Donna Anderson’s important latest post reminds me that one topic which will never be worn out is that of the psychopath’s lies and their impact on others.
This week I want to very briefly introduce yet another take on this inexhaustible topic. Everyone lies, but there’s something else at stake in the case of the psychopath’s lies.
To illustrate: you might say about any regular (non-psychopathic) person, “Things would be better if s/he was to lie less often. Her/his soul or psyche would be healthier as would her relationships.” That’s true. Now try this on for size and notice how wrong it seems: “Things would be better if the psychopath was to lie less often. His soul or psyche would be healthier as would his relationships.”
Weirdly, this is patently not the case. The psychopath will be just as sick/evil no matter how many or how few lies he tells. It’s not a quantitative but a qualitative matter.
It is commonly said that a defining characteristic of psychopaths is that they are pathological liars. This is right if you mean that they are profoundly dishonest and not to be trusted. It does not mean, though, that psychopaths lie a lot. They do lie a lot and those lies cause havoc. But as I hope my illustration above shows, lying less will not make them better people.
So, how does this work? The thing about psychopaths is that even their truths are lies! Or rather, whether or not they happen to be telling the truth or a lie at any particular moment is not what makes them psychopathic. What makes them psychopathic is that they use and destroy people; truth or lies are for them just so many weapons for pursuing their prey.
M.L. Gallagher said a lot when she wrote this:
He is the lie….
From hello to good-bye. I love you to I hate you. You’re beautiful to you’re ugly.
It was all a lie….When friends or my family ask, but what about this, or what about that, I tell them. It was all a lie. There was no truth in him.
If I spend my time trying to figure out fact from fiction, all I am doing is trying to prove I wasn’t so stupid. See, this was true. That’s why I fell in love with him.
Truth is. I fell in love with him because I believed his lie.
When I discovered the truth, I was so enmeshed in his lie, I couldn’t find the truth in me. And so I sank.
Skylar LOL!
I’m perfectly. I think he hoped i had died!
I’ve tortured him so much! I’m not joking, i’ve back-tortured him not little. I never had much patience…but i’m working on it.
Here is the eathquake in which he thought i had died. 😀
http://es-us.noticias.yahoo.com/video/world-15749633/deadly-earthquake-rocks-spain-25197727.html#crsl=%252Fvideo%252Fyahoonewsvideo-15749570%252Fdeadly-earthquake-rocks-spain-25197727.html
Eva and Sky – one of the favoutire descriptors of the spath is: lying sack of crap. She was christened thus by the woman she duped who is sueing her, and adopted by me in the string of invective: lying sack of crap evil *c*.
(Coño es la palabra para usted Eva que iguale la *c*. Pardon por favor mi mal español, Eva)
One joy! You joker! Lying sack of crap is perfect. This is the next compliment he’s going to receive if he dares to write again.
Coño! with exclamation is equivalent to fuck! to blasphemy.
Tu español es bastante aceptable, one joy. Just pardon is French, perdón español.
Eva said, “As i’ve learnt a new word: turd. I’ve answered “Turd! How it is to be a psychopath? I am very curious”
ROFLOL… That one I must remember!! I’d be tempted to call him Mr Creep, but turd fits so well with the infantile stuff.
I totally get you, adamsrib… hmmm, don’t wanna go to memory lane… aaagh, did it anyway… we used to tickle each other, and have hours of laughs. People thought we were the cutest couple in town… but it was all one big lie!
darwinsmom 😀 The learning of a foreign language never ends! Needs constant training… And he’s so good for practising offensive vocabulary.
I’m going to sleep while the psycho won’t do it very well since he already knows i’m alive and i’ve learnt a new word.
Entonces, puedo practicar mi espanol contigo 🙂 Buenos noches
Eva, que bueno que te aprendi una nueva palabra TURD por los spaths. Mierda, plasta, serote, qual qiere. Eso tipos son los mismos!! HaHaHa…
translation: Eva how wonderful you learned a new word for the spath TURD. Shit, pile, deuce, log, all of those guys are the same!
Ok now I am being juvenile. Sorry guys….it helps to laugh…it really does…:)
Darwinsmom too bad we don’t live closer we could throw a Thelma and Louise 😉
I saw Josh Groban in concert tonight live for the first time and it was INSANE! This pianist called ELEW opened for him and he was INCREDIBLE! Josh is the only man who can make me cry and give me goosebumps at the same time. When he sings in Spanish I just about melt into a puddle on the floor-it’s like looking into my neighbors eyes-w/o the spathiness. I could listen to him all night long-and that voice makes me want to do other things all night long too #naughty. When he sang Broken Vow though, it brought up pain from ex boyfriend and I cried my head off-after 2 years when I’m walking around saying I’m all over that.
How comes so many of you speak Spanish!!??
Adamsrib Qué bueno que aprendà una nueva palabra para el psicópata: zurullo. Zurullo, mierdón, cagallón describen moralmente muy bien al psicópata.
Darwinsmom, thanks. Buenas noches. La noche wears “femenine” article, so if accompanied by an adjective this goes in femenine too: buena/s noche/s. Not all femenine words end in -a, sometimes the article tells the gender, like for example el agua, the water. It ends in -a but agua is “masculin”, in general, because for stilistic reasons Las aguas is posible, femenine but in plural to mean lot of water.
Your turd talking reminded me of when kids and I were visiting my brother.
We were working in the yard and Jr disappeared…..I asked brother where Jr went.
He said…..”He went inside to drop the kids off at the pool”.
I said “WHAT”??????
Brother said……yeah…..he had to take a ‘dump’.
“You’ve never heard that expression?”.
I said….Uh, nooooooooo.
I guess we’ve all dropped a spath or two off at the pool huh?