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October 30, 2020 at 1:34 pm #64401sept4Participant
The best way to handle a breakup with a sociopath is complete NC forever. That way you will have peace and be out of reach from their lies and manipulation tactics.
However if you cannot go NC because you have kids or joint assets or you have to finalize a divorce, you will have to deal with their evil and insidious manipulation tactics. Remember they have no conscience and no morals so dealing with them will be frustrating and infuriating.
To help you stay calm you can draw up a bingo scorecard for yourself that you can quietly check off in your interactions! It will relieve some frustration and will make you see how common their manipulation strategies are.
Examples for bingo scorecard:
– personal insults
– trying to hurt your feelings
– trying to make you jealous
– complaining he is the victim
– destroying or sabotaging assets
– blaming you for what he did
You can’t control his behavior but you can understand it and recognize his tactics. And it might even make you laugh when you start to see how transparent and repetitive his tactics really are, and how he will switch between these different tactics just to see what sticks.
October 30, 2020 at 1:39 pm #64402Donna AndersenKeymaster
Very clevery Sept4 – thank you!
More items to add –
Hurting the kids to hurt you
Failing to pay child support or other obligations
Changing visitation schedule to upset your life
Flaunting other relationships
Just a few!
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