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Hi all!
I’ve been wondering what it is a sociopath does when you move on and don’t give him an opportunity to play his games with you. I’ve been searching the Internet to try to find some information and I can’t seem to find anything.
I understand all sociopaths are different but for one who is non violent and realizes he cannot control the individual, his begging and pleading doesnt work, and she’s moving on…what is a likely/common scenario? Is it common for him to finally give up & find a new supply?
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tammilynn- They are all different but some are hard to get rid of. See O.N. Ward’s book Husband, Liar, Socioath. You can read it here.
SG
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Hi Tammilyn –
Shannon Thomas discusses this issue in her book. It is in the part where he addresses the importance for survivors to move on and to leave the past behind. It can sometimes be difficult because of the deep suffering that the survivor endured and therefore has a hard time letting go of that. Anyway, she mentioned ( I am just saying the understanding I got from what she said ) that the abuser never invested the same degree of care and emotional involvement as the survivor, so they go off easily and just get on with their life – no prob ! As far as finding a new supply, my personal belief is that they need to have their narcissistic supply. They act like they are so independent, and can even convince their victim of being the weak and needy one – but the reality is that the abuser is the one feeding off the energy of the other. They will need to find supply. When the survivor finally breaks free through No Contact, then they start to be able to build up their good energy again and find their exuberance and joy in their own life.
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tammi- there is a blog here ‘Do Socioaths return? ‘ I’ll post it in the blog section.
SG
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tammilynn- Hope you are doing O.K. one day at a time.
SG
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tammilynn – The answer to your question, “Do sociopaths return?,” is — it depends. Some sociopaths do just move on without a backward glance. Some beg and plead, and never give up. Some go away for awhile, and then, when you think you are free of them, return. It can be months later, even years later (usually after someone else has thrown them out).
For this reason, it is crucial that YOU decide that you are done with the involvement. YOU must take back your power and commit yourself to never talking to him again. If he calls, hang up immediately. If he sends a text or email, do not respond.
From his point of view — if he was able to use you once, he may be able to use you again.YOU must end it.
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especially on social media (aka Facebook) some sociopaths DO resurface, try to ‘friend’ you..and they may be re-married or not..dont go there. Don’t contact them.
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