By Ox Drover
Many times on Lovefraud, bloggers have joked with me that a particular phrase or behavior “came out of the ”˜Psychopath’s play book,’“ the kind of book in which a football team would write all their usual plays.
I recently bought a book entitled, The 48 Laws of Power, by Robert Greene, because it sounded like an interesting book. But the more I got into it, I realized that the heretofore-thought-mythical “Psychopathic Play book” does exist, and this is it!
Robert Greene, by the way, also wrote The Art of Seduction.
Here’s what the jacket blurb on the back of The 48 Laws of Power says about its content:
The best-selling book for those who want POWER, watch POWER, or want to arm themselves against POWER. Amoral, cunning, ruthless and instructive, this piercing work distills three thousand years of the history of power into forty-eight well explicated laws. As attention-grabbing in its design as in its content, this bold volume outlines the laws of power in their unvarnished essence, synthesizing the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, Carol Von Clausewitz and other great thinkers. Some laws require prudence, some stealth, some total absence of mercy, but like it or not, all have applications in real-life situations. Illustrated through the tactics of Queen Elizabeth I, Henry Kissinger, P. T. Barnum, and other famous figures who have wielded, or been victimized by power, these laws will fascinate any reader interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control.
The 48 laws are listed in the contents
Law 1: Never outshine the master
Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies
Law 3: Conceal your intentions
Law 4: Always say less than necessary
Law 5: So much depends on reputation—guard it with your life
Law 6: Court attention at all cost
Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit
Law 8: Make other people come to you—use bait if necessary
Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument
Law 10: Infection: avoid the unhappy and unlucky
Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you
Law 12: Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim
Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people’s self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude
Law 14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy
Law 15: Crush your enemy totally
Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honor
Law 17: Cultivate an air of unpredictability
Law 18: Do not built fortresses to protect yourself, isolation is dangerous
Law 19: Know who you’re dealing with—do not offend the wrong person
Law 20: Do not commit to anyone
Law 21: Play a sucker to catch a sucker—seem dumber than your mark
Law 22: Use the surrender tactic: Transform weakness into power
Law 23: Concentrate your forces
Law 24: Play the perfect courtier
Law 25: Re-create yourself
Law 26: Keep your hands clean
Law 27: Play on people’s need to believe to create a cult-like following
Law 28: Enter action with boldness
Law 29: Play all the way to the end
Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless
Law 31: Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal
Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies
Law 33: Discover each man’s thumb screw
Law 34:Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like a king
Law 35: Master the art of timing
Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge
Law 37: Create compelling spectacles
Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others
Law 39: Stir up waters to catch fish
Law 40: Despise the free lunch
Law 41: Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes
Law 42 Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter
Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others
Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect
Law 45: Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once
Law 46: Never appear too perfect
Law 47: Do not go past the mark you aimed for; in victory, learn when to stop
Law 48: Assume formlessness
Perfect advice for psychopaths
The preface of the book gets right down to business:
No one wants less power, everyone wants more ”¦ in the world today, however, it is dangerous to seem too power hungry, to be overt with your power moves. We have to seem fair and decent. So we need to be subtle—congenial yet cunning, democratic, yet devious.
This game of constant duplicity most resembles the power dynamic that existed in the scheming world of the old aristocratic court(s).
The author, Greene, then goes on to perfectly describe the psychopath’s ways, without naming him such “”¦those who make a show or display of innocence are the least innocent of all.” What else but a psychopath could “recognize”¦by the way they flaunt their moral qualities, their piety, their exquisite sense of justice ”¦ but (they) are merely throwing dust in our eyes distracting us from their power plays with their air of moral superiority”¦.you will see they are often the ones most skillful at indirect manipulation, …and they greatly resent any publicizing of the tactics they use.”
Emotions
In directing his readers how to master the most important skills in acquiring power, Greene tells them that the most important foundation is to “master your emotions.” He states that an emotional response is the single greatest barrier to gaining power. In this particular thing, I totally agree with him, because if we are emotional about a situation, we lose sight of the ultimate goal, and as he says, “cannot prepare for and respond to it with any degree of control.”
Greene goes on to say that anger is the most destructive of emotional responses, and “clouds your vision the most.” Again, I totally agree with Greene in this statement, but then he goes on to add what I would think is directed more toward the vengeful psychopath than to less pathological people, “If you are trying to destroy an enemy who has hurt you, far better to keep him off-guard by feigning friendliness than showing your anger.”
