Come Valentine’s Day, many unattached people, or people in less-than-fulfilling relationships, may be willing to accept less than they really deserve, just to have a few crumbs of “romance.” Sarah Strudwick writes that perhaps it’s time for a change. Read:
Happy pathological free Valentines Day, on WakingYouUp.wordpress.com.
As usual, Sarah writes a great article. Fortunately, I’ve finally passed the “weepy valentine’s day syndrome” LOL but I can sure remember being there.
Learning to love myself, to be complete in myself has been the answer for me, rather than to depend on someone else to provide me “happiness.”
Thanks for posting this link, Donna.
Dear Donna,
Dupey posted this earlier and I’m so glad you put it here in the main forum for all to read! There I was tonight in the supermarket watching people gathered round the Valentines day cards, buying flowers…..mainly men it has to be said. Bless them. I felt a pang of loss, of love lost, of loneliness I suppose. Even though when last year it was me who ensured we had a romantic evening ….paid for and organised by yours truly. As always. This article is a great, timely reminder. A good old fashioned kick up the butt as you guys would say. Love is love. It is true and honest, respectful and kind and warm. And most of all …..reciprocated. No more one sided loving for me.
Strongawoman, Yea I noticed the tons of red cardboard boxes of chocolates and cards on the end caps of the store shelves….good old commercialism for sure.
You guys are looking at it all wrong – I get excited when I see all those yummy chocolates displayed because I know the day AFTER Valentine’s Day they are 50% OFF and I can afford them.
Oxy – you will appreciate this – (true story) One year hubby gave me a big, red manure spreader for Valentine’s Day.
Milo, Yea, a man after my own heart! You have a jewel there MiLo, appreciate him if you can keep from killing him! LOL That’s too cool.
How is your syrup boiling coming along? We are having our annual SNOW TIRE AND DAFFODIL FESTIVAL when the daffies bloom we get a nasty ice/snow storm….almost always BUT HOPEFULLY THAT WILL BE THE LAST! This year we really haven’t even had a winter.
Oxy ~ “if you can keep from killing him” Oh, yea baby. We just got done with the yearly vacation planning, what days he will take off, when we will go, etc. He works mids now as a 911 dispatcher. They use military time and when on mids your day off is not really your day off. Then there is vacation days vs. holidays vs. personal days vs. comp time. By the time we get done, I’ve got that iron frying pan out and have it aimed. Then there is the fact that he PROMISED Grand that if we drove (cross country almost) we would be taking the DOG – the large, drooling BOXER dog. And now, he is blaming me for what will be a very enjoyable experience…….. Ahhh 42 years of wedded bliss. LOL I know how lucky I am, just don’t like to tell him.
We have over 100 gallons of syrup, but we were hit with really cold weather and about 8 inches of snow. The taps are froze and the sap isn’t running right now. We are expecting it to be a record year. We haven’t really had a winter yet either, thank you – thank you – thank you. I can do without very nicely.
Take care
MiLo,
driving cross country with a hyperactive drooling boxer dog is my idea of HELL ON EARTH!!!! Oh, yea, keep from killing him!!!!
Yea, I worked nights, 11-7, and also 7-p to 7 A and I know about how your day off isn’t your day off and all that carp….ugh!
Well, have fun on your vacation. Seemed funny to me to not go to Texas this year in January to stay with my BF…have done it for years, but Son D is going to Texas for a living history event in March…I am staying home to mind the store while he is gone. I’d like to go too but too many dogs, pigs, and ducks as well as the parrot to get someone else to mind them. That’s okay, though, I really do want him to go and have a good time. He’ll be going with our friend and his drama queen wife…the friend couldn’t go without my son D and I’m not sure how many more events he will be able to make (at all) and it will give D some time to spend with other good friends and people we don’t see often. I’ll find some other entertainment to go to or something to do later on my own.
I fixed pancakes for supper with fake maple syrup and they sure were good on a snowy evening….I’m like you though, no need for cold weather. I can’t imagine living like EB does in the mountains with FEET of snow every winter.
MiLO, A RED manure spreader? IH? Ours was green, Deere.
Back when my spath x!husband started giving me cruel gifts with insulting meanings, I stepped up and gave myself presents, had flowers delivered, had custom select chocolates from our local candy store (really great chocolate.) and started mailing myself encouraging and loving cards. You might think to do so was whacked but I surprised myself b/c even though it came from ME, I ended up feeling cherished by the gesture and happy all day long. WHO KNEW!
Outside of the silly ads on the radio, I’ve all but forgotten about Valentines Day. And I work tomorrow anyway. I cannot remember the last time I celebrated it with anyone special. But if I ever do have someone special, I’m sure a flip will switch, and I’ll be sentimental about it again. And no problem, if the guy doesn’t give me a gift, I’ll just kill him. (kidding – I’m in a dark mood today).
Katy ~ Yep, IH – Actually, I really appreciated the gift and the thought behind it. It sure did beat the wheel barrow and PTO driven at that.
Like your idea of sending yourself the gifts. You deserved to be treated special and thank goodness you realized that. I don’t think it is whacky at all. My dear aunt would buy herself REALLY expensive diamond rings when her husband forgot holidays. He didn’t forget many after that.