A reader says: “I kept wondering what was going on in his head. I could never follow his thinking. I think he might have been into alcohol and drugs and that in itself messes the brain, and along with his other personality disorders, sure makes for a confusing relationship.”
The thinking patterns of the psychopath are indeed weird. It seems there are biological and intentional reasons for this. In others words, he is unable to think very logically PLUS he intends to mislead. No wonder he is hard to follow!
Below I list several factors which together make the psychopath a most bamboozling character.
The odd speech of psychopaths
The psychopath makes “frequent use of contradictory and logically inconsistent statements”, says Robert Hare in ‘Without conscience.’ E.g. “A man serving time for armed robbery replied to the testimony of an eyewitness, “He’s lying. I wasn’t there. I should have blown his fucking head off.” It is as if, says Hare, they have “difficulty monitoring their own speech”.
Psychopaths may also construct strange words: ‘unconscientious’ for unconscious’, ‘antidotes’ for ‘anecdotes’. Perhaps there is something about the brain of the psychopath that contributes to his odd speech.
Drug and alcohol abuse
With their poor ability to tolerate frustration and their high need for stimulation (same thing?), the psychopath is likely to abuse drugs and alcohol which obviously affects the ability to think. Chronic abuse damages the brain.
But, as M.L. Gallagher recently writes, he speaks in riddles purposely too.
The intention to deceive
This doesn’t need much elaboration here. The psychopath wants to get something. He may simply take it by force. Otherwise he will use his cunning to fool the other person. (Interestingly, the illogicality of his arguments doesn’t stop him successfully conning one person after another.)
Logical fallacies
Most of us use logical fallacies when we argue or try to persuade. Some of these are errors in our own thinking, some are conscious manipulations. Just accentuating a different word can make all the difference: “Mom said that we musn’t throw stones at the windows” (i.e. she didn’t say anything about hitting them with a tennis racket).
We can fully expect that the psychopath, with his flawed thinking plus his intention to deceive, will use every logical fallacy in the book. Bear with me for a couple of paragraphs.
Take the example the logical fallacy, the ‘ad hominem argument’. It has two types, circumstantial and abusive. In the circumstantial ad hominem argument the circumstances of the other are confronted instead of the evidence: “Of course you don’t accept that it’s OK to be a loan-shark. You’re a Christian and Christ drove the money lenders out of the temple.” (But that’s irrelevant; if I was Jewish what would your defense be then?)
In the abusive ad hominem argument the opponent is attacked instead of their argument: “You criticise me for loan-sharking, but three years ago you were arrested for drunk driving.” (What does that have to do with loan-sharking?)
Paramoralism
But the psychopath uses fallacies with an evil twist. Whenever possible he’ll use a logical fallacy as a paramoralism. In other words, he won’t use a fallacy only to win a point but also use it moralistically in order to corrode the other’s moral thinking.
How would a psychopath argue ad hominem? Several readers have mentioned precisely this example: “What kind of Christian are you to accuse me of this?” (Again, the other’s Christianity is irrelevant to the topic at hand.) Can you see the difference? Unlike the examples above where the opponent’s Christianity is used to score a point or bring the argument to an end, here the other is being denounced as a bad Christian. An open-minded person is likely to say to themselves, “Maybe he’s right. Perhaps I’m the bad one here.”
Perhaps you have an example to share of the bewildering speech of a psychopath?
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For glimpse into the wacky thought-processes of the narcissist see this article.
and he speaks sanskrit…
and is sure to impress at every opportunity.. like I needed to know the sanskrit words for things…
Blah.. ha ha!
ooou, my lama beleives in evil – just not ‘absolute evil’ – and this is more of a theological point. and tis sam elama would drop someone to the ground with one punch without anger and not bat an eye if there was no other way to protect someone.
knew the butt in the air comment 😉 have spent some time there myself, but a physical posture means nothing – he could have been doing his scam list in his head while in any old asana.
is it possible that the psuedo spiritual work he has done has reinforced his sense of entitlement and lack of responsibility – yes, it sure is.
but it didn’t make him the way he is.
maybe he is broken, or maybe he was never whole; but i doubt anything can fix him.
weel, sanskrit comes in handy……..
um,
nevah.
(actually useful for translating sutras….but reallyyyyyy)
is it possible that the psuedo spiritual work he has done has reinforced his sense of entitlement and lack of responsibility – yes, it sure is.
but it didn’t make him the way he is.
one step.. YES! It’s like he talks about and uses this yoga disapline and what he has studied as the answer to EVERYTHING in his life… and that it somehow makes him so above us ordinary mortals…
and what is the deal with his eyes rolling back in his head? it appeared evil to me.. I couldn’t stand to look at him when he did this..and can’t one become addicted to sitting for meditation?
He wanted to teach me.. and tried to ‘teach’ all his other wives.. all those violent ones, child molesting ones and ones who died to join him in his disapline.. but alas they weren’t of his high level.. as myself is not..
Blah! Blah..!
he referred to himself as a guru.. and wore this Oriental robe at times and walked around the house with his hands resting on his
hands clasped and resting on his lower back.. he look like a pompous fool to me..but what do I know.. I am a mere mortal.. that cooked and did his laundry…
he referred to himself as a guru.. and wore this Oriental robe at times and walked around the house with his hands resting on his…
F****************ck.
i come from a tradtion that is a bit skeptical about westerners wearing robes, etc. (or was HIS A BATHROBE! Snort!).
In eastern cultures it marks ones place in a structure that is traditional and understood in that culture. i think that in NA it sets one apart – some people are attracted to ‘ritual’ and would be attracted to this ‘form’ and other’s would think it was weird and stay away – neither of these are the most useful use of clothing. but, i digress….
Sure sign – If you call yourself a guru, you are not a guru.
I don’t know the eyes rolling back in the head thing – there are a LOT of weird esoteric stuff in yoga and buddhist yogic meditation – perhaps he was asleep with his eyes open 😉 or he was looking for his lost soul in that hollow place behind his eyes.
ahhh, so you were the guru’s slave!
I am an old Buddhist meditator from many years ago. I was very immersed in the practice and the culture for quite a while. I know for a fact that there are many people there who don’t walk the talk. Buddhist practice also does not focus on relationship skills, and many people hide in the practice so they don’t have to learn how to relate to people. I have also known and dated a few guys who claimed to be spiritual gurus, kundalini teachers, zen masters, etc., etc. who were very narcissistic and controlling in their relationships. One actually had a cult following. You are very right–if someone is truly spiritual, they don’t need to go around holding up books, citing verses, and beating a drum. They are just kind and compassionate in their being without a lot of show.
syle: I REALLY DISLIKED one of the spath’s manifestations (before i knew they were all one person). I mean REALLY.
nothing about him was interesting or endearing – mostly contemptuous, self centred, and difficult – which started sliding into mean and abusive. he was supposed to be a SOCIAL WORKER. and a dog lover- ALL of her characters in this cona nd others are f**king dog lovers….where’s Star’s reptiles when I need them!
and the beautiful boy character – well, he had pinched a few sayings from the Dali Lama – I am sure that if I didn’t know something about Buddhism, that she would have tried to f**k me over with it.
I think the psedo spiritual became a big game in NA in the 80’s. With the advent of the New Age movement we were introduced to a lot of practices that were cut off from their source, and there were no watchdogs for them – making exploitation and manipulation of those pracitces quite possible. that’s my ‘weird’ hides ‘odd’ thing again.
We have a hard enough time ferreting out abuse within our own judeo- christian structures. Any unchecked and unchallenged power structure is potentially dangerous
hey Star – sista!