The mask
Psychopaths have been described by many writers as “wearing a mask” or even “the mask of sanity.” Greene seems to be very aware of this “masking” when he advises his readers that, “You cannot succeed at deception unless you take a somewhat distanced approach to yourself—unless you can be many different people, wearing the mask that the day and moment require.”
Psychopaths tend to project blame for their behavior on to other people, to refuse to assume responsibility for any of the things they have done. They lie “when the truth would fit better.” Greene says, “Power requires the ability to play with appearances. To this end you must learn to wear many masks and keep a bag full of deceptive tricks.” He goes on to say, “Playing with appearances and mastering arts of deception are among the aesthetic pleasures of life. They are also the key components in the acquisition of power.”
Green does not seem to view deception or the acquisition of power as anything immoral, and he actually says, “Power is essentially amoral”¦power is a game”¦and in games you do not judge your opponents by their intentions but by the effect of their actions.” He goes on to advise the reader to not be caught by assuming that someone has good intentions, or that their good intentions matter. Greene advises his readers that some sets of moral judgments are “really an excuse for the accumulation of power.” I can definitely agree with that last statement. Frequently, religion and moral judgments are used as justification for a power stance that has no other legitimacy, and does great harm to the victims.
Chapter One
For each of the 48 laws of power, Green has a short chapter that consists of the name of the law, the first being, “Never Outshine the Master.” Then he has a section called “Judgment,” in which he explains more fully the named law of power. The first law is reasonably self-explanatory and makes sense, really, because if you show your boss you are superior to him/her, then he/she will resent you.
After giving several good examples of using this law, or failing to use this law, Greene finishes up Chapter One by saying, “You cannot worry about upsetting every person you come across, but you must be selectively cruel. If your superior is a falling star, there is nothing to fear in outshining him. Do not be merciful—your master had no such scruples in his own cold-blooded climb to the top. Gauge his strength. If he is weak, discreetly hasten his downfall: Outdo, outcharm, outsmart him at key moments.”
While this book seems aimed at the “amoral-wannabe-politician on the way up,” rather than the psychopathic “wannabe-gang-banger thug” on the corner who is illiterate, I think that those of us who have had or even will have associations with psychopaths, or “Snakes in Suits” (to highjack the name of the book as a noun), should read this to learn how to discern when we are being played by the power-seeker. If we can recognize the masks for their deceptive cover, we can avoid the consequences of being played, or possibly turn the play back on to the player.
Disturbing, but necessary, reading
Frankly, this book made me uncomfortable while I was reading it, I think possibly by showing me “red flags” of power plays that I had experienced in the past, but had not quite recognized at the time I was being played. However, I do think the knowledge I gained by reading this book is well worth the slight discomfort. It isn’t a book that you can “zip through” quickly, but one that must, like the textbook that it is, read and ponder, and even re-read, and ponder again.
The most personally disturbing part of the book was one in which he was discussing the siege of Troy, and he said, “Image: The Trojan Horse. Your guile is hidden inside a magnificent gift that proves irresistible to your opponent. The walls open. Once inside, wreak havoc.”
We must learn to protect ourselves from those power-players who have no conscience, the power players who will use calculated acts of kindness or proffered gifts to earn our trust. Selective kindness can be the biggest part of the arsenal of deception. “Aimed for the heart, it corrodes the will to fight back.”
The 48 Laws of Power is available on Amazon.com.
Thanks Donna,
It really outlines what we are up against. I think we can ALL relate to # 43 – “work on the hearts and minds of others”.
We must learn from # 19 “know who you’re dealing with – do not offend the wrong person”. We must become that WRONG PERSON.
MiLo
MiLo – Actually, Ox Drover wrote this article. I’m so glad she did.
Thanks guys, I’m still actually re-reading parts of this book, it is one that I will STUDY not just “read” or even “read and underline” there is just so much information here. I had intended to loan it to a young man that is a friend of my son D’s but have decided instead to order him one as I don’t want to give up my copy. There is just SO much information in this book…it combined with “Snakes in Suits” should be a 2 semester course in a good college.
Oh, sorry Oxy, I missed your name at the top. I was so busy getting right to the list…..
I got a book store gift card for Christmas, I think this is one I will order. Unreal, a “how to” book.
Ox,
This is utterly fascinating and informative. Is the book rather large in content? Or more philosophical in that it requires a lot of thought?
While reading this, I felt uncomfortable as well, as the wording creates outlines, to me, evil and how evil thinks and works.
Thank you so much for writing this. I hope you share more insights soon!
I SO agree with you about teaching a course like this in college!! I WISH Psych classes in college would offer something like this.
