this time I was feeling better. So I went to the store and bought cold medicine, tissues and orange juice, because I’d used everything up. I made him chicken soup. I even made him a pot of chili.

As I did all this, I noticed a warm feeling within me.

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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Explaining the sociopath

By yellowsubmarine January 16, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Does my psychopath miss me?

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Editor’s note: The following article refers to male psychopaths. Women can also be sociopaths, psychopaths and other disordered individuals.

Does my sociopath/psychopath miss me?

The short answer is “no.” The qualified answer is “yes, in appearance, but only as long as you can afford him.”

Since psychopaths are unable to have true feelings, once you are removed from his picture, you are gone forever. Somebody else with financial security will replace you, and then when the money is gone or things go sour, somebody else will replace that person.

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Posted in: Explaining the sociopath, Hooked by a sociopath

By Donna Andersen January 14, 2019 6 Comments Read More →

29 excuses that sabotage our instincts about sociopaths

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Almost all of us have an instinctive warning that something is terribly wrong early in an involvement with a sociopath (antisocial, narcissist, borderline, histrionic, psychopath). Almost all of us ignore the warning.

Last week I wrote about the physical symptoms that we often feel in 8 ways your body warns you about sociopaths. I included fear, chills, difficulty breathing, crying, pounding heart, upset stomach, nightmares and a nagging feeling. The post was widely shared, and several Lovefraud readers added more physical warning signs: immobilizing exhaustion, poor appetite, nervous tension, tiredness, cloudy thinking, vague upset, tightness in the chest.

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By Donna Andersen January 13, 2019 0 Comments Read More →

Australian woman loses $305,000 in romance scam

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Scammers continue to pose as American soldiers. In a terrible recent romance scam, a 34-year-old woman from Brisbane, Australia lost AU$305,000 (US$220,210) to a man posing as a US soldier.

The con man, Cosmos Emeh, 32, claimed to be deployed in Syria, but he was actually also living in Brisbane, with his Australian partner. He convinced the target to send him $200,000 via a money transfer service. Then, in a highly unusual twist, he actually showed up at the woman’s home, claiming to be a “fixer” for the soldier, and collected and additional $105,000.

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