A reader says: “I kept wondering what was going on in his head. I could never follow his thinking. I think he might have been into alcohol and drugs and that in itself messes the brain, and along with his other personality disorders, sure makes for a confusing relationship.”
The thinking patterns of the psychopath are indeed weird. It seems there are biological and intentional reasons for this. In others words, he is unable to think very logically PLUS he intends to mislead. No wonder he is hard to follow!
Below I list several factors which together make the psychopath a most bamboozling character.
The odd speech of psychopaths
The psychopath makes “frequent use of contradictory and logically inconsistent statements”, says Robert Hare in ‘Without conscience.’ E.g. “A man serving time for armed robbery replied to the testimony of an eyewitness, “He’s lying. I wasn’t there. I should have blown his fucking head off.” It is as if, says Hare, they have “difficulty monitoring their own speech”.
Psychopaths may also construct strange words: ‘unconscientious’ for unconscious’, ‘antidotes’ for ‘anecdotes’. Perhaps there is something about the brain of the psychopath that contributes to his odd speech.
Drug and alcohol abuse
With their poor ability to tolerate frustration and their high need for stimulation (same thing?), the psychopath is likely to abuse drugs and alcohol which obviously affects the ability to think. Chronic abuse damages the brain.
But, as M.L. Gallagher recently writes, he speaks in riddles purposely too.
The intention to deceive
This doesn’t need much elaboration here. The psychopath wants to get something. He may simply take it by force. Otherwise he will use his cunning to fool the other person. (Interestingly, the illogicality of his arguments doesn’t stop him successfully conning one person after another.)
Logical fallacies
Most of us use logical fallacies when we argue or try to persuade. Some of these are errors in our own thinking, some are conscious manipulations. Just accentuating a different word can make all the difference: “Mom said that we musn’t throw stones at the windows” (i.e. she didn’t say anything about hitting them with a tennis racket).
We can fully expect that the psychopath, with his flawed thinking plus his intention to deceive, will use every logical fallacy in the book. Bear with me for a couple of paragraphs.
Take the example the logical fallacy, the ‘ad hominem argument’. It has two types, circumstantial and abusive. In the circumstantial ad hominem argument the circumstances of the other are confronted instead of the evidence: “Of course you don’t accept that it’s OK to be a loan-shark. You’re a Christian and Christ drove the money lenders out of the temple.” (But that’s irrelevant; if I was Jewish what would your defense be then?)
In the abusive ad hominem argument the opponent is attacked instead of their argument: “You criticise me for loan-sharking, but three years ago you were arrested for drunk driving.” (What does that have to do with loan-sharking?)
Paramoralism
But the psychopath uses fallacies with an evil twist. Whenever possible he’ll use a logical fallacy as a paramoralism. In other words, he won’t use a fallacy only to win a point but also use it moralistically in order to corrode the other’s moral thinking.
How would a psychopath argue ad hominem? Several readers have mentioned precisely this example: “What kind of Christian are you to accuse me of this?” (Again, the other’s Christianity is irrelevant to the topic at hand.) Can you see the difference? Unlike the examples above where the opponent’s Christianity is used to score a point or bring the argument to an end, here the other is being denounced as a bad Christian. An open-minded person is likely to say to themselves, “Maybe he’s right. Perhaps I’m the bad one here.”
Perhaps you have an example to share of the bewildering speech of a psychopath?
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For glimpse into the wacky thought-processes of the narcissist see this article.
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Thanks Blooger T I enjoyed your site and I can’t even Imagin what It was like to be in your shoes! You have made an INCREDIBLE journey and I for one am very thankfull you survived! LOVE jere
Indi, your typos crack me up … tears are rolling down my face … hire a typist will ya.
Peace.
Can you Imagin if I had to spell check everything I typed I would never get a word in edgewise ! :)~
Thank you indi
Wini:
Your P sounds like a CLASSIC case of a dissociative disorder; I should know; I specialize in the treatment of them. I have always wondered about the dissociative component inherent within psychopathy; Hare talks about this in his book Without Conscience.
With regards to the lying, I wonder if the primary, actual intent is not to continue the self-deception with the interpersonal effect being one of extreme damage. It is clear that these folks are incapable of relating to themselves, first.
There was just soo much overwhelming data with mine that I couldn’t keep it straight. Yet, he insisted he did not have any issues that prayer and a relationship with the Lord could not take care of. How do you argue the inarguable?
psycheintact: Are you referring to my EX that layered blankets on his feet? Or my EX husband that had a warped sense of humor and was basically harmless.
psycheintact, can you further explain this for me:
“With regards to the lying, I wonder if the primary, actual intent is not to continue the self-deception with the interpersonal effect being one of extreme damage. It is clear that these folks are incapable of relating to themselves, first.”
The pervasive lying always got to me, because my ex-S seemed to lie even when there was no need to lie. At first, I just called him a “b.s.’er” because many of the things that he said he was doing/was going to do were “hyperbole-ized,” to coin a neologism. Are you saying that the sociopath lies primarily to validate their own internal realities? Are they always aware that they are lying?
Unwlling Raconteur:
Sure. My ex lied pervasively as well, and I wondered what the purpose was in such a fruitless endeavor. After much thought, I have come to the conclusion that they lie as a way of preserving some false belief about themselves so that they can maintain their sense of self as grandiose. The lying reinforces the grandiosity whih they of course, cannot see. I do believe this process is entirely unconscious. It might be denial in some instances; dissociative in others. Regardless, this defensive style ends up hurting others as well as the self.
Wini:
I concur. We hear their whisper for help as a shout; THEY DO NOT SEE THE NEED TO CHANGE. In this respect they are delusional in that they cannot accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions.
It is pointless on trying to focus on helping someone who doesn’t want/beleives they don’t need the help. We cannot control this. We can only derive the wisdom from our experiences so that we are less likely to “fantasy bond” again!