I’m taking Psychology this next term. I’d like to bring this subject up eventually with the Professor. May I ask how much the book was and where you got it?
The sociopath that I have the misfortune of knowing has used many of the listed laws to get what he thinks he wants, walking over others in the process, and since he lacks a conscience, he’s not bothered by all the pain that he has caused. I think the mental health professionals would do everyone a favor by teaching the public about sociopaths, enabling the average person to recognize these low-lifes, thus avoiding being used and abused by any of them. They leave a trail of destruction.
Think we need a national spath register?
I order USED BOOKS off of either Barnes and Noble or Amazon. I have given as much business to B&N or others because of the stance that Amazon took over the Pedophile HOW TO SEDUCE a child and get away with it—they finally quit publishing it (e book) but at first defended it as “free speech”—-NO WAY!!!! The guy that wrote it got arrested, but I don’;t think the charges will stick but they SHOULD. Anyway, because of my limited budget and my book-a-holism I order Used books and they are VERY cheap usually with only about $3.99 shipping, some books are actually one CENT plus shipping. I just ordered a cook book on low sodium that is GREAT for One cent plus shipping. You can find just about any book in the world on there used. A great service and improvement from the days when you had to haunt used book stores for out of print books and try to physically FIND the book.
Well Oxy, It sure as hell was the playbook for my con!! I am having little flashbacks (not a problem) as I read.
Weehew, she’s ALL over these!
Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies
She would use them to focus her ‘freinds’ on the enemies bad actions….smoke and mirrors deflecting us from her bad actions.
Law 3: Conceal your intentions
Always, in almost everything she did.
Law 4: Always say less than necessary
omfg”.arggh errrr grrrrrr”that way the dupes fill in the blanks with their desires. I sooo did this.
Law 5: So much depends on reputation—guard it with your life
She’d use both nasty and nice sock puppets to create and sustain the rep of the main character. Ad naseum. She started to get really ugly when I challenged the rep/ integrity of a couple of the characters.
Law 6: Court attention at all cost
INTENSELEY LOAYL FOLLOWING BECAUSE OF THIS ”“ why it’s so hard for so many of the duped to accept WHO AND WHAT she really is ”“ a year 58 female spath”not the band of young characters she pretends to be.
Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit
She tried to use me to get others to do/ not do things. She was only successful on a few occasions, but the manipulation left a deep mark on me; it made it hard to speak out when I first realized that things were terribly wrong and not what was presented to me as truth”.to the point that I was unable to speak about it AT ALL, when someone contacted me and said, ’I don’t think he died’. I remember it so well ”“ the mental dissonance was acute, my heart raced, my skin burned, and all I could say was, ’I can’t speak to that.’ Trying so hard to let her know that I knew things were not as presented, but I was so confused, and LOYAL, that I couldn’t say a damn thing.
Law 8: Make other people come to you—use bait if necessary
OHH ERGGGH, GRRRRR”. ’He’ was nothing if not bait. Poor little BS fake ’prey’ boy. GRRRRRRR.
Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument. ”“
She was SUCH a manipulator! Of course ’actions’ in this case were constant and consistent communication (trust setting); a pretense of kindness (trust setting); a pretense of humor (releasing all kinds of happy hormones); and each of the characters backing up the others when one couldn’t do something as promised. Grrrrr.
Law 10: Infection: avoid the unhappy and unlucky
Naw, she picks them to dupe.
Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you
See Law 9; and add offers of help and support in ways that really mattered. Then create plausible reasons for those things not working out. Promise them again. Jerk the football again.
Law 12: Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim
This is a really good one! I had an n boss two years ago ”“ HE was alllll over this one.
Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people’s self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude
See Law 11. @.......#WE$%^&*()(*&^%$#
Law 14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy
Sigh.
Law 15: Crush your enemy totally
HAHA ”“ you lose loser! *I* will rise again. (not true for others she has hurt over the years)
Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honor
The story line is too long, but she used this like a master.
Law 17: Cultivate an air of unpredictability
How many times can you fake have surgery, fake almost die, fake almost suicide and fake die in one year? The answer is 10. How many times can you get on a plane and change your local? The answer is 6.
Law 20: Do not commit to anyone
I was so played. And so were others at exactly the same time. I could smell it, and I confronted”and finally, I know what she was doing, even if I don’t have the details.
Law 21: Play a sucker to catch a sucker—seem dumber than your mark
’niaive’ was the word used. I’d add, seem less powerful than you prey, also. Pretend to be prey!
