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Hi there I got married the year 2005 when I
Thought I met my prince charming things
Happened so quickly as I met him the year
Before the first three months of me dating
Him he took me on holiday showered me with
Gifts I could not believe it he asked to get
Engaged after 6 months he was married before
With three children and I thought at the time time
A horrible x wife he left her after 12 years
Of marriage and met somebody else little
Did I know he left her for somebody else.
We got a house together I was working and
So was he eventually he opened up his own
Company and it became successful there was
Little things I started to notice but thought
It will go away assuming he had a bad marriage
Marriage I noticed he had awful
Arguments with the ex wife wishing
Womb cancer and death on her and
I became concerned by his choice
of words to speak to the mother of
His three children like that it
Disturbed me but then would say he
Didn’t mean it. His parents did not
Like me because we came from different
Backgrounds his mother would often
Drop little racial comments to me
In conversations but he would pretend
He never heard her one day we had an
Argument and he racially abused me
Verbally but I gave him the benefit
Of doubt and said he never meant it
He would spit in my face and I always
Forgive him. Since he opened his
Company he told me he wanted me to
Stay at home which I did 2007 we had
a baby which his parents refused to
See as they did not want a grandchild
That was half ethnic minority his
Mothers choice of words when I was
Pregnant why doesn’t he kick her
Down the stairs so she looses it he
Never said anything the mum was in
Total control of her husband and her
Son. I was to later find out that he left
the person he was with he left her
For me this is
Is classed as a overlapper if you
Google the word men that start a
Relationship with someone else before
Leaving the previous partner he lied
And told me he left her a year befor
I was so annoyed my x husband lied
About any and everything he hated
His daughter and would wish bad
Things on her I thought to myself
This man is mental he would
Constantly put me down and say I
Was fat and ugly and I was to dim
To even get a job I begun to feel
Really shit about myself and would
Always wear black because I felt
FAT and ugly he put me down on his
Company as a shareholder and was
Giving me 200.00 per month but that was
Only to reduce his taxes
His company was submitting 600.00
Per month to the tax office this
I found out when he left as I had
To apply for public assistance
As I had now become a single mother
They also told me he was submitting
45000 a year in my name in dividends
From his company this i never ever
Received he controlled all the finances
He was going abroad quite often to
America telling me he was doing
Business out there but I later found
out it was another woman he had been
Seeing he did fraud in my name and
I could of ended up in prison.
He left me and my son in 2015 is
Wheb all this came to light my son
Was in a private school which I was
Using the only bit of money I had
When he was living with me i was
Paying half he was paying the other half
But me not knowing he had lots of
Money to pay it all. But was always
Telling me he was broke he then stopped
Paying his half of my sons school fees
And told me to take him out he cannot afford
It anymore my parents stepped in and said
They will pay it as my sons life has
been turned upside down as it is so
Basically they wanted hin to continue
His stability in the school about 7
Months after thst he took my car back
And said he couldn’t pay for it any
Longer but then heard he gave it to
One of his women over here it destabilised
Me as I could no longer get my son to
School and take him to his after school
Activities yet again my parents stepped
In and gave me there car.ive truly
Suffered at the hands of this man always
Telling lies on me told me he hopes
I die and get run over by a car
Saying I was usless he stopped his other
Children from seeing my son infact
None of his family play a part in my sons
Life I literally got the blame for
the marriage breaking down it was all
My fault he would say he would hide
His finances he would curse out jesus
God and say some really strange things
He would literally put everyone against
Me and I found out he had done the
same to his x wife which she later
Became an alcholic due to his
Persistent nastiness and lies I
Thought at one point I was going
Mad he would tell me that everyone
Thought he was to good for me and
He could do better he wants someone
Professional thar has a brain he
Would smash up things in the house
Every Christmas the tree would get
Smashed up as it didn’t go his mums
Way between him and his father they
Were petrified of her as she was in
Control he would come across to people
Like he was perfect but nobody knew
The demon I was living with apart from
His x wife and x girlfriend. To this day
Although he told me I wouldn’t receive
The money anymore from his company
I then found out he is still submitting
Payments to the tax office in my name
He doesn’t know I know this as they have
Told me but the money is not coming
To me I don’t know where it’s going
It’s under investigation I do not
Talk to him anymore. The names and
Torment I suffered from this man was
So intense and it’s taking me a very
Long time to get over it as I need
Counselling.Meeting me
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Have you gone No Contact with this man?
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If you have to have contact with him, look up posts about going “gray rock”
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