Law 22: Use the surrender tactic: Transform weakness into power
Grrrrrr.
Law 23: Concentrate your forces
6 peeps at a time ”“ one big lie and work hard daily to fuck them all!
Law 24: Play the perfect courtier
Erggh AND sigh.
Law 25: Re-create yourself
BWAHAAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAHHHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA
Law 26: Keep your hands clean
She hides and lies. Even when caught she lies and hides. Her characters are all lies, but she has ’truths (lies) they reveal when pushed. And then there are the lies she spins when she’s caught. She’s just chock full of lies”.it’s quite amazing.
Law 27: Play on people’s need to believe to create a cult-like following
See Law 6.
Law 28: Enter action with boldness
Boldest fake prey ever! Everything she does is bold, grandiose.
Law 29: Play all the way to the end
Unfortunately waaaaay past the end. Kill off the fake characters, resurrect them, wash and repeat.
Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless
Yup, yup, yup. And superhuman. It’s easy to do when THEY ARE ALL@.......#$%^& LIES.
Law 31: Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal
Again, a master at this. She deals almost half a deck with each con ”“ and the dupes pick up the hands and run with them. Just as dangerous as scissors.
Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies
See Law 6. This one is hard for me in healing ”“ I want to believe in some of my dreams, but”.
Law 33: Discover each man’s thumb screw
Oh, yes she played this one immediately after I knew too much. She played it well, it still haunts me.
Law 34:Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like a king
Noble. Another of the words I used to describe the fake boy.
Law 35: Master the art of timing
Bitch.
Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge
Oh ergggh ”“ all the time. But so sweetly done as the main character, and overtly done with the nasty characters.
Law 37: Create compelling spectacles
Bloody hell, she was ALL over that. Won’t list them. But they were big!
Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others
Sigh.
Law 39: Stir up waters to catch fish
B**ch.
Law 40: Despise the free lunch
Part of the pity ploy.
Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others
Sigh. Erggghhh
Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect
The nasty characters doing the infuriation, the fake boy doing the disarming. Love my own desires!
Law 45: Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once
Yup. Over and over.
Law 46: Never appear too perfect
She had some characters create the idea of perfection of the main fake boy character, but feign ignorance of ’his’ own ’perfection.’ Sigh.
Law 47: Do not go past the mark you aimed for; in victory, learn when to stop
Don’t think she actually knows how to stop. Even When caught she will con anyone left interested.
Law 48: Assume formlessness
She always was. ’They’ always were. There were photos of everything and everyone, to set up the semblance of form, but there was formlessness at every turn ”“ things never coming together, other things turning to dust. I have a deep deep would related to this.
Well, I only deleted about 4 laws that didn’t seem immediately applicable.
Thanks Oxy! 🙂
Dear One Step,
Gosh, I think this book hit home for you. It did for me, for sure. I still have been rereading and pondering each of the laws in depth, and I still shake my head.
One of D son’s friends is a sweet boy age 22, and I want him to have this book so I am buying him his own copy rather than loan him mine. I think EVERY young person should have a hole drilled in their skull and the information in this book POURED INSIDE THEIR HEADS! It will either make them psychopaths delux or it will enable them to defend themselves from psychopaths.
If Ever I saw “the psychopath’s play book” THIS IS IT. The guy also quotes heavily from the ART OF WAR and from historical philosophy and war. I am interested in his book, the ART OF SEDUCTION, but I have about 12 books in my stack of “books to read” on my table by my chair so I am not going to order any more for a while, but that will be one of the ones I do order. If I am not careful though, my house will collapse under the weight of the books even though I AM trying to de-clutter and cut down on the number of possessions. Books seem to be the one thing I am really having a difficult time doing so with. And I DO re-read them so it isn’t just hoarding. I also reference them frequently.
I read fairly well and fast and though my memory isn’t what it was, I retain more than I did after the crash, but I have to read this book, word by word, sentence by sentence and small chapter by small chapter, and then re-read it. THERE IS SO MUCH packed into this book, and it is a BIG BOOK, that it is something you don’t just READ but you have to STUDY it to get the most out of it. Then compare each law to things in your own past, people you have known who have used this tactic on you, and so on. Compare it to things you are doing TODAY that you might ought to change. It is a book that will make you examine yourself, those you have known in the past and to measure future relationships by. It is wisdom, philosophy, psychology, and tactics all rolled into one—and just like a weapon, this book can be used for offense or defense, for killing others or protecting yourself. But I think ALL knowledge can be used for good or for evil, just depends on who is using it and how.